I'm so mad. Nobody gets it!

[tallguy297]

G'day Eric,

There are people in your corner mate...you are talking to them and sharing with them right now...dont ever forget that - you are never alone as you take this journey...and there are others going through what you are going through right now. But best of all...some of us have been through and have seen the other side...and while right now it may not seem like it...its worth the effort.

Eric, in a way this situation is still in your hands. Hate is a very strong word and an I'm sure you are mistaking hurt and perhaps even a sense of shock for hate. Strong words, raised voices and heated moments dont add up to someone hating you...they are simply defence mechanisms and less than well thought out reactions.

Dont let this situation spiral out of control. Make contact with your family and friends...and keep doing it little by little. Remember that all situations where people dont talk to each other again is usually a 2 way street.

The people who are close to you and care for you are hurting right now...and you have to draw on the courage and strength that you have inside you that helped you tell them in the first place to stand strong. You have to be around for them to see that you havent changed... that you are still the same person that you have always been. The same friend and son. The same sense of humor, the same values, the same principles. You know that you are still you...you know that you being gay hasnt changed you or the way you think. You just need to let your loved ones discover that too.

Baby steps mate. Dont give up and dont walk away.

And remember Eric....as you go through this period...you are not alone. We're listening and we here to help in any way we can. We here to help make it easy mate...not hard. Good luck...hang in there!

 

[Theyoungman]

They are NOT your friends or care enough and living a lie to keep them would only hurt you more.

Move on and find other friends...

Either that or you are exagerating or lying.

 

[rareboy]

Your real friends do not hate you. The real friends will love you for yourself, no matter where you want to put your cock. I also think there is a bit of you lashing out on your part because of the drama and excitement of finally coming out. Give some people time to adjust to the news; part of the problem they may be having is not that you are gay, but that you haven't been honest with them or yourself, so they see you as a different person than the friend they thought they knew.

Go out and do something nice for someone. Get over being mad and get over yourself for a while. You'll feel better.

 

[hermanding]

all the above is true. coming out is where you find out the truth about those around you. it really CAN be possible that one's parents might not love the REAL son they have. all you can do is recognize you are a valuable human being and not waste yourself on those who do not love the YOU that you really are. and we definitely are here for you and feel your pain
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[kurtwild]

its not something bad that you are gay ,its no illnes and most of the people that used to like you,will get used to it and everything will be fine in some time.

 

[luminum]

Try calming down a bit first and letting your emotions settle. You're dealing with a lot right now, so give yourself some time to rest and dealw ith everything. Maybe everyone doesn't hate you, though a few may.

And if everyone you know has turned their back on you, start meeting new people. Look for LGBT or just Gay Men's groups int he area. Not sex, obviously. Look for LGBT Adults Games Nights or Coming Out Affrimation groups/ support groups, etc. They're great ways to talk to others who know about the rigors of coming out and everything that comes with it. They're also great ways to meet people as friends or even potential partners as you do fun activities like play sports or talk abotu books or whatever. Eventually, if you keep going, you'll meet new friends who will like you for you, not just your sexuality.

Basically, if you feel you're being alienated for your sexuality, go to the place where sexuality doesn't matter and start getting active.

 

[VICTORIADON]

its not something bad that you are gay ,its no illnes and most of the people that used to like you,will get used to it and everything will be fine in some time.

^ all I can add to the above is do not throw your sexuality in their face. You have come out to them. They don't need to know what you do in bed or what you would like to do to such and such guy.
I will add something that many guys overlook...It took you 29 years to come to your decision to come out, the people you have come out to have only had a couple of days/weeks to absorb what you have said. Like kurtwild said, give it some time.

 

[xyzguy]

You're not new to being gay. You were always gay. Now that you accepted this fact, congrats!

 

[RicanDAB]

CVkid,

I just came out to one of my oldest friends abouot a week ago, he was fully supportive but as expected I have not heard from him since. We don't chat on the phone as often so I do not expect him to be calling me any more now that he knows. I know this is totally new for him .. he did not even suspect that I was gay. So like in his instance ... time is the only thing you can give your loves ones. You cannot expect everyone to accept this overnight.