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I'm Lonely

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Hi boys,

I'm just wondering how many of you are lonely; and for those who are, how do you handle it.
 
Bradlee said:
Welcome to JUB
We all get lonely sometimes,but it'll pass.;)
There are plenty of people to talk to here.
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Well...That's part of the problem. I have tons of people I email, and IM, and talk to on message boards, but when I log off for the night, or when I'm not online - it's a miserable feeling. I want to have 'real' relationships. I am far too shy to do anything tho'
Any advice?

(BTW, Bradlee - My real name is Bradley :-)
 
The above sounds a lot like me. I just distract myself most of the time since I'm too scared to do anything else.
 
Hey Man..

Prince Charming may have come knocking on the door, but even Cinderella had to go to the odd ball before that.

you're going to have to get over that shyness or ar least try to take a few steps out.. it's going to be a long process, but it WILL be worth it.
 
Soilwork said:
Hey Man..

Prince Charming may have come knocking on the door, but even Cinderella had to go to the odd ball before that.

you're going to have to get over that shyness or ar least try to take a few steps out.. it's going to be a long process, but it WILL be worth it.
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Ok then, where do I go? I'm not in WeHo like you. I'm in the IE (Inland Empire, for those of you not in Cal.) - it's totally different here.
 
I'm lonely, but I've grown use to the feeling, I've accepted it, and it no longer hits me hard like it use to several years ago.
 
I'm lonely too and I have to agree with BrandonSBCA. You eventually get use to it. Just find activities to occupy yourself with like Reading or joining a club or playing video games or talking to ppl on Jub here. Wish there was more I could do or say but it's a fact of life. Not everybody gets a happy ending I guess!
 
screwnutty said:
Not everybody gets a happy ending I guess!
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Well this fuckin sucks. Maybe I should now focus all of my energy on work.
I honestly thought that when I moved from Utah to California my life would be so much better; I was wrong. At least in Utah I had a guy who loved me. I'm 22 and feel like I just can't be alone any longer. 4 years no b/f - no random hookups, nothing.
 
One, don't be afraid of rejection--even the most beautiful people go home alone once in awhile. Develop a circle of friends who are supportive, both gay and straight, male and female. Let it be known at work and school that you're gay or "bisexual", so more people will be on your wavelength. Go out to the bars and just hang and talk to people. That's why they're there, too. I know there are the ones that think they are ultracool or ultragoodlooking who are standoffish. Actually, some of them may be just too shy to start a conversation. . .I've really known an absolutely gorgeous man who was too shy to do anything but stand around and look gorgeous . . .people thought he was snobby, but after talking to him we became friends, in and out of the bedroom. And I am not Brad Pitt by any means. I was 6'3" and weighed 240 when I met my lover, who was and is a gorgeous man, 6' tall and weighed 165 pounds and has blonde hair and hazel eyes, even though he and I have both gained weight over the past 28 years. Yep, I said 28 years. I had to go with a lot of men, the good, the bad, the mediocre and the insane, before I met him, though. So get out there and be seen. If you aren't into the bar/dance scene, join a gay church or a gay organization. And love will come when you least expect it, it seems. Good luck and good loving.:kiss:
 
Gin&Tonic said:
Well this fuckin sucks. Maybe I should now focus all of my energy on work.
I honestly thought that when I moved from Utah to California my life would be so much better; I was wrong. At least in Utah I had a guy who loved me. I'm 22 and feel like I just can't be alone any longer. 4 years no b/f - no random hookups, nothing.
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A lot of people move to California thinking that there is a gay man on every corner wanting to find that special someone. It is indeed hard depending on where you live on California. Screwnutty and wolfwalk gave some good advice, its good to put yourself out there, and try to be active in whatever community you want to be in. The more active you are, the more you attract people, you might attract some assholes in the process, but then you might have some nice people wanting to get to know you.

