I'm unconsciously rude to women

[rareboy]

The likelihood is that the OP is rude to men and women...but I have seen this before and it has nothing to do with sucking cock.

Some boys were raised to regard women as inferior. Full stop.

Some boys, denied a real, fullsome interaction with girls and women through school or work, have this macho edge that is basically misogynistic.

And they are str8 and homo.

We have a choice. Behave like an alpha asshole, or regard women as THE ABSOLUTE EQUAL OF MEN.

Not so hard to do.

 

[LeicsDom]

So, I've had several friends over the years tell me that I'm rude to women that I'm not friend with. I don't know if it's because I'm gay and I don't care what they think of me. Ever since I was made aware of this many years ago I have tried to watch out for it. And I thought I had changed. But recently, my maintenance guy told me that some female tenants are upset with me because I'm rude to them. I guess I'll start working on it again.

Why be rude to anyone for no reason?
I was brought up to be considerate to other people, no matter what I thought of them privately
With close friends we are incredibly rude about some people we meet or see. But we would never dream of saying those things out loud where others can hear them

 

[LeicsDom]

Men are expected to extend certain courtesies toward women such as holding doors open for them. I often wonder if this stems from the fact that they're likely to have their arms filled with babies or that men just want to be polite so women will fuck them.

I do that for anyone, regardless of their sex or loaded arms

 

[NotHardUp1]

What kinda quiche are you eating?

Placenta

Polenta! It's called PO-LEN-TA!!

 

[NotHardUp1]

So, I've had several friends over the years tell me that I'm rude to women that I'm not friend with. I don't know if it's because I'm gay and I don't care what they think of me.

How absolutely absurd.

Are they total idiots?

You're a degreed engineer, for fuck's sake. Who could possibly expect an engineer to observe civilities?

If you've even acknowledged they are women, you've more than met expectations.

They're probably just some kind of social nymphomaniacs and can't get enough. Yeah, that must be it.

 

[Kahaih]

We still don't know any details.

The landlord / tenant relationship is a business arrangement. Not a social/chummy situation.

For all we know, the op simply asked them to try to pay their rent on time.

I'd like to know not only what was said by whom, but how, under what (gossiping?) circumstances the maintenance guy came by this information/accusation. Was he also badmouthing the op at the time- a typical disgruntled employee scene?

Some of you are assuming way too much.

 

[NotHardUp1]

We still don't know any details.

The landlord / tenant relationship is a business arrangement. Not a social/chummy situation.

For all we know, the op simply asked them to try to pay their rent on time.

I'd like to know not only what was said by whom, but how, under what (gossiping?) circumstances the maintenance guy came by this information/accusation. Was he also badmouthing the op at the time- a typical disgruntled employee scene?

Some of you are assuming way too much.

I don't want to know any of that stuff. It will only lead to people believing what they read here is somehow factual.

This is an online forum. It's for regurgitating biases and implying they are in the majority.

 

[Thad1527]

You may be misinterpreted. Some people aren't used to be spoken to directly or frankly.

I don't advocate rudeness. But if you're OK with your level of kindness, I wouldn't worry about it.

 

[Rickrock]

We can only guess without knowing you better. It could be that you are short and curt and someone takes that as rude, that you talk down to women. I expect that in many cases women are more likely to be hurt by what someone says or doesn't say but men would just shrug it off. These are just some guesses.

 

[NotHardUp1]

On a side note, we should refer to humans as being equivalent, not equal. We are not equal, not genetically, not mentally, not physically. But, those differences deserve equal standing and respect and privilege.

Women are never going to go into the trades in the same numbers as men, not just because of social conditioning, but because of physical attributes vs. the brutality of construction work, etc. Men are never going to go into teaching preschoolers in the same numbers as women, because we want the children to live. Most of them.

Equal rights. Equivalent skills/attributes/traits/value.

 

[peeonme]

I would tell you that in my business I was well aware that I was at times abrupt and rude to a lot of women and some men. Velcro people are selfish and don't care how much of your time they waste, you can't make a smooth exit. The moment I heard the line "I just went through a bitter divorce" I knew that they needed a therapist not a lawn maintenance person. Life is too short to do the dance with people just to make them feel better.

 

[Dominus]

I would tell you that in my business I was well aware that I was at times abrupt and rude to a lot of women and some men. Velcro people are selfish and don't care how much of your time they waste, you can't make a smooth exit. The moment I heard the line "I just went through a bitter divorce" I knew that they needed a therapist not a lawn maintenance person. Life is too short to do the dance with people just to make them feel better.

LOL ever since I got into the rental business, I've been acting as a father figure, mother figure, couple's counselor, etc. Pretty much a go-to guy for everything. Don't know why some people think their landlord is the answer to all their problems.

Recently, I've been getting text messages from a girl. The girl and guy are a couple. Live in one of my apartments. They have been fighting for a few days now. Yesterday, I got a text from her saying he broke into her things and stole her sex toys... yeah... I texted back saying if a crime has been committed, please call the police. I later got a text from the guy saying he returned her stuff.

 

[ShadowCat]

It may be like me you have a severe allergy to lack of common sense/intelligence! I tell you I do not suffer fools lightly and as a species women can be quite ditzy.