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im still girly

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Karate isn't masculine. Its for everyone.

Football is masculine... try football instead.

If you don't want to be girly then umm... Try taking hormones or something. I want to... Just to see how much more manly I become!

Anyway. You can't really change how you are that easly, but if you really want act more like a guy, then try doing things that masculine guys do.

Wrestling, football, rugby, etc... Hmm. Those stports are kinda gay though with all the grappling, touching, grinding of the built male body, and atitudes.

You get it...
 
juicyflower said:
Im not ashamed with my homosexuality but people can find me easily as a homosexual from the way i speak, the way i move. I had tried work out with masculine's sports such as karate, etc. But still, im still girly.
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Lots of men set off my gaydar - and even some who probably think they're very masculine. I wouldn't worry about it. It just sounds like you're very self-aware, and not probably as girly as you think.

I was wondering why you placed this thread in this forum?? It doesn't seem to fit in the daddy-bear-chubby area and it looks to me like it could go in HT or Coming Out. By the way, the adult content aread are really intended for all the erotic pics, porn links, and xxx stuff.

Thanks.
 
Zeremonie said:
Lots of men set off my gaydar - and even some who probably think they're very masculine. I wouldn't worry about it. It just sounds like you're very self-aware, and not probably as girly as you think.

I was wondering why you placed this thread in this forum?? It doesn't seem to fit in the daddy-bear-chubby
Thanks.
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I sometimes feel a bit girly because of the way I talk when I'm being silly, which is alot of the time.

PS: He just joined, so maybe he doesn't know where to put it.

Noobs... :badgrin:
 
My best advice is to just be comfortable with who you are................
 
juicyflower said:
im hairy, chubby......... and girly... i had tried to speak manly but its weird, just like u r wearing swimsuit when u r in office... am i in wrong subject?:confused:
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You've started an interesting discussion thread. But we're not discussing anything porn related. We're not discussing any bears. We're not even talking about what it's like to be hairy and chubby.

When you click on this link here you see all the "adult content" areas of JUB. The idea is that this is the area where all porn and porn-related content goes.

Truthfully, I think your thread fits best in the coming out are of the board. That's a very nice safe place to talk about all aspects of discovering that you're gay, and everything that goes along with that.

If you really want this thread to stay in this forum, I'll leave it, but it just doesn't really fit.

Another thought I had for you: You might not be as girly as you think you are, but has someone else commented to you this? Or do you get noticed? Because you're friends will like you for who you are, and if others give you negative comments because you're supposedly 'girly' I'd ignore it.
 
If your main concern is with the way you act and the way you are perceived, then that is what you need to worry about. My advice would be to take an acting class. I hate to say it, but if you tell a lie enough it becomes the truth. It may seem uncomfortable at first to put on a manly voice or to squash your feminine side, but with enough time and effort it will come naturally to you. Deep down inside you'll still be "girly" as you say, but it will no longer be the way people see you.
 
juicyflower said:
Im not ashamed with my homosexuality but people can find me easily as a homosexual from the way i speak, the way i move. I had tried work out with masculine's sports such as karate, etc. But still, im still girly.
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there is absolutley nothing wrong with being girly, or femenine. Don't let anyone EVER make you feel that way. But i mean, if u want to try and be manly, then...idk lol. All im saying is...don't try to be manly, and don't try to be girly. Just be you...and if you happen to be on the girly side, thats perfectly fine! Don't go thru life trying to be something you're not.

:-)



Ugh, i just read some of the replies here....and some of the advice is ridiculous. I guess you could take an acting class, and live ur life always acting and worrying about coming off a certain way...but if ur gonna do that, then u might as well just go back in the closet :-)
 
I remember when I was back in my 12-13 years old, I was finding out I was gay adn I knew I was different from other boys. I used to train A LOT in front of the mirror, the way I spoke, the way I laughed, the way I talked... trying so very hard to avoid being girly and this self-repressing behavior plagued all my teens.

I ended up develping into an extremely serious and instrospective guy who would only get good grades and hardly communicate with others.

Today I'm 24 y/o, most people can't tell I'm gay... though I'm not sure if repressing myself so hard was worth it.
 
