Important Question

[lifegboi001]

Okay... So here's the deal. I am a 19 year old guy who is in college loving life. I have had my fair share of blowjobs and fucked a couple of guys but there is a constant problem I run into. None of the guys have been able to make me cum so I always have to finish myself. I was wondering if there was something I could do to have my first orgasm from a guy because some guys have almost gotten me there but then just gave up. Help me lol!

 

[fabulouslyghetto]

Try doing it backwards.

 

[lifegboi001]

Try doing it backwards.

Like a guy fucking me?

 

[quasar]

I've moved this to Health & Wellbeing where sensible answers from level-headed people reign over 'smart' answers from 'clever' people!

 

[kallipolis]

Okay... So here's the deal. I am a 19 year old guy who is in college loving life. I have had my fair share of blowjobs and fucked a couple of guys but there is a constant problem I run into. None of the guys have been able to make me cum so I always have to finish myself. I was wondering if there was something I could do to have my first orgasm from a guy because some guys have almost gotten me there but then just gave up. Help me lol!

Our brain is the ideal aphrodisiac. Thus the fantasies that we create to enable us to masturbate are the stimuli that signals our genitalia into responding to our brain's commands.

In our sexual interactions with other people our partner's stimulus of our erogenous zones further amplifies our fantasies enabling our brain to respond to that stimuli by signalling our genitalia to ejaculate at our discretion.

Assuming a more relaxed state of mind, during sexual interaction with a partner, permits the person experiencing retarded ejaculation to more fully enjoy the experience. Giving time to relaxing foreplay, and genitalia stimulation before engaging in heavy sexual activity, does enable a couple to better appreciate full sexual interaction, when experiencing fellatio and penetration of the anus.

Some very young gay men experiencing sex with men are still inhibited by their sense of guilt in engaging in sexual activity with other men. This guilt is the result of society's influences on our choices.

The process of liberating our self from such self inhibiting fears is a matter of coming to terms with our sexual person. Becoming comfortable with our sexual orientation takes time.

When we appreciate that our concerns are all in the mind, we soon learn that the solution to our concerns, is also a matter of our adjustment to our growth into becoming an adult, who is well able to live in reflection of our naturally occurring sexual orientation.

 

[KaraBulut]

The good news is that you are able to come. Quite a few guys in this circumstance cannot come at all.

In most cases, this comes down to two issues:

1. You've been masturbating for a few years and have gotten accustomed to the feel of your own hand. Nobody knows all the right places to hit better than you. So, another guy will have trouble matching the speed, rhythm, grip and all the other things that you do to get yourself off.
2. It's not uncommon to have trouble sleeping with another person and trouble relaxing enough to come, It takes time. Sometimes it helps to develop longer term relationships - a boyfriend or a fuckbuddy- with whom you feel comfortable. As you get more comfortable with that person, it will get easier to relax and let yourself go (whether the issue is sleeping together or coming like Old Faithful).

 

[Seasoned]

I'd like to welcome you if I haven't already done so. As already stated, the brain is a powerful ally or foe when it comes to sex. Early on to get over whatever my subconscious mind was doing to me, I stopped masturbating before a date I was looking forward to. Being in need, I was able to cum. I haven't had any problem since. Good luck.