I'm kinda out of the closet now. Not that anyone really cares, but...

[LonelyFace]

Ok, so I may have already mentioned this in my first post or on my profile or something, but I just kinda wanted to throw it out here just because, so sorry if that's bad or if it makes me seem pretentious or something.

So yeah, I kinda came out of the closet a few days ago. I came out to my mom first and it was weird. She was convinced that I was gayer than Bruno for a couple years and she tried to force me out of the closet for a long time and then last week I just randomly told her. I don't even remember why. And yeah, it was kinda weird. See, at this point I'm pretty sure I like both (but I'm probably leaning more towards guys right now), but I had to make sure my mom knew I still liked girls, too. It's kind of a funny concept, I think.
I don't think my mom believes in bisexuality, though.

Then I came out to my best friend (girl, but not girlfriend. I missed my chance with her) and she didn't care any more than my mom did. She was a bit more accepting though.
The 3rd person was another close friend (also a girl) and I don't think she cared, which was nice.

As you can probably tell, I have little to no guy friends, but I'm trying not to drown in all the estrogen, so I'm making an effort to come out of my shell and meet new people (although being a guy, I kinda just want to be around my own kind, you know? Yeah, I'll probably be gay when I'm older, but...). It's not really going so well, though.

I'm not really sure why the hell I'm writing this, but it seemed like that was sort of the thing to do if you're a JUB member, so I figured I'd do it, too. Plus, I just feel like I really need to tell somebody. Thanks in advance for listening/reading.

 

[1091MAC]

It's not pretentious to tell the people on here that you cme out. That is a huge step for most people. But based on what you wrote, it wasn't that big of a shock to some of the people around you. Plus, I think that mother's have that intuition thing going on, so it's hard to fool them.

Congratulations! But there is no rush to "decide" what you are. Just enjoy the people you are with and it will all work out.

 

[Jerry]

Well I've only managed to tell one friend, and he's 1200 miles away from me right now. AND, I told him through text message, so I didn't have to actually say it.

So good on ya for having the balls to tell your Mom and friends.

You be you and things will work out. If people hate you for it then screw them, there's LOTS of people out there.

 

[LonelyFace]

It's not pretentious to tell the people on here that you cme out. That is a huge step for most people. But based on what you wrote, it wasn't that big of a shock to some of the people around you. Plus, I think that mother's have that intuition thing going on, so it's hard to fool them.

Congratulations! But there is no rush to "decide" what you are. Just enjoy the people you are with and it will all work out.

That makes me feel better. But my mom has no intuition. She just has no sense of other people's personal privacy. (I swear she rummages through our trash; that's how she found the guy porn I tried to get rid of)

My other friends simply didn't care, that's all. They didn't know, and one of them was all surprised and said 'oh my god are you...?' all quiet-like, but it was pretty mellow and not really like I expected it to be (TV, why did you lie to me?), which was actually nice...

And I'm sure people would be thrilled for me to go out and say "oooooh look at me I'm gay!" just so they could say, "see? I knew he was a faggot! those rumors we spread about him through middle and high school were actually right all along! Now let's go commit a hate crime!" But I won't because it's not true.

 

[bearfan]

Your mom is a bitch.

 

[Jerry]

Your mom is a ......

You really want to say something like that about the man's Mom?
Kind of a bold comment for someone you've never met before, IMO

 

[CudDULL]

lol at bearfan's post.

Congrats on coming out though because its a lot easier said then done.

 

[LonelyFace]

Your mom is a bitch.

LOL you're funny. I don't even know you and I like you already. Where are you from?

the friend I came out to first thinks my mom is a lot like hillary clinton, so we usually joke about that.
She can be a really overbearing, bitchy, control-freak sometimes, but now that I'm older, she's starting to learn how to be a not-bitch.

 

[LonelyFace]

In other news, I came out to another friend today, and she cared even less than the rest of them. It was kinda funny. I wonder if the next person I tell will be completely ambivalent about it... lol

 

[chillyboi]

it's loads easier today in some isolated cases, but hope all goes well

 

[scooter63]

Hey congratulations on taking the steps to be who you really are inside. I am glad that you are finding the courage to express yourself at a young age so that you can get on with your life and enjoy it. So manty of us, myself included, tried to hide it, tried to overcome it, tried to be something we were not out of shame or something else and we have wasted a good chunk of our lives. We only get to experience life once and we can never go back and re-live it.

In our times and with so many things in our lives now showing, telling, and explaining the GLBT life to people they are not as shocked any more and people are realizing that we are all alike on the outside and now on the inside as well. We still have feelings, we still have a brain, we can still think, we can still contribute to make society better, and we still contribute to our communities. And, as more people are finding the courage to come out of their hiding places, many people are finding that they too have members of the GLBT community in their own families who they have loved, shared with, laughed with, and been around them for a long time. They are seeing up close that we are all the same.

I hope that you continue to have good reactions and that your friends, whether they be female or male, just continue to support you and that they continue to be your friend and to include you in everything like they did before they knew. In many cases, I think people really are more aware of us than we think they are. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure things out and what we don't realize is that they still accept us as they are our friends before we publicly told them.

Good luck.

 

[LonelyFace]

Hey congratulations on taking the steps to be who you really are inside. I am glad that you are finding the courage to express yourself at a young age so that you can get on with your life and enjoy it. So manty of us, myself included, tried to hide it, tried to overcome it, tried to be something we were not out of shame or something else and we have wasted a good chunk of our lives. We only get to experience life once and we can never go back and re-live it.

In our times and with so many things in our lives now showing, telling, and explaining the GLBT life to people they are not as shocked any more and people are realizing that we are all alike on the outside and now on the inside as well. We still have feelings, we still have a brain, we can still think, we can still contribute to make society better, and we still contribute to our communities. And, as more people are finding the courage to come out of their hiding places, many people are finding that they too have members of the GLBT community in their own families who they have loved, shared with, laughed with, and been around them for a long time. They are seeing up close that we are all the same.

I hope that you continue to have good reactions and that your friends, whether they be female or male, just continue to support you and that they continue to be your friend and to include you in everything like they did before they knew. In many cases, I think people really are more aware of us than we think they are. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure things out and what we don't realize is that they still accept us as they are our friends before we publicly told them.

Good luck.

Thank you. I'll remember this. Thank you for the support.