Im in love with a 46 year old man - im 21

[Telstra]

Hello everyone, its been a while since i posted here but i just wanted to share my story and get some advice, opinions or anything!
So im 21 years old in the closet bisexual from Toronto, just got out of a 6 year relationship with a woman. I met this man online, we talk online alot and we even met up one night. Lets call this man Dave. Dave is a gay man from Toronto but he works and lives in Germany and he travels to Toronto every now and then. During the last few weeks i felt like we really connected, he is a nicest guy and the only one to make me feel comfortable in being myself. He basically shows me the ropes about the gay scene, like hes my mentor. He knows how i feel about him but i dont think he feels the same way. He says i should be with someone my own age. But deep down inside i know he likes me the way that i like him. I think hes holding back because of our age difference.

Today we were talking online and i got all emotional and told him i needed to take a break from him because the more i talk to him the more i get attached. And we both know this relationship will never work because 1. Hes too old 2. He lives too far. But i still have strong feelings for him.


Hes actually flying in to Toronto this weekend for a couple weeks. I reallly cant wait to see him but i think im going to feel uncomfortable being around him. He wants to spend nights with me but doing that will get me more attached to him.

What do you guys think?
What should i do?

If you attracted to him (physically) and its not about money, whats the problem with the age different.

 

[Telstra]

i dont know exactly how he feels about me because he hasn't directly said it to me.
but i just feel an attraction...it may just be me.
how would i go abouts approaching him?
my biggest fear is rejection...i cannot handle it

you have to learn how to accept rejection.

 

[Majestick82]

he was my first boy cruush!
i dont even like people my age wtf!

I know how you feel, im gay but im not attracted at all to young men, i myself have been together with a 54 year old man for 3 years, and we've lived together for over 2, so aslong you yourself isn't bothered by the age difference of men you're attracted to then i don't see the problem if he's older or not, just be true to yourself,
and sorry it didn't work out with this one but it will come others.

And to Luca, ppl are attracted to different things like Puff said, and you have the right to your opinion, but think before you write next time, maybe you have some special fetish that is completly normal to you, but alot of other ppl find gross or discusting, and just the fact you're gay/bi should say enough imo, since you know yourself it's alot of ppl that thinks thats unormal/gross whatever.

So like i said you have the right to your opinion, but sometimes it's better to keep it to yourself then to make insecure ppl even more insecure, by calling them gross and whatnot, just because they don't share the same attraction to ppl as you do.

just my 2 cents, and good luck to you CountryBiy86.

 

[thewiz]

Glad you had a good time...I have always found Toronto to be soooo much fun! You have some great places there and I shall again be checking a few of them when I'm there on business in about 10 days!

Rejection is not something that is easy to get used to but it unfortunately is something we all deal with some time.