Just be who you are. Some guys try too hard to be masculine and it looks ridiculous and even a bit desperate. The more comfortable and confident you are in your own skin the more appealing you will be to everyone.
 
Lots of girly boys are cute! I say embrace your girliness and have fun!:=D: ..| :D
 
I completly sympithize wiht you juicy. It seems more and more the gay community is looking down at gay men who act too effeminate. And worse off the only thing that seems good enough is this rebirth of uber masculiny. Complet machoism. Absoutly no room for the middle man. For a little glimer of hope for you. At the age of 18 i came out and i came out as gay as gay could be... it was repressed for however many concious years of my childhood whatelse could it do but explode out of me. I dressed faboulusly, had a bounce in my step and every time i would leave the house it was like gettin ready to preform. every thing had to be right. As time goes on, the gayness kinda goes away... now at only 26, all i need is some jeans and a t-shirt, what ever shoes are around and sometimes *gasp* even a basball hat!

I work out 4x a week (hello! i'm gay its required!!) and even thought i'd like to try and play rugby...THIS IS THE IMPORTANT PART... but never did because people told me it was out of my character, and to be the gay boy i was! The reality was though, i was growing out of that stage.
There is nothing wrong with change, and if you are that uncomfortable wiht something, find what makes you happy. But do it for yourself and not to please whats going on around you. And there is nothing wrong with realizing i am just as comfortable this way as the way i was before. good luck!
 
You don't have to be gay to be girly, and vice versa.

Though it might bother you, fine. But looking over the other posts, I think you're missing out on some sort of cuteness factor.

Run with it, see where it gets you.
 
Okay, I always wishes I wasn't kind of girly - but I just am. I'm not Jack of "Will and Grace" but the minute I open my mouth the faggot just falls out. What is amazing to me is the popularity of girly guys - we'll remember Jack much longer than we will remember Will - and on "Ugly Betty" - it is Michael Urie as Marc who makes the single biggest impression on me - perhaps it is the outrageousness.

So, the upshot - once you get past that god-awful high school (at least for me) people judge you more for who you are, your expertise, and not so much on whether your wrist is limp.
 
the way you discribed yourself sounds very sexy too me.why should you wanna change it baby?
its a gift!
 
Tips for being more BOY:

1. NEVER take steroids. They mess you up years later.

2. Start with push ups and work your way up to some light weight training.

3. Find some cool looking clothes . A new look always makes me feel better.

4. Pay close attention to your straight friends. How they walk, talk and sit. It takes just as much effort to act masculine as it does to look feminine. Sometimes we can benefit by observing other people.

5. Be careful with those "S's". Are they very sharp? Scale down on those razor sharp S words.

6. By working out, finding a new look and making a little effort you can begin to feel a bit more confident about yourself and that is the key. Feeling better and accepting yourself is the most important thing.

7. Don't care about what others think. They are too busy worrying about thier own problems.

8. Be yourself. just make it a better version of yourself.
 
Guys,

Juicyflower and the others of you who have expressed concern over this issue...take heart friends that while society has its share of judgemental and bigoted people it also has a huge amount of caring and loving ones as well.

This should not be about you trying to conform to what you think others find hot or better. This should not be about you feeling that you have to change. This should not be about shame or fear of acceptance.

This should be about others learning to honour value and love the diversity of others. This should be about the ability of others to respect those around them. This should be be about acceptance.

Dont ever change guys. Dont try and be something that you're not. Its not a load or burden that you need to carry. You're the way you are because thats the way you are...caring, loyal, honest, truthful, loving...

Forget the need to fit. None of us do. And thats the beauty of it.
 
I say you learn to love who you are.

there are plenty of men out there who'd love a chubby, hairy and vaguely effeminate man who knows Karate.

(And ignore whoever that was who suggested hormones.. that's the stupidest piece of advice I've ever heard. Hormones won't change the way you act.. they'll just make your balls shrink up and make you grow hair in bizarre places.)
 
I understand why you wish you were less effeminate. Its hard to be an easy target for cruel people.

I agree with Tallguy and all of the others, though, who are advising you to be yourself with no apologies, no changes. That seems to be the surest path to loving yourself.
 
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