A hard step in life it may be but you just have to break out of your shell and go with the flow.
 
wolfwalk said:
One, don't be afraid of rejection--even the most beautiful people go home alone once in awhile. Develop a circle of friends who are supportive, both gay and straight, male and female. Let it be known at work and school that you're gay or "bisexual", so more people will be on your wavelength. Go out to the bars and just hang and talk to people. That's why they're there, too. I know there are the ones that think they are ultracool or ultragoodlooking who are standoffish. Actually, some of them may be just too shy to start a conversation. . .I've really known an absolutely gorgeous man who was too shy to do anything but stand around and look gorgeous . . .people thought he was snobby, but after talking to him we became friends, in and out of the bedroom. And I am not Brad Pitt by any means. I was 6'3" and weighed 240 when I met my lover, who was and is a gorgeous man, 6' tall and weighed 165 pounds and has blonde hair and hazel eyes, even though he and I have both gained weight over the past 28 years. Yep, I said 28 years. I had to go with a lot of men, the good, the bad, the mediocre and the insane, before I met him, though. So get out there and be seen. If you aren't into the bar/dance scene, join a gay church or a gay organization. And love will come when you least expect it, it seems. Good luck and good loving.:kiss:
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Well, thank you. This is the kind of info I'm looking for. In my mind the only thing harder than being judged, is being rejected. This is what I have been avoiding at all costs. I have been rejected only once, and it hurt worse than any physical pain I've ever had. I'm still hurting from it.
 
Gin&Tonic said:
Ok then, where do I go? I'm not in WeHo like you. I'm in the IE (Inland Empire, for those of you not in Cal.) - it's totally different here.
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Palm Springs?

Hey.. come visit Weho.

But more than that, I know LOTS of gay men in the IE.

What hobbies do you have?
 
Soilwork said:
Palm Springs?

Hey.. come visit Weho.

But more than that, I know LOTS of gay men in the IE.

What hobbies do you have?
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I really don't have any hobbies that are interesting to other people. I wouldn't mind involving myself in other guys hobbies tho'...
HOW is it that you know lots of gay guys in the IE. I've been here for 2 and a half years, and have only met one - the one who rejected me. Am I looking in the wrong places? I found this guy on C.List.
 
Craigs List?

That might be a start to your problem of lonliness.

I too am lonely. I want someone to share my life with right now but i dont really hang out with the right type of people i guess. Most of my friends are straight or female, and it sucks sometimes. I am starting to put myself out there more though, and it feels good when i can actually allow myself to talk to a guy that i think is cute...but i am still lonely.

Goodluck, and broadcast yourself. Otherwise no one will know you're there for the taking. Its one of those hard things to overcome when you're a straight acting gay guy...or at least thats my problem. Most peple think im kidding with them or never saw it coming, but i dont think i should have to act like a flamer to get people to notice me.
 
One other thing. Remember that one-night stands are usually based only on a sexual need. Relationships require some commonality. Sometimes, what you and your one-night stand have in common becomes very clear during the night. And if you have a hobby, you can bet someone else shares your passion, too. What might be a total bore to me might be absolutely fascinating to the guy next door. And hobbies don't have to be stamp collecting or antiques, it can be baseball or the supernatural or mystery stories or collecting hubcaps or. . .well, anything at all that interests you.:D
 
Gin&Tonic said:
I really don't have any hobbies that are interesting to other people.

HOW is it that you know lots of gay guys in the IE. I've been here for 2 and a half years, and have only met one - the one who rejected me. Am I looking in the wrong places?
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Well, I have a hobby.

I ride motorcycles, so I've joined a loose group of gay men who ride. We've got a yahoo group and a forum site, and we organize group rides a lot, many of which include lots of guys from the IE.

This way, I've been able to meet gay men from all over who share the same interests as me.

and yes.. the odd sex does break out. cool, huh?

And yes.. if you're looking on line for anything but quick, cheap sex.. you're looking in the wrong place.

If you order your men like you order a pizza, you're going to get a lot of losers.
 
Some of my thoughts scare me. Most of the time I am okay, but when a wave of loneliness hits me I have really bad thoughts. Like, going on Vaca. and not coming back; if you know what I mean.
 
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