I'm so pissed off (warning, boring story)

[Christopher123]

I'm home from the bar. For the most part I had a good time like I always do. A little disappointed because a really cute guy I was shooting pool with seemed, at times, a little overly friendly. Smiling at me, making glances at me, and even put his arm around me a couple of times. Until a few girls walked in and came back there where we were shooting and were all over him. And that was that for me.

Okay, no big deal, I'm used to that shit (or should be) but that's not really what I'm pissed off about....

There's a guy that hangs there every weekend, his name is Rick. After the pool-playing was over, I went up to the bar to kick back and have my water. I drove myself tonight and don't drink much in that case because I don't wanna get pulled over and thrown in jail. Anyway, Rick - since he's someone I know there - was the first person I talked to when I got to the bar tonight, around 7'ish. We talked, shot a couple games of pool, blah blah blah, and he went on his way up to the bar because I'd won the game and he gave up. Fine, whatever, him and I are just friends and I have *NO* attraction to him whatsoever. It's never even crossed my mind, which is what I'm leading up to......

So after my games of pool (I got beat and decided to sit it out for a while) I go over and sit down by Rick who's having a beer and stuff. And we get to talking. And he looks at me and says, "So what's on your agenda tonight?"

I said, "Oh, nothing really, just hangin out and probably gonna head home soon."

He goes, "No, everyone has an agenda. Why are you here?"

I said, "The same reason I'm here EVERY Friday, to just have a good time."

Then he freakin has the nerve to say, "But you're talking to me for a reason."

And I was like, "Ummmm yeah, because you're an acquaintence of mine and I ALWAYA talk to you."

He said, "No, that's not all. You want something else."

At that point I knew where he was going with it. Basically he was trying to tell me that because I talked to him just being friendly that I wanted to fuck him.

So I flat out said, "Excuse me? What are you saying, that I'm coming onto you?"

And he says, "Well aren't you?"

I was like, "No, I'm just talking to you just to talk to you."

And he leans over to me and gets in my ear and goes, "I know what you want, Chris, and I just want you to know that I won't tell anyone."

WTF?!?!? Tell anyone WHAT?!?!? There's nothing to tell!!!!!

I looked at him and said, "You know what dude? You're fucking drunk and you're hallucinating and if you think I'm ever gonna talk to you again, you can kiss my ass."

I just got up and walked away from him after that, I was so damned mad. What a fucking asshole! Just because I was talking to him in a friendly way, he assumed I wanted sex.

Why can't people just be friendly without someone assuming the worst?

Sorry... I'm just pissed and I had to vent that. I'm tired and I'm going to bed, but I needed to get that off my chest before I hit the sack.

~sigh~

Thanks for listening to me whine again. I seem to be doing an awful lot of that lately

 

[ahotjock71]

He wanted YOU. And wanted you to make the first move. OOps...looks like HE made the first move, and wanted you to follow through.

 

[Christopher123]

He wanted YOU. And wanted you to make the first move. OOps...looks like HE made the first move, and wanted you to follow through.

Yeah well, that's never gonna happen, especially now. Not that I ever even thought about it before. I mean I was just being friendly.

Bastard.

Anyway, sorry to dump and run but I've got a headache, I need to go to bed. I'll check in tomorrow. And again, thanks, for listening to me complain.

People, you think know them.

Night guys, love ya.

Chris

 

[Christopher123]

"well, I know that people think that guys sitting on their own and drinking are losers with no friends and I didn't want people to think that about you, so this is my bit of good samaritan work for the month of september."

Yeah, he even had the balls to tell me that we couldn't leave the bar together.

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Jerk!

Night... I have to go. I'll check in tomorrow and thanks

 

[Soilwork]

if you flirt with anyone but me *I* will be pissed,

and I'll come spank your hot, tight, enticing ass.


mmmmm.. christopher ass....

 

[SilverRRCloud]

Sadly, at some point of time, for many people out there, the notion of being just a casual friend, acquitance, some0 you know, whatever, simply disappears.

It is either about business and the cash coming out of it or it is about sex. Sometimes it is both.

