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I'm getting an abortion on monday....

beatleshead

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my cousin is. im really concerned of how she will be afterwords and i just need to know what to do with her afterwards....i was gonna bring her back to my house and let her rest and then take her home later...mind you were doing this in secrecy...what do u guys think? Do people generally come out well after having one?
 
It totally depends on the person, and on the circumstances. I know of a couple women who have had them. Two are totally and completely fine. The third is still guilt-ridden about it all.

All you can do is what you're doing. Be there for her. Make yourself available in case she wants to talk, but most of your talk will simply be sympathetic small talk. Otherwise, just offer her your presence and generic support. That'll mean more than anything.

Lex
 
I think it's a horrible idea. Even adoption would be better. It just seems wrong no matter how you look at it.
 
arabbb said:
I think it's a horrible idea. Even adoption would be better. It just seems wrong no matter how you look at it.
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I need you to do something for me. Take a crackhead mom who only wanted to spend time with you when she got out of JAIL (mind you who was never around) until you fell into a bit of money. and then when you dont give her money she goes away again. then i want you to grow up in a terrible neighborhood with nothing to do but fuck, shoot sumbody, and eat pickles with koolaid. then after that go find you a evil grandmother and live with her and get mentally abused every single hour of the day and tend to her every ridiculous need in a small little house with your brother that practically is your child cos you do everything for him. Then get yourself a dad who is a pimp and complains that he has to buy you school clothes and FOOD. and deal with depression and try to kill your self every odd year.

Then, amidst all that, i want you to pass a watermelon through your vagina. then comeback to me and I will say, "I think it's a horrible idea. Even adoption would be better. It just seems wrong no matter how you look at it."

Then tell me what you think of what i said to you. please take your time to respond..|
 
Everyone deserves a chance at life.
 
gentlemen, I'll remind you this is a no flame zone.

From a medical perspective, she'll be fine most likely. From a psychological one, she's going to need a lot of support from you.
 
jockboy01 said:
gentlemen, I'll remind you this is a no flame zone.

From a medical perspective, she'll be fine most likely. From a psychological one, she's going to need a lot of support from you.
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Yeah Ive started the psychological support....I told her that the day i take her she must be absolutely sure and i made it clear that its just not suck and go....i made it clear that she will deal with this the rest of her life and i also told her she should go ahead with therapy (it was suggested by her doctor a week before.) if she doesnt carefully think about these things, at the very least ive got her thinking. but ill make sure shes alright.
 
Don't go to the links posted above if you can't handle things that are most likely gruesome and extremely biased.

It is her right to do it, you're doing the right thing by being there for her.

Shame on you for trying to guilt people.
 
first of all...shes only a three and a half weeks.... im pretty sure their wont be a screaming baby...

secondly we've learned and seen all those pictures...and im pretty sure were well educated...

Weve also been talking about this since she learned when she was a week and half...about all of it, the ramifications, the psychological burdens she'll have to deal with, (the birth control im forcing her to go get) everything under the sun....

So im pretty confident when i say that shes not going to get an abortion like someone picks a lollipop out of a candy store. Were not gonna go shopping afterwords or go smoke some weed or something...SHE knows that this is a serious thing. In fact i would dare to say this is a life changing thing that will probably get herself onto the right track. its a decision shes made...im just the driver.
 
You know I debated whether to EVEN post here. My judgment is apparently failing me...

First of all, it is HER body, she has every right to do with as she sees fit. It just makes me laugh a little inside when I see other MEN trying to dictate what a woman should and should not do with their own person.

My best friend had one, she had to. She was far too young and her relationship was far too new for either of them to handle it. My partner and I were the ones to take her to the clinic. She came through fine physically and later as she reflected on her decision, emotionally too. I was there for her every step of the way.

Irregardless of what ever my personal belief is/was, I was there for her. I have no right to tell her how to live or conduct her life or how/what to do with her body. I was just there for her. She now has 3 beautiful girls and she doesn't regret her decision. She knew what was best for her and any offspring she brought into this world.

