It's been the strangest last few years of my life and I'm getting hitched this weekend. I'm excited and extremely nervous. The reason I say this was because this forum was there for me a few years ago when I was in a sexual identity crisis. Fresh out of college and only been with women, I found out it was possible to love another man a few days after my best friend all through middle, high school, and college moved away. It took months for me to admit I was broken without him. When he came home for the holidays we were inseparable and on the last day before he left I finally broke down because a part of me was leaving again. When he broke down too I was too full of emotion and i could feel our bond cemented.
The moment didn't last and I was going through forums like these every day it felt like for some sort of answer. It was hard because there are a lot of closed minds even in the gay world. It took me awhile to admit I was a bisexual man in love with another man. When I was able to tell my best friend he had a hard time with me and himself, because he has grown to hate labels. I flew out to visit eventually and our relationship became awkwardly physical, with plenty of laughable missteps but it was fulfilling. Only a month later I was moved in. That summer we attended my first family function as a couple. He had always been a part of my family, but as my brother, not my lover, so it seemed wrong on a few levels to the family. It was hard to address but we were never spurned.
After almost two years of being a monogamous couple and a lifetime of friendship, he popped the question and here I am getting ready to get married to my best friend in the world. I know if I would have read something like this long ago it would have helped, so I hope it helps someone in the future. All I know is it doesn't matter who you are, you just love who you love and it may have taken time and a whole lot of hell, but it all worked out. So thanks.
The moment didn't last and I was going through forums like these every day it felt like for some sort of answer. It was hard because there are a lot of closed minds even in the gay world. It took me awhile to admit I was a bisexual man in love with another man. When I was able to tell my best friend he had a hard time with me and himself, because he has grown to hate labels. I flew out to visit eventually and our relationship became awkwardly physical, with plenty of laughable missteps but it was fulfilling. Only a month later I was moved in. That summer we attended my first family function as a couple. He had always been a part of my family, but as my brother, not my lover, so it seemed wrong on a few levels to the family. It was hard to address but we were never spurned.
After almost two years of being a monogamous couple and a lifetime of friendship, he popped the question and here I am getting ready to get married to my best friend in the world. I know if I would have read something like this long ago it would have helped, so I hope it helps someone in the future. All I know is it doesn't matter who you are, you just love who you love and it may have taken time and a whole lot of hell, but it all worked out. So thanks.
