I'm pretty confused...haha

[LikesDudes2]

I've been scanning this board for a while and thought I'd get myself a user name as it seems a pretty cool place. First of all, I'm jealous to find all these straight/bi guys on here who are able to identify themselves because I haven't been able to determine what I like yet. I like men and women for totally different reasons, at totally different times. I almost exclusively watch gay porn, then relationship wise I'm almost exclusively female. I've fallen in love with one dude the same way I would with girls (butterflies in the stomach) just once. I have to have some feelings for a girl to have sex with her, it's like a act of love for me. With a guy, I'm looking to get off, but I look at guys more than girls on the street. And I love all my male friends so I'm not trying to be shallow, but it's different with them

I wish I could pinpoint something but I can't. Most gay guys I know say that they "knew" way early on about their sexuality. Well I don't remember having those feelings early on and only liked girls up until like puberty or so. I have no idea haha anyway. That's my introduction

It said straight content was allowed so here you go

 

[stevexxx]

I've been scanning this board for a while and thought I'd get myself a user name as it seems a pretty cool place. First of all, I'm jealous to find all these straight/bi guys on here who are able to identify themselves because I haven't been able to determine what I like yet. I like men and women for totally different reasons, at totally different times. I almost exclusively watch gay porn, then relationship wise I'm almost exclusively female. I've fallen in love with one dude the same way I would with girls (butterflies in the stomach) just once. I have to have some feelings for a girl to have sex with her, it's like a act of love for me. With a guy, I'm looking to get off, but I look at guys more than girls on the street. And I love all my male friends so I'm not trying to be shallow, but it's different with them

I wish I could pinpoint something but I can't. Most gay guys I know say that they "knew" way early on about their sexuality. Well I don't remember having those feelings early on and only liked girls up until like puberty or so. I have no idea haha anyway. That's my introduction

It said straight content was allowed so here you go

I am the same way. what you are trying to say is that there is a physical attraction to men you have, but not on an emotional level. You have an emotional attraction to women. in other words you want to have relationships with a woman and disgusted even thinking having an emotional relationship with a guy. but unlike myself, i think you have a stronger physical attraction to men than women.

 

[LikesDudes2]

I mean I wouldn't say I'm disgusted at having an emotional relationship with a guy. I am whoa-so-close to my guy friends on an emotional level in some respects.

So if a guy friend comes up to me and says "let's jerk off" my pants are off in 3 seconds. But if I'm like in a bad mood or need consoling or something and he were to say "it's ok baby" and rub my back, then I would freak out (happened before). That's why I'm so confused. Like I literally have a gag reflex for the "emotional" thing.

 

[stevexxx]

I mean I wouldn't say I'm disgusted at having an emotional relationship with a guy. I am whoa-so-close to my guy friends on an emotional level in some respects.

So if a guy friend comes up to me and says "let's jerk off" my pants are off in 3 seconds. But if I'm like in a bad mood or need consoling or something and he were to say "it's ok baby" and rub my back, then I would freak out (happened before). That's why I'm so confused. Like I literally have a gag reflex for the "emotional" thing.

you do not want to have a relationship with a guy meaning, guy and guy boyfriend and boyfriend. sounds to me you like fooling around with guys but you wouldnt want to date them nor marry them

 

[RedHawkk]

She's hot.

 

[stevexxx]

She's hot.

i like my women with a lil more meat

 

[RedHawkk]

i like my women with a lil more meat

You mean like...

^That?

 

[RedHawkk]

i like my women with a lil more meat

Oh.. .forget that previous post.. I didn't see "Women".

 

[Dj Namcay]

Dude I thought I was the only one like that and I don't really consider myself bi because like you said I don't wanna have a boyfriend I just wanna fool around and have some fun but relationship wise I only date girls and like u said about The one dude one of my best friends in hs I kinda had a crush on but I've never had that same emotional connection with another guy only girls

 

[blackbeltninja]

^There are tons of us like that in here.

Be advised, though, you new guys - we do get a lot of fire for it from certain quarters of JUB. You kinda have to grin and bear it some days...

-d-

 

[stevexxx]

^There are tons of us like that in here.

Be advised, though, you new guys - we do get a lot of fire for it from certain quarters of JUB. You kinda have to grin and bear it some days...

-d-

haha, or what? they are going to hate us. ohhh nooo!! i really font give a fuck what people say.

 

[cc2778]

haha, or what? they are going to hate us. ohhh nooo!! i really font give a fuck what people say.

I am the same way. I like to have hot fun with guys but only date women.