To beatleshead, you are doing fine. Just be there for her. I am sure with your care and support any obstacles she MAY face, she will get through.
 
first and foremost, you are a beautiful guy for all that you are doing to help your cousin... many girls go through this alone but i am glad to hear that she has you that she turned to.
too...its a little hard to predict how she will feel afterwards but you sound like an awesome guy and i think you will be a fantastic postoperative Nurse.
She may have a little discomfort but hopefully the clinic/hospital will give you some post op instructions and some pain relief.
I hope everything goes well for your cousin, sounds like with your love and support she will be!!!..
take care mate and thanks or sharing with us ... it can be a difficult time for you too and glad you are talking about it with us....
 
I would like to respectfully remind everyone that this is about the health & well-being of beatleshead's cousin. Opinions on the rights and wrongs of abortion have neither been requested nor needed - but you are welcome to start a topic on such in either the Political forum or in Hot Topics. ..|
 
jav1231 said:
Why? It's not a political issue. Well it is, but not exclusively. In actuality it's a health issue that has been politicized. Therefore pushing to CE&P is further politicizing it.
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Actually, it's both a political and a medical issue. And this is the medical forum, and it's a no-flame zone.

So, let me amplify what Quasar posted and direct everyone to please keep your comments on-topic and respectful.
 
How is your cousin doing?

Also, I have no problem with people who are anti-abortion, but I don't like people linking inhumane methods done in the '50s or that are no longer practiced, at least, in the US.
 
forgot to post...yeah shes fine. She brought a friend, which was a HUGE relief because it was ackward her being a woman and i being a man. so her friend was a big help, and she was really nice too. it was funny cos it was taking a while and me and her friend were both worried but we were like total strangers too each other. but yeah and it went well. I didnt take her to my house cos her grandma was gonna be gone all day so i walked her in the house and made sure she as alright. They gave her a HUGE box of condoms and i told her to tape a couple under her titty because this is the last fucking time she will be getting an abortion...ILL MAKE SURE OF IT!!lol also they gave her the pill which i told her we werent leaving until she got em. so yeah. she was a bit frazzled psychologically but i have a feeling shell be alright and also shes gonna start being more responcible, cos she was not comfortable at all.

p.s. there were protesters and i thought about you m1thousand :p
 
m1thousand said:
So thats what my feelings about is all about.

I found out today that my 16 yr neice is on birth control. I think my sister is making a big mistake
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I can understand where your coming from...all of us have are convictions...but you, a gay man should know that things arent exactly as simple as they seem...yes abortions are gruesome...but thiers more points to the circle, which im sure you would agree...when i went into the place i was expecting teenagers with clothes on that cost more than thier rent who were just coming in to suck thier baby out for the fourteenth time so they can go out to a party and fuck some more (i grew up christian and this was what i was taught, as well as gay people are not real). But when i went in thier i saw that most of them were poor, had just taken the bus, had kids already, probably had to go work three jobs just to keep the family they had afloat...and none of them were happy. all of their faces were downtrodden, sad. like they were all stuck in this position where they cant move. actually i was a bit glad i went just to experience it all.

P.S. That does sound like a terrible idea with your neice...she must be already active if they suggested pills right? do 16 year olds even think about that stuff yet?
 
Thanks for the update. I was wondering how it went and how you handled it. Your friend might need to follow up with counseling.

I found out today that my 16 yr neice is on birth control. I think my sister is making a big mistake
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If a person can get pregnant, they are old enough for birth control. Someone needs to talk to her about AIDS. Use a condom.
 
-Alias said:
Has anybody noticed that the people who are most vocal antiabortionists tend be ugly men? I do suspect its because they are insecure that if they finally got lucky and got a woman pregnant, she'd abort" their only chance.
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I don't understand why a post like this is okay but posts by "antiabortionists" are flames.

Anyway, I hope your cousin is doing well.
 
I don't understand why a post like this is okay but posts by "antiabortionists" are flames.
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Actually, I'm anti-abortion. I left it b/c I thought the idiocracy of the post spoke for itself. In retrospect, maybe I should have removed it but another mod had reminded people this was no flame right after that so I figured he'd left it too. It's not a direct attack on a member and it is clearly not true imo (I mean, I'm pretty darn cute :)
 
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