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I'm gonna do it!

digdug1

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This friday night when I go to work, I'm going to tell my friend that I'm gay. Wait theres more I'm also very attracted to him too. I just hope that he is man enough to handle, it so that we can still be friends, or if not more.
 
Well congratulations to you and best of luck

Be careful with how you handle your attraction to him. He will most likely have no problem with you coming out to him but might be taken aback if you confide your attraction as well

Please let us know how it goes
 
I know that he will not have a problem with me being gay, one of his best friends is. Yeah I'm just worried that about our friendship and how this information is going to change it.
 
If he's a real friend it will change everything.

It'll make your friendship deeper than what you can imagine :)

Best of luck and keep us posted :)
 
No, his a really good friend, he has told me that he loves me, and I have told him the same, but he doesn't know that I'm in love with him. Infact I am texting him at the same time that I'm online.
 
digdug1, wish you the best mate! Love and friendship is a great combination.
 
dd1,

Best of luck! It is good to be truthful to a friend. And, if he is the friend you say, great to have a friend that good.

I too would be slow on sharing the fact that you may be "in love" with him. I don't doubt that he will accept you and continue to be a friend and even be a better friend as you are sharing with him some of your life.

But give him time to absorb the fact that you are gay. He might want to take your friendship in new directions - possibly the same directions you want to go in. But always value his friendship.

Again - best of luck; congratulations and do celebrate your life!

Rand
 
You might wanna not include both the "I'm gay" and "I think about you while alone in the dark" in the same conversation.

Past that... and this is for everyone reading this who's on the fence about coming out to a friend... it's seldom the big deal to them that it is to us. To most of our friends, it's like telling them that you're hypoglycemic. It's something that needs to be remembered and something that makes you unique but not really worth much of a second thought.
 
Hey Digdug,

Well mate, its sounds like you've got a lot of courage and strength - congrats on both and your desire to be truly open and honest with a guy you obviously care deeply about. It takes a pretty big guy to fess up like your about too - its something to be proud of!

As to his reaction about the extent of your feelings for him... well, only you can make an educated guess as to how he'll take it. They way you tell him will be incredibly important so I'm glad it looks like you didn't just decide to do this on the spur of the moment. Take your time and expain yourself fully...

Friendships are incredible things digdug. I hope you're right. I hope your friend is the man you think he is too, because your act of honesty and trust deserves nothing but a great response.

Good luck to you mate!!!!!
 
Good luck, digdug1.

I wish that I had the courage to be that honest to those I work with, but I don't want the possible hassle from others that may be less than tolerant. My family knows, and some of my friends know, but where I work, no one has a clue. I want to tell them, but I just don't need any more problems right now.
 
You might wanna not include both the "I'm gay" and "I think about you while alone in the dark" in the same conversation.
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Yeah, not a good idea to put both out there at once. I'd keep the crush to yourself at least until you both get used to the coming out thing. It's one thing to tell him you're gay, it's another to tell a friend you have a crush on them. Gay or straight, it's a lot for a friend to handle, and if they're not into it, it could make things difficult. Make sure a relationship between you two is even a potential option before you tell him you like him.
 
benlemieux2003 said:
If he's a real friend it will change everything.

It'll make your friendship deeper than what you can imagine :)

Best of luck and keep us posted :)
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You're right Ben. When I told my friend at the time, it did change everything for the best.
 
digdug1 said:
Yeah, I know I will give him all the time that needs to handle these two huge bombs that I'm going to drop on him.
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Why do you need to tell him you're attracted to him at all?

I mean, I get it that you want to tell him you're gay, but why make things uncomfortable when it's not necessary?
 
I've never told anyone super close to me, that i'm gay so I don't really have any advice!!! But good luck!! I'm sure he'll be fine and dandy with it...you said he already has a gay friend so i'm not nervous at all for you!! That'd be sweet if you guys start dating....do you think there's a chance he might be gay?
 
Things didn't go as planed. I went to work a little early to tell him, but as I was pulling in the drive way, I saw him pulling out of it, I just missed him. I he works late today, so I am going to go to work way early to him. to answer soilwork's question why do I feel the need to him. I feel compelled to, I have to get it off of my chest, and apart of me thinks that he might like me the same way, but It could be also wishfull thinking on my part. I just have to it, or I'll regret it.
 
>>>Why do you need to tell him you're attracted to him at all?

I thought you worked in the porn industry.

Lex
 
Today was the 1st day in a long time that we sent together. I was going to tell him how I felt about him, but I totally chickened out. I feel like such a fool. I believe that he knows how I feel about him so it should be easier to tell right? #-o
 
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