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I'm so confused with my sexuality

My last two fuck buddies have been bi and living with their girlfriends. Their women knew about my relationship with their men. We all had a "live and let live" mentality.
 
Sultan I struggled with what you were going through when I was about your age

once I stopped worrying about what other labels people wanted to put on me, that there are varying degrees & percentages of straight/bi/gay, then I felt a whole lot better - I just went with the flow & had a whole lot of fun

your face, your fingerprint, your voice pattern are all unique, like no other person on earth - your sexuality may be the same way - you are Sultan, unique individual & no label will ever quite fit you like it does not fit anyone else, even though some want to label themselves & you

you will find some gay men will try to tell you you're gay, some women will try to convince you you're straight, but don't worry about them - things in the laundry may need labels but people don't
 
KaraBulut said:
You're torturing yourself.

It's not a "Yes" or "No" question. Seriously "All of the Above" is an allowable answer.

The problem is not that you don't want to be gay. The problem is that you've tried to force a choice and, in doing so, you've worked hard to create little compartments.

Compartment 1: Women for relationships and emotional connections

Compartment 2: Men for hot sweaty no-strings sex

It's not your sexuality that you need to fix. It's the way that you objectify guys in order to have sex with them.
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If you read the thread I said I could have a relationship with a guy though I'd prefer it with a girl.
 
I kind of know what you are going through and it can be difficult but, to me it seems sexuality is something fluid and not everyone is just gay or just str8 some ppl are in between or more one way but, open enough to go the other way.For me I am pretty anti social and nerdy so, don't get women but, I am open enough with my sexuality and have done some tame things like j/o with guys and I loved it something about felling another cock turns me on. But, when I am in public I never find guys attracted and I find women attractive and get that weak in the knee feeling for some. But, I don't fret that all my sexual encounters have been with men and love what I am attracted to and enjoyed my experiences. I am not afraid of falling in love with a man but, I just find it very unlikely. Anyway you have gotten good advice from other posters and you shouldn't fret about it just enjoy what you enjoy and pursue relationships that make you happy.
 
That men sexually/women romantically thing is such a cliche. Every bi guy says that. (And a lot of gay guys say it at some point.) It has a lot more to do with what society teaches us about men - that they are unemotional and "strong", which just isn't true. Try having a relationship with a man; maybe you "can't imagine it" or something now, but I'm sure their wasn't a time you could imagine yourself having sex with a man or doing many of the things you do routinely now. You shouldn't ever be afraid to expand your horizons.
 
Sultan said:
If you read the thread I said I could have a relationship with a guy though I'd prefer it with a girl.
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Oh, I read all the posts in the thread and I've read many of your threads in HT.

It's not about relationships- it's about the emotion that is at the core of relationships.

The comment is not intended to be mean. I only intend to call your attention to the way you've separated the emotion from the sex that you have with guys.

Sex is supposed to be hot. But most of us want to love and be loved. The question is, "Why can't you let your guard down and let yourself feel something besides lust for another guy?"
 
I don't always separate emotion from sex but of the guys I've had sex with, only one I had an emotional attachment to.

You seem to think I only want no strings attached sex with men. I'm telling you I'd be open to more for the right guy but the chances of that happening are less likely than with a woman.
 
Sultan said:
I don't always separate emotion from sex but of the guys I've had sex with, only one I had an emotional attachment to.

You seem to think I only want no strings attached sex with men.
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I don't know you. I only know the person that you are here in these forums.


Sultan said:
I'm telling you I'd be open to more for the right guy but the chances of that happening are less likely than with a woman.
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Then make it happen, sahib.
 
i always feel for you. i sort of expect that you will end up more "gay" eventually, but who knows. regardless, I hope you are happy with yourself.

I don't know if these "to ponder" questions will be helpful to you or not, but they come to mind when I read your stuff.

1. if you were to list all of the things that appeal to you about a "relationship" with a woman, how many things on that list are not possible with a man?

2. what is your list of things you have to offer in a relationship? how many off them apply to one gender more than the other... like how much a partner could accept the things you have/want to give?

3. what's your list of things that make you feel really vulnerable? why are those less scary with one gender more than the other?

...i honestly don't think you need to be in any hurry to get this figured out. For one thing, it's really important stuff.

Hope your holidays are warm.
 
Arabbb, don't worry about it. You're young, you've got the time in the world. Let your feelings and dick decide it for you. Let your heart and horniness carve the person you are. You shouldn't worry about this sort of thing at this point of your life. Your sexuality will be develop, mature and be grounded as you meet more people, especially ones you are interested in.

I told you to "ditch the dick" and "stick with the pussy" because you seem desperate. Making a quick decision on your life isn't the smartest of things to do but it can bring solace and much rest on your soul and brain.

Go out, get meet more guys, explore your life and sexuality.
 
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