This is all profoundly wrong in my books, but when I look around, I see a number of people struggling to make their ends meet and get laid. With neither time nor any genuine interest for any form of normal friendship.

Such guys soon lose any sense of orientation and subscribe to a limited vision:

It is either $$$ or or they are outta it...

SC

 

[bedbugy]

look at it this way you had a lousy night it's gone
don't dwell on yesterday today is a new day walk tall fuck the bastard look for ward chin up smile you won it was him doing the chaseing not you your a winner

 

[Christopher123]

if you flirt with anyone but me *I* will be pissed,

and I'll come spank your hot, tight, enticing ass.

LOL, I'd probably like it

 

[Christopher123]

Such guys soon lose any sense of orientation and subscribe to a limited vision:

Extrememly limited vision

 

[Christopher123]

look at it this way you had a lousy night it's gone
don't dwell on yesterday today is a new day walk tall fuck the bastard look for ward chin up smile you won it was him doing the chaseing not you your a winner

Thank you, I appreciate that

He was pretty drunk and might not even remember any of what he said, but it still pissed me off at the time. And earlier than evening he was telling me that my friend Kathy wanted him sexually but he wasn't attracted to her. I have no idea why he was telling me that.

He's obviously just vain.

 

[tmb1]

Sorry if this is a wrong assumption but it sounds like just another sad story of things that go wrong when one or both parties are closeted in the situation. Instead of going off on him why couldn't you have just said you were flattered but no thanks. The way you made it sound was like you were some "straight" dude who was offended that this guy was getting the wrong idea. He was probably just lonely or horny or both, and we have all been there, so try to give him a little bit of a break. If you are both closeted at that bar it could have been an opporturnity to have a friend to chum up with there. And if you are "out" there, at what sounds like a straight bar, then really you could have been more compassionate to him. He may have been drunk but he did have the balls to make a move on something he wanted which maybe you should have done with the other guy.

 

[Christopher123]

then really you could have been more compassionate to him. He may have been drunk but he did have the balls to make a move on something he wanted which maybe you should have done with the other guy.

Well, you're probably right. I guess it was just that whole heat-of-the-moment thing, it kinda hurt that he assumed the only reason I was talking to him was because I wanted something. Most of the time I'm not really bothered by this kind of thing. I've been through it before and 99% of the time I kindly decline and move along. But this wasn't just your average person I don't know, it's somebody I've known for quite a while. And I guess it bothered me more than it would if it was someone I didn't know because he made it sound, from the things he was saying, that he's been thinking this of me the whole time we've known each other. Like he KNOWS why I've been talking to him all this time. And that kinda hurt.

In most cases, yes, I'm flattered by the attention. Who wouldn't be? But when a friend says that kind of stuff to ya, it slices a little deeper than it does if it would come from a stranger. You know what I mean?

I'm sure I'll talk to him again. Like I said, he probably won't even remember saying it. And I guess I should have been a little less harsh. But I simply reacted. Cuz it hurt when he said that.

Thanks for the input. I'll talk to him again because I really wanna find out WHY he thinks all this stuff.

 

[slobone]

The nerve of that guy to think he had a chance with you when everyone knows you're an 8 and he's only a 7.5! He has no right to assume that somebody who comes into a gay bar is looking to hook up even though that's exactly what you were trying to do with that other guy who was "so friendly" to you and turned out not to be interested in you after all, so you took out your resentment on your friend. Sorry, ex-friend.

Ah, the joys of gay social life.

 

[Christopher123]

The nerve of that guy to think he had a chance with you when everyone knows you're an 8 and he's only a 7.5! He has no right to assume that somebody who comes into a gay bar is looking to hook up even though that's exactly what you were trying to do with that other guy who was "so friendly" to you and turned out not to be interested in you after all, so you took out your resentment on your friend. Sorry, ex-friend.

Ah, the joys of gay social life.

No, this isn't a gay bar. It's just your average place.

And okay, point taken. I was just bummed out about it and venting. I'm sure I'll get things straightened out with him.

I guess maybe I did overreact a little bit