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In a happy straight relationship but am I missing out?

nh-wordsmith said:
This is a really key couple of sentences. Go back and read this a few times. Sex is ultimately valuable for couples because it enables bonding and trust through mutual pleasure. If "you're not interested" that means you're not actually doing that bonding and connecting -- and probably, from the sound of it, that's because you're more interested in bonding and connecting with other guys' bodies.
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Very well said! ..| A sexless marriage is not a marriage. A couple without sex is not a couple. If you're not interested in having sex with your girlfriend, you and your girlfriend are just roomates...just friends.
 
I have been married for 23 years to a woman. I consider myself gay, but could never leave her. I love her too much. It makes my life really difficult a great deal of the time, but I reassure myself how much I love her and what it would be like without her.

The hard part is we don't have sex anymore, I just can't bring myself to do it. She is fine with it and says she is happy but I wonder some times.

Since I am not bi I can't know how you would feel about the sex part, but I would take your time getting married if I were you.

O, and she does tell me I can have sex with men if I want, but I can't bring myself to cheat on her.
 
RobertE said:
O, and she does tell me I can have sex with men if I want, but I can't bring myself to cheat on her.
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You can legitimately choose not to have sex with another man (or anyone else for that matter), but in this instance I don't know how you can call it "cheating." Cheating is having sex with someone else behind someone's back and knowing they would disapprove. Your wife has given you permission.

You could be hung up on not having sex with someone else outside of the confines of your marriage. That's one issue. But, it's not a "cheating" issue and using that excuse probably obfuscates some bigger issues that should be addressed to be happy.

Good luck.
 
"You can legitimately choose not to have sex with another man (or anyone else for that matter), but in this instance I don't know how you can call it "cheating." Cheating is having sex with someone else behind someone's back and knowing they would disapprove. Your wife has given you permission."

You are so right.....Maybe I chose th wrong word. I did go out once to meet a guy and she knew I was going. It was after work. We didn't have sex, but my God I felt guilty.
 
Break it off. Stay single. That way you can have both sexes.
 
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