I'm Screwed.

[JOHN B]

I guess this will teach YOU to not sleep with any US Presidents again....

 

[Alive and Free]

Sounds like this guy is a professor or some sort of teacher. Get your X by any legal means to keep his mouth shut. If you need to chat Adam let me know.

 

[Jeimuzu]

He's your ex boyfriend. Just tell anyone who asks, that he's trying to stir up shit.

Then threaten slander charges.

 

[luckotheirish]

Boy, it sure looks like you just stepped in a big pile a STOOPid.

I think you should tell the adulterer that you were indiscreet and squealed on him to an unsavory individual. At least he has a heads up.
I'm not sure telling more lies is the way to go, however.

I agree with this. I don't think you're gonna be able to put the shit back into the horse.

Lies have a nasty habit of getting uncovered. Remember Ted Haggard? He was flayed as much for denying his accuser and lying to cover his ass as he was for the actual indiscretion.

Also if you're the indirect cause of his outing, you should tell him first. If his wife is gonna hear about all of this, it would be better coming from him than some stranger named "B".

The only ones screwed in this situation...
Is the wife and kids!!!

They're the ones who'll suffer the most.

See, this is why you shouldn't fuck in the work place.

There's an old saying (apologies for the heterosexual origin):
You shouldn't get your pussy and your paycheck in the same place
(or more accurately: cock and paycheck)

 

[josher]

The more you try to lie and cover up, the deeper the hole you dig. "Mr. Big" took a risk and he lost. Most adulterers do. What you did was morally wrong, but not legally wrong. Your reputation might suffer, but that's all. He, though, is well and truly fucked. (And BTW, I doubt you're the first boy he's slept with, so who knows what details may come out of the woodwork.)

 

[Adam2299]

I'd say give him money!

He's a doctor and a hell of a lot more rich than I am. Wouldn't work.

I talked to him all night and he keeps saying he'll "think about it."

How lame. This is so fucking annoying.

 

[RationalLunacy]

He's a doctor and a hell of a lot more rich than I am. Wouldn't work.

I talked to him all night and he keeps saying he'll "think about it."

How lame. This is so fucking annoying.

If he's a doctor and he doesn't understand the word "confidentiality", someone needs to report him for violation of medical ethics. Put that in his smoke and pipe it.

 

[anemieasy]

Peeps believe whatever they want to. Unless he's got pics, who would care?

 

[Blueboy369]

Why should you fear his threat? DON't give him the power over you. Tell him to stop playing games with you. Ask him why it matters to him who you are sleeping with? Is He jealous? Turn it around on him. If he still threatens you tell him that ever scince you learned that you can't trust him, you've been plotting your own little revenge on Him and it WILL get ugly.

 

[StlKj]

You know what? Unlike your other posts, Adam, this one isn't in the no flame zone, so I don't feel bad for pointing out that you come off as one of the most careless, irresponsible posters on this whole message board. How many times is this now that you've posted about something that happened when you were drunk? How many men have you posted about now who you've unintentionally hurt in some way after screwing them? And how many times have you basically screwed someone else, but then come on here and acted as though YOU are the one who is screwed?

I thought perhaps after the visit by the underaged boy that you took under your wing you had turned over a new leaf, and we might not be reading any more of these threads where you've once again mixed sex, friendship and alcohol and created a catastrophe.

This thread is not really about a man who has cheated on his wife. Nor is it about a jerk who is planning to break confidence and ruin numerous lives out of a sense of revenge.

No, this thread is about a young man who regularly acts burned after burning others with his irresponsible behavior, and yet he always seems to worry more about how it impacts him, rather than the other people in the picture who are truly screwed.

Grow up, Adam, before the drama you attract or create hurts someone in a way that can't ever be taken back.

 

[Adam2299]

You know what? Unlike your other posts, Adam, this one isn't in the no flame zone, so I don't feel bad for pointing out that you come off as one of the most careless, irresponsible posters on this whole message board. How many times is this now that you've posted about something that happened when you were drunk? How many men have you posted about now who you've unintentionally hurt in some way after screwing them? And how many times have you basically screwed someone else, but then come on here and acted as though YOU are the one who is screwed?

I thought perhaps after the visit by the underaged boy that you took under your wing you had turned over a new leaf, and we might not be reading any more of these threads where you've once again mixed sex, friendship and alcohol and created a catastrophe.

This thread is not really about a man who has cheated on his wife. Nor is it about a jerk who is planning to break confidence and ruin numerous lives out of a sense of revenge.

No, this thread is about a young man who regularly acts burned after burning others with his irresponsible behavior, and yet he always seems to worry more about how it impacts him, rather than the other people in the picture who are truly screwed.

