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In love with straight friends

Which hurts more?

  • Being rejected by my straight friend I really like

    Votes: 8 18.6%

  • Being rejected by a gay guy I really like

    Votes: 6 14.0%

  • It hurts like hell, no matter what

    Votes: 29 67.4%
  • Total voters
    43
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A bunch of us were having a conversation the other night about which is worse--to be rejected by a straight friend (rejected used loosely--this includes knowing he's straight so you don't have a chance); or rejected by a gay friend; or, it hurts no matter what.

I guess I've had attractions to straight guys as well as gay guys. It's always hurt and bothered me more to be rejected/rebuffed by a gay guy than a straight guy. Dunno why--I guess I never thought I could compete for a straight guy and never really let myself go head over heals for one. I can understand, though, those who argued that it hurt like hell, no matter what.

What do you think? Does it bother/hurt you more to be rejected--or can't have--a straight guy you fancy, or a gay guy? Or, does it hurt like hell either way?
 
The more you wanted it, the more it hurts. So it just depends on who you want more.
 
It hurts no matter who is rejecting me.

However, it's easier for me, mentally, to rationalise the rejection and get over it if it turns out the other is straight.

But when someone of the like rejects me, either from the get-go or later down the road, I'm left wondering 'what about me do you not fancy.'
 
AaronG said:
The more you wanted it, the more it hurts.
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Indeed. In theory, I would say it would hurt more to be rejected by a gay person - because that means they just don't like you for whatever reason...where a straight person just CAN'T like you in that way even if they want to. But in the real world...it hurts ALOT to be in love with a straight friend.
 
"In this world, there are only two tragedies. One is not getting what one wants, and the other is getting it. "
~Oscar Wilde
 
to be honest, if your'e rejected by a straight friend, you need to get a grip.

If he's straight, you need to forget what the "gay for pay" sites have taught you (it's a freaking fantasy people, it doesn't happen in real life much and it never ends well), and accept that he's not going to go for it.

If you're rejected by a gay friend, you need to learn that friendship doesn't = love.

It's never good, but you need to start to learn that love isn't something that can be a one way street and has to jsut grow.

You can't wish a person into loving you.
 
I'm really starting to think I'm from another planet. Why are so many guys trying to seduce their straight friends? There's at least one post about this every day here, but I just don't get it.

Are there too few gay men around for you to go after one of them instead? Or is it some subtle psychological strategy for men who are scared of having sex with another guy? They only go after people they know aren't interested, that kind of thing.
 
When I was younger I had crushes on straight friends. I never ever told them about it and never would. I never really feel hurt either because I knew there was a 0% chance.

Being rejected by a single gay guy who I like, ESPECIALLY when he was showing signs of liking me that way, always hurts really bad. It hurts even MORE when the reason he rejected me was because of another guy.
 
Tell me about it.. I was in hell when I was in my senior year of high school with my best friend.. Now I'm back again, after I said I would never like a straight guy... Fuck, I hate this shit.
 
I'd have to go with averageguy, soilwork and slobone on this one. If you're certain that a guy is str8, then there's no point in trying to pursue anything more than friendship. I'd say being rejected by a gay guy would hurt more, since there was more of a real chance to be together, but just isn't interested.
 
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