Immediately wrong love at first sight

[freefall]

Have you ever seen/heard something/someone (anything in fact) that catch your eyes and then you immediately took a liking to (or turned you on in the case of men) - only to instantly within a few seconds later found out that that was actually not your taste, or even to dislike or be repulsed by it?

Me, with music: many times.
Me, with clothes: so many times.
Me, with men: also so many times.
Me, with general beauty that concern humans: yet also so many times.

 

[peeonme]

With some people, at first they seem fine, but as I get to know them I find that they aren't as they first seemed.

 

[nycguydowntown]

yeah I do it with straight guys all the time

 

[eastofeden]

My first instincts are usually correct...

There were many times a person had to grow on me...and I learned to like them....most times I know right away though....

Rarely is it the other way around though...if I like someone right away it rarely changes....

 

[Harke the Boeotarch]

With some people, at first they seem fine, but as I get to know them I find that they aren't as they first seemed.

 

[freefall]

With some people, at first they seem fine, but as I get to know them I find that they aren't as they first seemed.

I don't think you could get to know people in the matter of seconds.

My first instincts are usually correct...

There were many times a person had to grow on me...and I learned to like them....most times I know right away though....

Rarely is it the other way around though...if I like someone right away it rarely changes....

My instinct for anything right away is usually correct when it revolves dislike. I can dislike someone on first sight, even without apparent reason, even to someone who seems angelic and amiable to other people, and then it always turns out that person I dislike has something not right going on.
With like ... second impression is important to me.

 

[G-Lexington]

Music - all the time. There exists somewhere in print a list of my top albums of a particular year, and I cringe every time I think of what I placed at the number one spot. I literally have listened to that album once since that list was published, and it did NOT hold up well at all. Since then, I'll simply say "I'm really enjoying this album. I'll have to spend more time with it to see how I really think of it."

Clothing - no. I can't recall the last time I bought a piece of clothing, and then decided I didn't like it. I seem to recall getting one home, and finding it fit poorly, but that's presumably not the same thing.

Men - not for many many years. It's always been "what I know about you is quite appealing. I'll learn more, and see if you continue to entice me."

Lex

 

[eastofeden]

My instinct for anything right away is usually correct when it revolves dislike. I can dislike someone on first sight, even without apparent reason, even to someone who seems angelic and amiable to other people, and then it always turns out that person I dislike has something not right going on.
With like ... second impression is important to me.

I often tell people I am empathic..not psychic...so when I get a bad vibe from someone...and often times it is someone everyone else likes alot....I never know what is wrong...but I always find out as time goes along....

Over the years..I get alot of "How did you know so and so was this or that...blah blah blah..."

I turned the question back to them finally....

"Uh..how did you NOT know?..."

 

[peeonme]

I don't think you could get to know people in the matter of seconds.



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I get mad at myself for having not learned that after all of these years.

 

[xyxyxy]

With some people, at first they seem fine, but as I get to know them I find that they aren't as they first seemed.

this is how a feel about some of the females that I ended up catching feelings for

 

[NotHardUp1]

My response to people is behavioral. I may or may not be drawn to their appearance, but their courtesy, intellect, charity, wit, productivity, creativity, and charm is all behavior and that is what ultimately makes me attracted.

 

[mcbrion]

I often tell people I am empathic..not psychic...so when I get a bad vibe from someone...and often times it is someone everyone else likes alot....I never know what is wrong...but I always find out as time goes along....

Over the years..I get alot of "How did you know so and so was this or that...blah blah blah..."

I turned the question back to them finally....

"Uh..how did you NOT know?..."

You must be an INFJ in the Meyers-Briggs. "The INFJ personality is able to detect good and evil in a person, although they cannot tell you how they know. Subsequent events, however, usually prove them to be correct." 1% of the population are INFJs.

 

[eastofeden]

You must be an INFJ in the Meyers-Briggs. "The INFJ personality is able to detect good and evil in a person, although they cannot tell you how they know. Subsequent events, however, usually prove them to be correct." 1% of the population are INFJs.

My husband in an INFJ and he is excellent at detecting good and evil...like 100%...and I trust him completely when he says he has "resistance" to someone....

I am an INFP...but also a physical empath..so I have physical reactions. I try really hard to look for the good in someone though so when someone makes me physically ill...I want to know why.

He doesn't care. He trusts his initial reaction and he is always right as we find out later....

I am too...but I try to figure it all out along the way...usually a waste of time....

 

[freefall]

^Interesting. Based on various repeated tests, I tend to sway between INFJ and INFP, mostly INFJ (the J and P's difference is often by a thin red line). I don't know any other of my pals/friends who are also INFJ/INFP (I guess it's kind of rare) so I don't know about this trait.

Men - not for many many years. It's always been "what I know about you is quite appealing. I'll learn more, and see if you continue to entice me."

But there should be one of those moments when you saw a man, found he's attractive, then took another (longer) look, and found that attractiveness becoming meh, then you pondered awhile what you actually found for a second appealing from this meh-looking man

 

[Harke the Boeotarch]

Music - all the time. There exists somewhere in print a list of my top albums of a particular year, and I cringe every time I think of what I placed at the number one spot. I literally have listened to that album once since that list was published, and it did NOT hold up well at all. Since then, I'll simply say "I'm really enjoying this album. I'll have to spend more time with it to see how I really think of it."

My life got better after I acknowledged that I have no taste in music.

Clothing - no. I can't recall the last time I bought a piece of clothing, and then decided I didn't like it. I seem to recall getting one home, and finding it fit poorly, but that's presumably not the same thing.

Don´t buy clothing at all apart from cheap socks every once in a while. It´s prohibitively expensive and fairly poor quality here and generally doesn´t fit very well. My mother does buy me clothes from time to time, however.
I thank her but secretly I hate it.

Men - not for many many years. It's always been "what I know about you is quite appealing. I'll learn more, and see if you continue to entice me."

Lex

Never expect people I had sex with immediately after noticing them to not let me down from time to time.

Do think that hookup sites make possible behavior of a lousiness that almost never happens when you meet someone in person.

 

[G-Lexington]

But there should be one of those moments when you saw a man, found he's attractive, then took another (longer) look, and found that attractiveness becoming meh, then you pondered awhile what you actually found for a second appealing from this meh-looking man

"He has a hot ass, but his toxic personality overpowers it." Not much pondering necessary.

Lex

 

[Harke the Boeotarch]

"He has a hot ass, but his toxic personality overpowers it." Not much pondering necessary.

Lex

The so-called ´attitude´. It´s never clear to me where it comes from or what its use is.