 

[hothole724]

Ok so I hope I can be some sort of help here. Here is a quick synopsis of my story:

I realized I had a pure sexual attraction to men around 8th grade, so probably age 13. I always considered myself Bi, since I still found women hot and was attracted to them on an emotional level all throughout high school (ages 13-17). Then, around the age of 18, I realized I had no attraction to women emotionally, and my feelings of sexual attraction went into emotional attraction towards men. When I had my first kiss with a guy, I was like wow this is definitely who I am. Needless to say, your feelings will continue to develop until your 20s I would assume - there is nothing wrong with that.

What you have to do though is find a sort of acceptance, whether that be gay or bi or whatever..but as soon as you accept yourself for who you are, things will make a lot more sense. And btw, I consider myself gay, even though I do find a lot of women extremely attractive and sexy.

 

[LikesDudes2]

Dude I thought I was the only one like that and I don't really consider myself bi because like you said I don't wanna have a boyfriend I just wanna fool around and have some fun but relationship wise I only date girls and like u said about The one dude one of my best friends in hs I kinda had a crush on but I've never had that same emotional connection with another guy only girls

Same thing bro. I was head over heels for like a semester in high school. Haven't felt that way since though.

 

[RedHawkk]

When I first noticed my attraction to dudes, I was the same way. Like, I could take one into my room and call it a night. But the next day, I would probably been like... "So, um... McDonalds?" or something.

I think being Bisexual or Gay depends on your emotional attraction, not necessarily physical. Now I have a BF and things are.. going. Still getting used to being attached and all.

 

[The White Stripe]

To the original poster: I'm a lot like you. I'm mostly into guys at this point in my life. I can still picture myself being with a girl though. I'm still attracted to woman, but for some reason at this point in my life I am way more interested in being with another guy (maybe it is because we have both been raised to be "straight.") Like I would say 6 out of the 7 days of the week I would prefer a man, but that 1 day I might think about being with a woman still confuses the hell out of me. Am I bi? Am I gay? Who cares? I'm just me; right?

By the way, I didn't *know* I liked guys until I was almost 15. I mean I knew I had an interest in them when I was 11, but I didn't understand it until I was 14/15 years old. I still don'y know what to call myself, but I for sure did not know when I was little.

I don't believe anyone is born gay. (I doubt that is a popular opinion though)

I like boys sexually, but I date girls as of right now, because I also find them attractive (sometimes) and because its socially acceptable. There are people just as confused as you are. Don't panic.

 

[stevexxx]

I am the same way. I like to have hot fun with guys but only date women.

haha i never fooled around with another man. the porn is just good enough for me.

 

[versatileplayer]

I mean I wouldn't say I'm disgusted at having an emotional relationship with a guy. I am whoa-so-close to my guy friends on an emotional level in some respects.

So if a guy friend comes up to me and says "let's jerk off" my pants are off in 3 seconds. But if I'm like in a bad mood or need consoling or something and he were to say "it's ok baby" and rub my back, then I would freak out (happened before). That's why I'm so confused. Like I literally have a gag reflex for the "emotional" thing.

Bi guy here - and I'm thinking you're gay. But that's just my opinion. Most of the totally straight guys I know, and myself included - could fuck any woman they found physically attractive - even if she's a total bitch...... lol same with guys - if they are hot and can keep their mouth shut - I'm up for it - even if i don't really like them on a personal level.

It sounds like you're uncomfortable with intimacy with men. That is very normal when you're first coming to terms with your sexuality. How many newbie bi guys does one run into where they aren't into kissing or making out..... lots. I was kind of that way in my early teens. After I accepted myself - it wasn't an issue - and I really enjoy intimacy with men now and have for years.

If you find yourself checking out men more than women - you're probably leaning toward gay. I take the gay label myself sometimes, even though I'm physically attracted to women, and have sex with women fairly frequently - and it's all physical for me. I'm not interested in a romantic relationship with a woman. Myself I'm probably more gay - and I do check out guys more frequently than women. A woman has to be really exceptional to turn my head.

But - the mentally healthy thing is - you don't have to make a decision at all. Just roll with it. Like myself - I'm probably more gay - but I call myself bi because I'm not closing any doors and I like to fuck women.

After you've accepted yourself, I think your discomfort with intimacy with men will melt away - it did for me. Then just go where your dick leads you. You don't have to join one camp or the other - and you don't have to lock into a role.

 

[blackbeltninja]

haha, or what? they are going to hate us. ohhh nooo!! i really font give a fuck what people say.

Well, maybe I take it more personally than most. I am tired of all of it.

It just bugs me - these guys are marginalised and so are we, and yet they seem to take great pleasure in knocking us down because we're not gay enough for their liking. The irony is that they don't seem to think they're doing to us exactly what the world does to them.

Anyway, the new guy is... new. I figured a bit of warning wouldn't hurt him.

-d-

 

[LikesDudes2]

Bi guy here - and I'm thinking you're gay.

Glad someone's figured out my sexuality for me