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Im In Love With My Straight Best Friend!!!!!!

It means precisely what you want it to mean. You can read tea leaves for the next week, month, year, decade if you'd like.

Lex
 
latest chapeter in this story: he was over last night and he was upset...i asked him wats wrong, he said everything...aww my poor baby, any way i asked him if he wanted to talk he said no then i leaned in to hug him and he gave me the best hug ever for like a minute we hugged i hugged a lil tighter and he hugged back...i got a lil boner, it was the best/worst night ever...prob dosent mean he loves me like i do him, but it was nice
 
Ibid.

If this is going to be one of those multi-page, "guess what happened last night", "just when I thought there was no hope...", soap-opera threads, I'll just bow out now.

Lex
 
You dont want to mess up anything with ur friend, i like (bordering of love) one of my friends, but i know that it take one stuipid hint to spoil a good healthy friendship :)
 
bw92116 said:
Fall out of love with him and do it soon, or it will just be years of endless heartbreak. It's easier to fall out of love with them if you separate yourself from them for a time - completely.

No matter what happens, the day will come when you say to yourself, "Egad, what was I thinking? What did I ever see in him?" The sooner you arrive at that day, the healthier it is for you.
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Awesome advice.

To the original poster: I know I'm contradicting myself, but if you do really want him you can cuddle up again and while you're "asleep" you can put your hands on his body. See where it goes.

I don't think it needs to be as dramatic as you confessing your love or your homosexuality.

But the advice to fall out of love pronto is probably the most sensible. Then again, whoever said love was sensible.
 
I forgot to add this: confessing your love or confessing your homosexuality is too much of a bombshell for a curious straight man. they most likely will not be able to handle that bombshell and out of protection for themselves or fear, they will retreat.

However, as I said, there is still the possibility that you can fool around with him. After all, he clearly was fooling around with YOU when he was rubbing your back. (You don't honestly believe his bullshit line about dreaming you were a girl?)

You know WHY he gave that bullshit line to you? Because you put him in a corner when you discussed it. He had no choice. He was protecting himself. As I said, he will protect himself when you give him no choice by backing him into a corner and confessing your love or your homosexuality.

Don't back him into a corner. Just wrestle with him and let things escalate. Or watch porn together.

Since he already rubbed your back, next time let him catch you rubbing his back. If he says anything, say "Shit, I was dreaming you were a girl."

As you're rubbing him let the hands move farther down or in. If he's really into the back rub, ask him, "Can you keep a secret?"

He'll say Yes.

You say: "This is just between me and you." Then reach for his cock.

If he runs, just say, Sorry dude, I don't know what came over me. Curiosity just got to me, bud. No hard feelings?
 
Sooo...telling a friend you're gay would be too much of a bombshell, but asking him to keep a secret and playing with his cock wouldn't be?

Maybe I live in a different world from all y'all.

Lex
 
Two cents:

- Come out and declare your love (at the same time) to your best (straight?) friend is a bad idea. One thing at a time. The first thing to do is come out when you are ready and not because you are apparently in love with your best friend.

- Unilateral attempts to seduce your best friend (alcohol, fondling) are not a good idea either IMHO. Your friend might be straight, curious or deep in the closet (and not willing to come out to you...)

- Falling in love with your best friend is particularly common among guys in the closet. We tend to confuse romantic love with intimacy among good friends. Straight guys give hugs too (even social kisses in some cultures)

- This thread ("Undying love for my best friend") is a lesson on things to learn and avoid when dealing with "feelings of love" for your best friend. It's a looooong thread that shows how some Jubbers were able to anticipate some of the problems of this scenario, while others encouraged a relationship with no clear basis.

http://www.justusboys.com/forum/showthread.php?t=80637

Best of luck.
 
G-Lexington said:
Sooo...telling a friend you're gay would be too much of a bombshell, but asking him to keep a secret and playing with his cock wouldn't be?

Maybe I live in a different world from all y'all.

Lex
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Telling him you're gay and IN LOVE WITH HIM is way, way too much of a bombshell. If the guy is straight with curious tendencies, those tendencies are not going to be explored by being direct.

If he's already responding well to physical touch (as in the case where he was initiating a back rub and pretending he was dreaming about a girl), then, yes, playing with his cock not only would not be a bombshell dropped upon him, it would be a natural progression of the physical expressions they have been sharing.
 
G-Lexington said:
Sooo...telling a friend you're gay would be too much of a bombshell, but asking him to keep a secret and playing with his cock wouldn't be?

Maybe I live in a different world from all y'all.

Lex
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Telling him you're gay and IN LOVE WITH HIM is way, way too much of a bombshell. If the guy is straight with curious tendencies, those tendencies are not going to be explored by being direct.

If he's already responding well to physical touch (as in the case where he was initiating a back rub and pretending he was dreaming about a girl), then, yes, playing with his cock not only would not be a bombshell dropped upon him, it would be a natural progression of the physical expressions they have been sharing.

I asked a straight friend if he would like a massage. That's pretty direct, a mini bombshell. He said NO.

Yet, months later I was sucking his cock.

Don't be too direct and drop a bombshell. Move slowly so there's an escape hatch for both parties. If the signals are there, FULL SPEED AHEAD.

And yes, that means GRABBING HIS COCK at the right time.

Or else you'll be grabbing YOUR cock and pounding it for years wondering what if.
 
Well said, however....


As a bi guy whose been with many partners of both genders I want to inform everyone to be careful in these kinds of situations. Trying to ,"convert," a straight male into homosexual acts is harder than you think. Twink magic doesn't exist so assuming that he is actually interested in pursuing a relationship with this guy, it would be wise to slow it way the fuck down.

The best piece of ass is the one you actually get.

Now, if this guy is confused leave the gay shit out of it for now. Confused straight men never give you the payoff. Or if they do, they become attached way too quickly and you'll find yourself wanting to ditch the new boyfriend faster than you came together. Straight men have difficulty confirming their wants with females, and porting that to a friendship is even harder. Combining that with an explosive and volatile new exploration of foreign sexual activity with a member of the same gender is fucking dynamite. And not in a good way.


Slow it down, let that guy figure YOU out. Show good intentions, loyalty, and faithfulness as a friend. Most of these traits he will assume will automatically be incorporated into a relationship - if one should occur.
 
>>>And yes, that means GRABBING HIS COCK at the right time. Or else you'll be grabbing YOUR cock and pounding it for years wondering what if.

Or spending time with another gay guy who actually wants your attention, is willing to recipricate, and doesn't mind who knows it. But hey, we all want different things. :)

Lex
 
Xavier_Holland said:
Slow it down, let that guy figure YOU out.
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Awesome, yes!!!!

I wish I had done that when this son of a bitch bastard manipulated me for years at work.

I think Lex's advice is very healthy.

It's best to run from these alleged straight guys. If they really, really want it then let them make the move, let them figure YOU out as Xavier has said.

I don't envy anybody in the situation. But if you really, really want some cock activity with one of these guys, it's possible--but not always probable. you gotta go slow, and i wouldn't mention homosexuality.

just wrestle with him and go for it. (but i do agree that it's not the healthiest of environments. it IS BEST to steer from these guys.)
 
^ Okay, that's good. He knows you like guys now so if he feels the same way he'll let you know. But the ball is in his court now. Leave it alone and pursue other things in life.
 
He now knows you're a possibility if he wants to go that route. Until then, go find someone who actually DOES want to play with you, without the teeth-pulling.

Lex
 
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