Grow up, Adam, before the drama you attract or create hurts someone in a way that can't ever be taken back.

I'm not as bad as I sound, I promise.

 

[Boogerqueesha]

Tell 'B' you made the whole thing up. He won't believe you, but make it clear that you don't care; it's not like he has any evidence aside from third-person anecdotal.

The worst he could possibly do, without your assistance, is look like a horrible gossip.

Good luck.

and,

Differences in position aside, stop sleeping with married men. Come on, now.

 

[andysize]

Peeps believe whatever they want to. Unless he's got pics, who would care?

yep - and unless he's been screwing around with other lads who would come forward, just deny it and don't pander to the blackmailer - tell him to fuck off and die.

 

[CGHJ]

If he's a doctor and he doesn't understand the word "confidentiality", someone needs to report him for violation of medical ethics. Put that in his smoke and pipe it.

This lunacy is quite rational by my book. If he's a doctor, tell him that you'll call up the medical ethics board and tell them he's been...I dunno, you know him better, make upsomething plausible. Doing drugs, pedophilia, something. He sure does sound like a worls-class asshole. He's alright with the fact that if he does this you'll never speak to him again? He must be, so up the ante and tell him you'll tell the ethics baord about all the poppers and crack he used to score down at the projects and how he used to beat you whenever you would complain.

 

[star-warrior]

Two can play at ruining lives. You have to be cruel to be kind. I favour RL and CGHJ's approach. Since it is his word against yours, then you can use a part of his life to ruin him. He's your ex. He doesn't seem to care for you if he wants to destroy your happiness. You might as well get on an even keel rather than being a victim of his course of action.

In the end, you have to deny everything if worst comes to the worst. And make sure both you and the person you slept with does as well. Everything else is speculation.

 

[Eternaldarkness]

You need to play a big game here. It's called "acting." It requires a lot of big big lies, but in your case, you will have to use ur best acting to lie this problem out.

What you need to do is stop begging him. Stop talking about it. He will call you or find you to pull up this situation again. If so, obviously he is just trying to scare and threatens you to do what he wants. I am pretty sure he's jeolous and wants revenge.

What you need to do after you stop begging him or talking about the situation, is to ignore him. Act like its not a big deal. Continue to do this over a time of several days. This guy who is threatening you will think you've lost interest. If he ask you about it just say do what ever you want to do man, its no longer your concern and you don't give a shit.

Ignore him. Totally play uninterested NO MATTER what he do. Trust me, he won't do it if you don't care. what good does it give him if you aren't suffering.

Play drunk again. This part is the most important. You have be able to cry like a bitch. Tell your ex boyfriend you told the married guy everything and the guy has now dumped you and threatens to hurt you (or something serious.)
Cry like crazy, act drunk and pretend to be very hurt. Slur some things in, bring back good memories about you and your bastardly ex bf in your state of drunkeness to make him feel sympathy.. Once you're done acting, go to sleep. Next morning you wake up, deny everything. Go crazy about denying it.

Your ex bf will totally believe you.

Act again. This next act is whenever you're around him play easilly distracted. Play like something is on your mind and play sad. Don't do it directly, trust me your ex bf will find ways to see you *acting* and crying alone in the next room. You know what I mean.

Once mission accomplish, seduce him. Fuck him. Act like you're really dissapointed and need someone for the comfort. once he falls for it, you're almost done.

Last step, after a small period of time... act like you're interested in another guy. Secretly exchange phone call or text messaging and make sure your exbf finds out. Deny about it. Offer to break up.

This ex bf of yours will go crazy about it and give hell to the next guy.
Once done, tell him to fuck off and do whatever the hell he likes cuz you don't care.

This is a very big lie. It will take atleast several weeks to finish. If you can act drunk, act sad, act lost and confuse... which isn't very hard to do, you can trick this bastard forever.

 

[trawler69]

Hang on a mo. Something is missing here. There is no threat to you therefore no blackmail. B hasn't asked you for anything. What would he get by outing this guy except your hatred and even then you could deny it and make B look pathetic particularly when you tell people he is your ex and is trying to get back at you. I think this is over dramatisation. Just calm down, breathe deeply and think about it.

 

[Aussieguy01]

In the end from him its just hearsay , he cannot prove it happened , for all everyone knows he is just starting a false rumour. He dosnet have video evidence of you saying that at all? Let the guy know that the affair may be spoken about but you could just put it down to a rumour . This friend you speak of sounds like a real asshole , i would sever all connections with him , let him now its defermation of character if he spreads the rumour ( you could say that you lied and made it up ) and then your affair man could sue him for it if he wanted.

 

[tila123]

since its coming out anyway, u might as well tell us who it is....