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I finally did it.

So, last night I got to thinking, and I decided to be a little more 'modern' about it. I sent my mother an email. Yeah, I know, that's a little odd, especially since we live in the same house. It's just that I have a severe stuttering problem, and it would make having an actual conversation more difficult than it should be. So, I sent her the email last night, knowing she gets up before I do and checks her mail and does her banking online.

That was the easy part. So, I was waiting in bed, wide awake, listening to everything in the house, and she's not going to the computer because I don't hear the cabinet door opening. We've been having problems with our air conditioning and she decides today is the day she calls the technician. So, I wake up and walk out to the living room where she's waiting for the guy to arrive, and inside I'm like "AHHHHH!".

So, the guy arrives, and he takes forever. He's there for 2 and a half hours, and I'm past "AHHHH!" into "Fuck fuck fuck fuck". And this guy finally leaves, and she decides to clean a bit, and I'm about ready to pop with nervousness.

An hour of cleaning and she finally goes to the PC and checks her mail. I'm back in my room waiting for anything and she comes back. She's said she was pretty sure she knew I was gay, and we went through all of that "I'll support you no matter what" talk, which, disappointingly, didn't last but 2 or 3 minutes. She was very supportive about it, and said she'd love me no matter what I choose to do.

Now, everything seems fine but I had to tell her to stop watching me walk and answer questions on why I don't dress better and how come I didn't go to art school. What can I say, I'm not a stereotype.

She's telling my father later tonight. She says she thinks he has an 'inkling' too.


*excuse while me while I go change my profile*
 
hey, well done! i remember how hard it was, too.

the thing I have learned is to remember that it's difficult for your parents as well as for you. They're wondering how to act, what to do, etc., but things will go back to normal very quickly.

It's very positive that she didn't make a big deal out of it and that the "talk" just lasted two or three minutes. it shows it's not a huge deal to her.

just remember to be patient and it will all work out. :-D
 
Well done Pushover! Glad she's so accepting, and i'm sure your father will be too! Good luck with everything! :D
 
Thanks everybody.

Yes, in the letter -- which was pretty damn long -- I told her that people make a big deal out of it, when it really shouldn't be.

I also explained the whole 'I have no desire to be a woman and I'm not a cross dresser' situation.

Odd thing is, now I'm more confused at what to do than before.:confused:
 
Pushover said:
Thanks everybody.

Yes, in the letter -- which was pretty damn long -- I told her that people make a big deal out of it, when it really shouldn't be.

I also explained the whole 'I have no desire to be a woman and I'm not a cross dresser' situation.

Odd thing is, now I'm more confused at what to do than before.:confused:
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Just be yourself. You don't need to censor yourself anymore.
 
Yeaah, I did the same thing to my mom but I was in rehab when I did it. :lol:

I kind of figured she should have a whole bunch of hurt all at once so she can get over it at once.

Yeah, it didn't work. She broke my jaw

Congrats! :gogirl: Your mom's awesome. Want to share? :)
 
Your mum dealt with that really well! :) I told my mum quite recently. She said she was disappointed, but not with me. She said she'd wished she'd have had a chance to see my kids. Isn't gonna happen now. Luckily, I've got two brothers and a sister.
 
Thank you for sharing with us all your coming out experience. Hey! You now have a coming out experience!

Reading what happened to you brought back memories of my coming out experience with my mum and dad. It's amazing how people surprise you, just when you've given up all hope that they would support you, they're right there telling you everything is okay and that they love you no matter what. If anything coming out made me even closer to my family because finally they could start to get to know the "real" me.

Your dad will be fine, like mine as i'm sure of it.

Congratulations again!
 
Congratulations on coming out :) I love hearing the variety of stories about how people came out and how well it goes, I remember coming out a few years ago.


Do any of your friends know? I confided in a few of my friends first.
 
hehe

Yeah, I should have left her a note on the TV remote so she'd have checked it earlier. It was about three hours of hell, because I was trying to act natural and she just kept mucking about. I planned it so well last night, and the air conditioning shot that all to hell.

