In love with a straight guy

[rareboy]

I think he only regard(s) me as his friend/buddy and chances of him going gay is very slim.

So what should I do?

See what I did there? By stating the obvious first and then asking the question after, the answer becomes quite obvious.

Get over it.

Stop having this fantasy relationship and crush and start investing your energy and effort into a real relationship.

If you have to, stop seeing so much of him.

 

[Under-taken]

General way to go is dont destroy what you have for something which you know isnt bound to happen

 

[Lord Booticus]

That's not love, it's lust.

Yeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeah, I'm inclined to agree with Elvin on this one. All you've spoken about is his body and how he likes the gym, it seems your infatuation with him is on a superficial level. Which is good =D, cause that means you just need to find another dude with a gym built body and poof, you'll be able to move on.

Take him up on his gym offer, scope out the other hot guys. If movies and stereotypes have tought me anything its that you'll find some hot gay guys at the gym. Or guys willing to do gay for pay.

 

[hotdog1846]

^ Um ... actually, I think the OP's situation is called "having the hots". Lots of love affairs start there, then develop into something deeper and longer lasting.

But yeah ... who here *hasn't* had the hots for a straight guy at one time or another? The thing is, straight guys are just that -- straight. They'll never feel the same thing for you as you do for them, because they're not the same as you.

I know it's difficult, but the best thing is to move on. Let go of the fantasy, and find reality with someone who's capable of returning your affections.

 

[ronboy]

Just to echo what was better said in more detail...

Be his friend and accept the terms of friendship as they are. If you can't move past those feelings, then you have to move on. It's not good for either one of you.

You are looking for, and deserve a loving relationship. He is looking for a male friend with his same interests. Hiding your sexuality does not help the long term friendship situation.

Wish that I could be more positive about my advice, but it a potential lose-lose situation that you are in right now...

 

[fetaby]

You ever watched a party on tv and when something major happens they pull the needle off the record and everything gets quiet? That's what happened when I read your post here.

I just play along with him and pretend to be straight because I don't want to lose a friend like him.

I really like him a lot but he's like as straight as an arrow ,so should I just forget about it.

I mean,it's not like it's going to work out and I really don't want to destroy a friendship.

To make matters worse,he's the only guy in his family.He has three older sisters.
I don't think his parents will be too happy to find out that their only son finally decided to go gay one day.

Lying about who you are is no way to go through life. How can he respect you?

 

[racer2438]

nothing but trouble will come of this if you pursue it other than just being a friend.

so either lose a friend-most likely

or keep a friend and keep your hands/dick out of it. and move on to someone that you can have.

 

[fetaby]

If that's what you choose to do, best if luck living in a day dream. And even more luck when that fantasy crashes around you and you're left with a shell of a person you know nothing of, yourself.

My advice is to stop wishing for a fantastic life and start living it.

 

[Nomenclature]

Your chances of getting him to "go gay" are just as good as him getting you to actually enjoy eating out a girl's pussy.

 

[Hot White Trash]

TV and especially porn are fantasy, in other words pure bs. There is no such thing as turning a guy gay, just as we can't be turned straight. Think about it - what if he said to you, "come on, we can be better friends if you turn straight." Can you be converted?

 

[nafhoosier]

I'm going to be open and honest to you.

It's great that your really like this guy, but he's clearly not gay. Just because he sits next to you in class and makes an effort to hang out with you doesn't mean he's interested in having an intimate relationship with you. After all, making an effort to talk to someone and hang out with them is how you make friends, right?

Nearly all my friends are 100% straight and yes, some of them are really attractive. I once in a while kid with them that if they were gay I'd go after them in a second. But they're not, and I might as well put my time and energy into pursuing a relationship with someone who will love me back in the way I'd want to be loved.

Does that mean you have to forget about him? No! It looks like you two have the potential for a great friendship! And I think you should come out to him. If he's truly a nice guy he won't care. Don't make a big deal out of it. Just casually mention it when the subject of women and dating arises. If he's anyone worth your time, he'll be fine with it and move on. Sometimes they like having a gay friend because they think it helps them get girls, lol.

But in all seriousness, move on. It's easier than you think, and better. I never really got the "straight guy" fascination in the GLBT community to be honest. Been there, done that. I like bi or gay guys who KNOW they like men!

 

[rareboy]

I feel like I'm caught up in that whole Luke,Noah situation from "As the World Turns"

I'm Luke. He's my Noah. My sweet,beautiful Noah. I want him so badly.

Except that in that show, Noah actually goes gay for Luke and they eventually become a cute couple.

How I wish this can translate to reality too.

I know it's just a tv soap but I'm sure there are real life examples of Luke & Noah too.

A lot of young gay guys want to be stars in their own movie.

I suspect you are going to thrive on the dramatic possibilities and your own anguish for many weeks to come yet.

Just remember though that it gets old pretty quick when you're living it 24/7 and not just tuning in for an hour each day.

 

[Treborf]

I see you're still holding out hope that he's gay and totally into you. Straight-guy crushes like this only get out of hand if the gay guy refuses to confront the reality of the guy's straightness. So allow me: this guy's not gay. You have no shot whatsoever with this guy. Not in a million years. He'd have sex with the oldest, ugliest woman alive before even considering anything with you. He'd probably be disgusted at the idea, except he's straight so it never even crossed his mind. You can keep pining after the guy if you want, but every time you feel yourself lusting after him, you should remember that it's just not gonna happen. Ever.

 

[soulseeker]

Your story is super romantic Maho!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!XD Go for it!!!!!!!!!!! Seduce him!!!!!!!!!!!! ^^

 

[ibill1]

There's no such thing as "going gay". One is either gay or not.

Exactly. I hate the statements of "Going Gay" or "Turning gay". You are either gay, bi, straight, or your not. Period

 

[rareboy]

Your story is super romantic Maho!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!XD Go for it!!!!!!!!!!! Seduce him!!!!!!!!!!!! ^^

Why am I not the least bit surprised by this response from you?

 

[Speeds]

If he's straight, then you should get over him before you get too deep. There's a lot of hot gay guys like him.

 

[BFizzle]

What should you do? Nothing. He's made it clear that he's straight. Respect it. If you don't want to lose him as a friend then you need to let it go.

Co-signing this.

 

[Nomenclature]

Someone please educate me:

How can you POSSIBLY be "in love" with someone who:

A) Expresses absolutely no affection or attention towards you, and

B) Is the opposite sexual orientation than you, and is very open and honest about it with you?

 

[Jayden]

The man likes vagina. Something you dont have. Stop fooling yourself into thinking that something 'may' happen. The longer your apart of this lie the more you will be hurt. As Cher said in moonstruck, Snap out of it.