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I'm going on a date

goodtimes12128

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So I went out to the clubs in the gay district of my town with some friends for ladies night. I didn't really meet anyone or expect to, then I ended up talking to a cute, nice guy at the end of the night. He gave me his number, so I called him the next day to see if he wanted to get coffee or something, to which he said yes. To be honest I don't really know much about him or anything, but I figured what the hell I don't really have anything to lose. The least I could gain is a new friend.

So what I was wondering was, how do I do any sort of greeting/goodbyes on this date? Handshake hello? If this was a girl, I would pay for her coffee, give her a hug goodbye, maybe a kiss on the cheek etc. and practice basic chivalry. But it's different for guys...right? Like, at the end of our coffee talk, do I walk him to his car, if it goes well kiss on the cheek? I feel like theres a different approach, cause we're both guys. Do any of you have an opinion on kissing on a first 'date?'

I hope I don't come off as shallow or naive in my post, I actually was afraid to post something because I've seen other peoples posts get torn apart for that sort of stuff. I really like jub and think theres a lot of super nice people here :wave:
 
I find the best advice that I can give is feel things out. If you feel the "urge" to kiss him don't hesitate, do it (your "urges"/"instincts" are there for a reason)! As for buying drinks and chivalry, it doesn't hurt it's not like opening the door or buying his drink will offend him, Good luck and tell us how it went.
 
Watch his body language. Gauge the response to the situation.

Do not be afraid to ask him out to a show or something within a few days if you really think you're clicking. Don't leave it to the 'we should get together again' Some event with dinner after is almost always perfect.....and if it moves along really fast, don't be afraid to fuck him right there on the table.
 
>>>don't be afraid to fuck him right there on the table.

So bring condoms.

Lex
 
I have a different mindset when it comes to "dates." I just see it as "hanging out" with a new friend. Maybe it's just the laid-back casual approach I have to the whole thing. When I was in my first relationship, I never dated anybody. So coming out of it as a young man now, I don't have these preconceptions of a candle-light dinner and kindling romance.

For me, if I have a good time I want to see you again soon. And you just do the same thing over again (different activities, movies or shopping or going somewhere cool). As for the next step, it tends to just happen. The guy I'd be with usually hints he wants to hold your hand or rub up against you. It's very easy, don't worry about it.

In other words. Just see it as hanging out. A friend getting together with a friend. Throwing so many expectations on it with the label of dating only makes you nervous and insecure.
 
Hey everyone, sorry I haven't replied until now, but I went on my 'date' or get to know you sesh or whatever you want to call it earlier today. I'm going to try and give as many details as I can but I don't want to give away too much, who knows if he reads this site (I REALLY doubt it).

Basically, we met at some cafe (I had never been to but it was so nice and homey) and talked for about an hour. This guy talked about himself for the entire hour, never really asked me any questions about myself, and anytime I talked a little about my life he never had any follow up questions or anything to respond. The conversation wasn't awkward at all, I mean I like kept things going and asked him a about his life because he sure wasn't about to ask me anything about mine. This probably sounds worse than it was, but it was a nice meeting.

The thing is, I got the feeling that he liked me. Like, his job is at the club full time, he lives in the gay district, and his life is basically the club scene and being around all these gay guys. And I'm down to go out to the club and dance and those people are fun, but my life is a lot more than that. I like to read books, explore the rest of our city, I go to school, I like music that is played in the clubs and NOT played in the clubs. It was almost as if I was so outside of his world, that he was really intrigued by me or something. He, on the other hand, doesn't read, didn't go to college, etc.

I dunno. Its like, I'm really glad I got up the courage to go out somewhere with someone I didn't know for coffee and hope for the best. I suppose I made a new friend in the least. He said he wants to hang out again and get coffee or food or something, so I told him to call me. I'm not planning on calling him I dont think, but if he calls me I would be happy to hang out again. sorry If I wrote a super long response!! I can clarify more if needed lol sorry to keep you all waiting
 
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