Thanks for the support, everybody. :D
 
Congratulations! :=D:

This is coming up on me too, I just need to find the right time. The only person important enough for me to come out to is my mom. I wish I could do it via e-mail, but my mom isn't very techy. I sometimes even think about just sending her a text message, but then I feel silly and think I should just tell her face to face.

Whatever happens I hope the outcome is similar to yours.
 
Lolito2243 said:
Congratulations! :=D:

This is coming up on me too, I just need to find the right time. The only person important enough for me to come out to is my mom. I wish I could do it via e-mail, but my mom isn't very techy. I sometimes even think about just sending her a text message, but then I feel silly and think I should just tell her face to face.

Whatever happens I hope the outcome is similar to yours.
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Write her a letter. It's an easier way for you to say everything you mean to say, as you mean to say it. No screwups, no stutters, just an honest bit of paper.
 
..|Pushover,
You are not a pushover anymore. Thumbs up for you...|..|
I am truly glad that most of the drama was in the waiting. But it was worth the wait. I hope Dad was just as receptive.

There will probably be a few more speed bumps through life, but the one about the closet is over. Good for you!

Shep+ (*8*)
 
Pushover said:
I finally did it.

So, last night I got to thinking, and I decided to be a little more 'modern' about it. I sent my mother an email. Yeah, I know, that's a little odd, especially since we live in the same house. It's just that I have a severe stuttering problem, and it would make having an actual conversation more difficult than it should be. So, I sent her the email last night, knowing she gets up before I do and checks her mail and does her banking online.

That was the easy part. So, I was waiting in bed, wide awake, listening to everything in the house, and she's not going to the computer because I don't hear the cabinet door opening. We've been having problems with our air conditioning and she decides today is the day she calls the technician. So, I wake up and walk out to the living room where she's waiting for the guy to arrive, and inside I'm like "AHHHHH!".

So, the guy arrives, and he takes forever. He's there for 2 and a half hours, and I'm past "AHHHH!" into "Fuck fuck fuck fuck". And this guy finally leaves, and she decides to clean a bit, and I'm about ready to pop with nervousness.

An hour of cleaning and she finally goes to the PC and checks her mail. I'm back in my room waiting for anything and she comes back. She's said she was pretty sure she knew I was gay, and we went through all of that "I'll support you no matter what" talk, which, disappointingly, didn't last but 2 or 3 minutes. She was very supportive about it, and said she'd love me no matter what I choose to do.

Now, everything seems fine but I had to tell her to stop watching me walk and answer questions on why I don't dress better and how come I didn't go to art school. What can I say, I'm not a stereotype.

She's telling my father later tonight. She says she thinks he has an 'inkling' too.


*excuse while me while I go change my profile*
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it's cool that she took it so well. my mom didn't flip out like i'd have figured she would've. what pissed me off though is she said she had NO idea. DESPITE all the hateful little comments she made towards growing up. once when i was like 12 or 13, i was sweeping the kitchen floor and she says to me "You hold that damn broom like a fucking faggot." and temporarily kicking me out at 16 after my asshole uncle made up a rumor about me "messing with boys",...which didn't become true until i was like 20 or so.
why do i think that she was really so "accepting" of my coming out because while she'll never admit it, she KNOWS that i'm the only who's really taking care of and will probably continue to take care of her now that she can't really take care of herself?
don't really have to worry about coming out to my dad...he's spoken to me once in the 14 years since he heard the rumor. i am still trying to get up the nerve to tell everyone else though. right now i've just told mom, my sister and a few close friends. i'm kinda dreading telling the rest of the family though. they're a rather ignorant bunch who are under the mindset that homosexualitly is a lifestyle choice, and not something a person can change. not that i would of course...i truly believe that while quite a few of us are total PIGS, men really ARE God's gift!!!!

ANYWAY....congrats again to OP and hopefully the rest of the transition will go smoothly for you:=D:
 
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