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[bigbootybrian]

OK so i am bi and ive kinda jus recently accepted that but im so scared to come out
I DONT THiNK iM READy!!!
its so hard...im looking for a real relationship and for some1 to be my first to lose my virginity to but im scared
there is this boy who i met 2 summers ago, who lived in texas but was visiting a cuzin, who is bi and i didnt find out until he went bac to texas
we both luv each otha but im really scared to get into a relationship with a guy becuz i dont ppl to find out and all that shit
there are some ppl that i can tell and will accept me but im scared of the ones in know that wont
like my MA for instance
im so scared and so confused and i feel like im gonna burst
I DONT KNOW WAT TO Do0o0o0o0o!

 

[Romantico]

Dude. Take a deep Breathe. Okay, now breathe.
Then don't come out. For everyone its different. For me, I first came out as gay. I met a guy who I fell in love with. I loved him so much, I was willing to come out. He was worth it. Later, when I disocvered I also liked women I came out again as bi. When you meet someone you feel is the one and your ready, come out.

I know a guy who has not come out and he's in his late 40's. Everyone knows he's gay but his feelings are, its no one's business. He believes if you don't come out as straight why come out as gay or anything else. In a way, he's right. Your nervouse becuase your afraid how friends/family/society will treat you. Maybe you need to wait til your older. Theres no right or wrong answer, only you know. I tell people this. Who YOU fall in love with and sleep with is between YOU and your lover and no one else. Not your family or friends, no one.

Its so easy to be a people pleaser when it comes to your life. No one should tell you how to live or who to love. Maybe your not ready to be so bold. That comes with time and age. You sound like you just need to talk. Don't let it make you crazy. Relax and be lucky you are who you are. Your special and unique. I applaude you for having the guts to seek advice.

 

[SilverRRCloud]

Dude. Take a deep Breathe. Okay, now breathe.
Then don't come out. For everyone its different. For me, I first came out as gay. I met a guy who I fell in love with. I loved him so much, I was willing to come out. He was worth it. Later, when I disocvered I also liked women I came out again as bi. When you meet someone you feel is the one and your ready, come out.

I know a guy who has not come out and he's in his late 40's. Everyone knows he's gay but his feelings are, its no one's business. He believes if you don't come out as straight why come out as gay or anything else. In a way, he's right. Your nervouse becuase your afraid how friends/family/society will treat you. Maybe you need to wait til your older. Theres no right or wrong answer, only you know. I tell people this. Who YOU fall in love with and sleep with is between YOU and your lover and no one else. Not your family or friends, no one.

Its so easy to be a people pleaser when it comes to your life. No one should tell you how to live or who to love. Maybe your not ready to be so bold. That comes with time and age. You sound like you just need to talk. Don't let it make you crazy. Relax and be lucky you are who you are. Your special and unique. I applaude you for having the guts to seek advice.

Great advice by Romantico!!!

Prepare to be a man on your own and never allow your pleasures to depend upon the permission of the others.

SC

 

[AdmiraalW238]

...Who YOU fall in love with and sleep with is between YOU and your lover and no one else. Not your family or friends, no one.

Its so easy to be a people pleaser when it comes to your life. No one should tell you how to live or who to love. Maybe your not ready to be so bold. That comes with time and age. You sound like you just need to talk. Don't let it make you crazy. Relax and be lucky you are who you are. Your special and unique. I applaude you for having the guts to seek advice.

A great piece of advice, Romantico.

Don't come out for the sake of coming out. Each person is different. Only you will know when the time is right.

Good luck with whatever you do...and if you need a shoulder or an ear to listen just PM.

 

[ejbonk]

Dude. Take a deep Breathe. Okay, now breathe.
" When you meet someone you feel is the one and your ready, come out."

I know a guy who has not come out and he's in his late 40's. Everyone knows he's gay but his feelings are, its no one's business. He believes if you don't come out as straight why come out as gay or anything else. In a way, he's right. Your nervouse becuase your afraid how friends/family/society will treat you. Maybe you need to wait til your older. Theres no right or wrong answer, only you know. I tell people this. Who YOU fall in love with and sleep with is between YOU and your lover and no one else. Not your family or friends, no one.

Its so easy to be a people pleaser when it comes to your life. No one should tell you how to live or who to love. Maybe your not ready to be so bold. That comes with time and age. You sound like you just need to talk. Don't let it make you crazy. Relax and be lucky you are who you are. Your special and unique. I applaude you for having the guts to seek advice. ":

I could not have said it better my self. Way to go Romantico.

 

[jyrdgs]

Dude. Take a deep Breathe. Okay, now breathe.
Then don't come out. For everyone its different. For me, I first came out as gay. I met a guy who I fell in love with. I loved him so much, I was willing to come out. He was worth it. Later, when I disocvered I also liked women I came out again as bi. When you meet someone you feel is the one and your ready, come out.

I know a guy who has not come out and he's in his late 40's. Everyone knows he's gay but his feelings are, its no one's business. He believes if you don't come out as straight why come out as gay or anything else. In a way, he's right. Your nervouse becuase your afraid how friends/family/society will treat you. Maybe you need to wait til your older. Theres no right or wrong answer, only you know. I tell people this. Who YOU fall in love with and sleep with is between YOU and your lover and no one else. Not your family or friends, no one.

Its so easy to be a people pleaser when it comes to your life. No one should tell you how to live or who to love. Maybe your not ready to be so bold. That comes with time and age. You sound like you just need to talk. Don't let it make you crazy. Relax and be lucky you are who you are. Your special and unique. I applaude you for having the guts to seek advice.

This is probably the nicest, sincerest and flat-out BEST advice I have ever seen on this site. I agree with the late 40's guy too about the coming out issue. Is it really that big of a deal? I'm not out, but if asked I wouldn't lie. Everything else in my life is a much bigger part of me..sexual preference isn't the big issue. Thanks for posting your kind words!

 

[naughtypiscesboi84]

I know how you feel, sort of. I remember when I first accepted my bisexuality. It seemed so great, because I really looked forward to seeking out male partners. But I never actually did, because I was afraid people would find out. Not really my family, as I was sure they'd be cool with it. And they were. But more my friends and other people that weren't so close to me.

I'm fortunate because I mainly like girls. It's just that they fulfill emotional needs for me other guys can't. Even if I'm very attracted physically to both sexes. But it looks like you're on the opposite end. You like girls and guys, but you mainly like guys. And you're having the same anxieties I did. I don't envy you one bit. I guess the only advice I could give is that you're really in love with this guy you really have to not worry about what other people will think. You need to follow your heart. Cliched. But true.