I'm really crushing on this guy. Should I slip him a note?

[hopelesslyhorny454]

Okay, it's the last semester of the week and I've gotta make my move. I've been seeing this guy around since the start of Fall 2010 semester, and I STILL can't find it in my spirit to ask for his number. Well, first of all I don't know if he's gay and second, I don't wanna look foolish. He works at the campus library, and I'm thinking of leaving a note on his work station with my number and a cute little message...leaving out the contents of my gender and identity. Do you think this is a stupid idea? I mean, I'm not putting myself at any risk seeing as how I'm remaining anonymous.

 

[EwanSF]

Yes, it is a stupid idea. You're not 12, grow a pair and ask him. The worst he can say is no.

 

[G-Lexington]

Don't slip him a note. Slip him your tongue. Actions not words.

Lex

 

[mbamike]

Yes, this is a stupid idea. Don't slip him a note. Speak to him like a man.

 

[G-Lexington]

^ Great idea. Then when he calls, talk in a falsetto. And go meet him in drag. And say your pussy hurts, but you'd love to take him up your back door. (Shave first.) This is gonna be easy!

Lex

 

[diamondstar]

^ What a terrible idea. Rejection can be painful so I can see why U would want to be anonymous. However, just see if he wants to hang out with U or ask him is he seeing anyone.

 

[hughmc]

I agree that slipping him an anonymous note is not the way to go. You said it was a crush so I assume that comes from looking and liking but not from talking to him. Tell the dude you have been admiring his looks for quite some time; you have nothing to lose at this point. slipping a note seems so feeble; get your balls going and talk to the guy.

 

[BearBoi]

Yes, it is a stupid idea. You're not 12, grow a pair and ask him. The worst he can say is no.

I was about to say the same thing.

 

[looseliam]

^ Great idea. Then when he calls, talk in a falsetto. And go meet him in drag. And say your pussy hurts, but you'd love to take him up your back door. (Shave first.) This is gonna be easy!

Lex

You've done this before, I take it?

 

[unloadonme]

I'd wanna find out if he is gay BEFORE coming up with any plan. So what ever your plan is, take care of step 1 before completing your mission.

He works in the library mitchymo. That's step 1 taken care of.

 

[fetaby]

I want to know what the note is going to say before I can endorse such tomfoolery.

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>You've done this before, I take it?

It's like Othello. A minute to learn, a lifetime to master.

Lex

 

[chace1617]

ok the thing is i actually left a note exactly like you to a guy i used to like, he ignored it and i think he knew it was sent by me, i think he just thought i'm a fool

it didn't work out for me but who knows in your case

i think it's a respectfull way to show your feelings with a note cause you won't make him feel uncomfortable or ashamed in case he's str8
just my opinion..

 

[SonOfSlobone]

Come out, come out, come out. Get him in a conversation and mention that you happen to be gay. If he's interested he'll follow up.

1) Don't you want to start coming out anyway?
2) Or were you hoping you could have sex with him without him figuring out you're gay?
3) Anyway, why not?

Thanks for not posting in the no-flame zone so I can give an honest answer.

 

[Georgiadude]

your in college, not jr. high for God's sake. walk up to him, introduce yourself and see where the conversation goes. if you need an ice breaker ask for help finding a book or something. I would find the note thing kinda creepy and very juvenile. I highly doubt I'd bother calling anyone that left me a note. so to answer your questions. a very terrible idea.

Steven.

 

[braex27]

No notes. Notes are not a good idea, especially of the type you're contemplating - anonymity with only a phone number a comment is not ideal. It opens you to either lots of awkwardness, heartache or paranoia about whether he received, what he did with it, why hasn't he rung...

Much better to approach him, ask him and if it's a no, it's a no. At least you can then move on.

 

[colliefletch]

I think people have unrealistic expectations. It's easy to say on a message board "say it in person", but when you are there in the flesh, it's pretty tough. Try and muster up the courage, but if worse comes to worse, right a funny flirty note that is short and too the point and hope he responds.