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So i have this friend who ive been best friends with since i was 9 we do everything together every week we stay at one anothers house we sleep in the same bed (nothing sexual) we have seen each other naked compared sizes etc anyway a few weeks ago i told him i was gay and he took it well said he loved me no matter what i was into.
so friday night we were at a party we were both pretty drunk and ended up playing spin the bottle and of course when i spun the bottle it landed on him we followed the rules and made out and it was a pretty hot kiss after that the game kinda died off and i didnt really see much of him for the rest of the night til we left to go back to his place, when we got into bed that night he rolled over to face me and asked if i liked the kiss i didnt know what to say obviously i did but i didnt want to creep him out so i kinda just giggled then he asked if i wanted to kiss him then at this point my heart was pounding and my dick was hard as but i couldnt say anything then i felt his hand on my crotch he laughed and said guess thats a yes huh then he leaned forward and shoved his tongue into my mouth while groping my dick...
then he rolled over and fell asleep the next morning he was pretty hungover and he didnt say anything about it i dont know if he has forgotten or if it was just the alcohol but now i cant stop thinking about it what do i do?
 
calm down first of all. you are over thinking this situation. just relax the next time you see this person. im not sure what you are asking, but he obviously have feelings for you and you for him so i don't see any harm in exploring that.
 
DownUnder89 said:
... i cant stop thinking about it what do i do?
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You use it for occasional jack-off fantasies.

But you respect the boundaries of the friendship. If you and your friend decided (while you're sober) that you want to play around and get each other off, that's fine- as long as the two of you can agree that it won't mess up your long-time friendship.

Guys do and say things when they're drunk that probably reveal things they wouldn't otherwise reveal. But one of the other things about being drunk is that you don't exactly ponder the consequences of your actions- whether that be getting behind the wheel of a car, picking a fight with a guy twice your size or putting your tongue down your close friend's throat.

And it's time that you found a boyfriend and started moving forward with dating and all the things that are part of being gay.
 
Let it ride. You guys might get lucky later and score.
 
He seems like he is pretty forward if he wants anything of you i think he will let you know.. just see what happens
 
I'd say there has been an undercurrent of sexual attraction on both your parts for a long time. Best wishes to you both.
 
well you guys have been best friends since 9, I am assuming the communication skills and bonds you two share are strong? so talk about it.
 
I'd say let it go unless he brings it up;

...and if he does, try not to make a big deal about it, though at the same time, be honest and say that you liked it.

Appreciate it for what it was;

You're lucky to have such a close friend to share the same bed with on occasion, and to have felt so comfortable to kiss you - even under the influence of acohol.
 
KaraBulut said:
You use it for occasional jack-off fantasies.

But you respect the boundaries of the friendship. If you and your friend decided (while you're sober) that you want to play around and get each other off, that's fine- as long as the two of you can agree that it won't mess up your long-time friendship.

Guys do and say things when they're drunk that probably reveal things they wouldn't otherwise reveal. But one of the other things about being drunk is that you don't exactly ponder the consequences of your actions- whether that be getting behind the wheel of a car, picking a fight with a guy twice your size or putting your tongue down your close friend's throat.

And it's time that you found a boyfriend and started moving forward with dating and all the things that are part of being gay.
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I totally disagree. He went way over the boundaries already by grabbing your dick. I do not see why you are trying to put the blame on the OP when he did not touch his friend at all. Obviously you guys were both drunk and he wanted more and you kind of blew it by not taking it further. I would not bring it up again but next time he grabs you it means that he wants you plain and simple.
 
billybob109 said:
I totally disagree. He went way over the boundaries already by grabbing your dick. I do not see why you are trying to put the blame on the OP when he did not touch his friend at all. Obviously you guys were both drunk and he wanted more and you kind of blew it by not taking it further. I would not bring it up again but next time he grabs you it means that he wants you plain and simple.
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I think you would be right except for the fact that they were drunk. Drunk people often do things they wouldn't when sober. I didn't think the OP was being blamed except for the fact that he should be pursuing other guys and not just his friend.
 
thanks for all the advice guys im still kicking myself for not responding to his advances but he was grabbing my hard dick so he had to know i was into right???

everything is back to normal again i just want to know a way i can bring it up without sounding super desperate ive always loved him but since that kiss its like im seeing him in a whole new light
 
so Cal is coming over tonight to spend the night
any advice?
how do i bring it up and stuff
 
Part of me says talk to him and part of me says have him bring it up.

If you decide you want to talk to him, I would mention the party and then if he brings the bottle game up, go from there.

The other route you could go is to say you liked the kiss and wanted to know if it meant something.

I would see how the evening goes and go from there.
 
Booze does release inhibitions but not to the point of a straight guy grabbing your hard cock. He wants you, so next time go for it. I don't think you will be disappointed.
 
So that night nothing happened he came over we played ps3 we went to bed together ( i had to sleep on my stomach to hide my hard on ) and yeah it was back to normal..

HOWEVER

last night i slept at his place and we went out and when we got back his place he went to have a shower and i noticed his laptop was on and so naturally i started snooping through his shit he had NO PORN whatsoever but he did have a stash of pix of himself naked which got me horny but he came back into the room not giving me enough time to enjoy them so i quickly shut his laptop and moved away from it anyway we started drinking after that and the night went on and he said he wanted to check his email and he opened his computer and it was still on what i was looking at which was his nude pic i completely shit myself at this point i couldnt breathe he looked at me and asked if i had been going through his comp i didnt answer he said its cool if i was so i said i stumbled onto the page just as he came back in so i didnt really look at it to which he replied well you can look at it now and turned the computer round to show me the pic i looked up at him and he smiling i laughed and told him he was a douche then he turned the computer back round and said he had somthing to show me a few seconds later he came and sat next to me with his laptop and showed me a vid clip of him jerking off
 
it was so hot and i was obviously tenting at this point but was to nervous to move which i guess he noticed coz he told me to relax i asked him why he was showing me this and he said he didnt know hes just really horny and drunk and i brought up the kiss and what had happened after Doms party and he laughed and said that he thought i had forgotten about it i asked if he was gay he said he didnt know i asked him if he had ever been with a guy and he said no i asked if he wanted to he said he didnt no then we were quiet for a while until i finally got the nerve to make a move not a great one but i kissed him on the cheek and he laughed and told me if i was gonna kiss him to do it properly i asked him if he liked me he said he did like a brother but he was confused then he said no more questions and leaned in and kissed me

thanks for all the help guys !!
after that night its been pretty quiet but i think i may have my first boyfriend soon lol
 
So, not longer "still confused"? Or even more confused now?
 
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thanks for all the help guys !!
after that night its been pretty quiet but i think i may have my first boyfriend soon lol
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Perhaps. It's more likely you've found your first fuck buddy, if that. I wouldn't use this as an excuse to stay in the closet though if you are still in it.

I'm glad you had fun though.
 
Good luck to you :) Just make sure you stay open when communicating. You don't want to ruin your friendship over a hookup
 
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