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[Gay Angel]

I need some way to tell him without actually telling him.

Walk up to him when you're both alone, and lay one on him - give him a big - that'll let him know without having to say anything!

 

[xXblatinoXx]

well the only thing i can tell u is to tell him u love him before it's too late -- u may never get a chance to see him as often [if not at all] ; so just tell him ... who knows he may love u back

 

[xXblatinoXx]

well do whutever u feel is right ... that's all the advice i can give

 

[confusedboy23]

First of all, how sure are you that he IS into guys?

Beyond that, as xxblatinoxx has mentioned, you need to express yourself before it's too late. I know how you feel, and how scared and everything you can get, because I have been through it myself. But trust me on one thing - if you build up the courage and just say it all out - you will be a much happier person regardless of the outcome.

Good luck!

 

[looseliam]

Walk up to him when you're both alone, and lay one on him - give him a big - that'll let him know without having to say anything!

I really like this idea!!

 

[orem244]

Just tell him. If he's that good of a friend, he won't think any less of you for it (and, in fact, it will probably make you closer friends with him since you'll be able to be more honest with each other). If he reacts badly, then he wasn't that loyal of a friend in the first place and isn't worth your continued effort. That about sums it up... but definitely don't expect a relationship to come out of it, because honestly the odds are that he probably isn't gay himself. If you don't tell him, you'll never know what could have been.

 

[trawler69]

"Hey Chris do you remember when we had this conversation?"

Me: Chris (made up name, not his real one), I have something important to tell you.
Chris: What?
Me: It's important.
Chris: Oh god, don't tell me you're gay!
Me: No! You dork.

"well I was lying!" you did say he was laughing when he said it so he will be fine whether he is straight, bi of Gay.

 

[Gay Angel]

I'm thinking of telling him soon. We played around too, it was good fun. More nipple twisting.

Some more dirty talk, told him I wanted to suck his dick... didn't get any special response from him though, he just stared into space.


Ah, then I grabbed his nuts. He isn't totally against it since he pretty much does the same to me all the time in return.

Oh, to be 18 again... LOL

 

[Gay Angel]

Me too, sounds hot.

 

[RicanDAB]

Geez ... where are Soilwork's words of wisdom when you need them?

 

[luminum]

You have limited time. That's the universe telling you to do it or lose it forever.

So sit him down. tell him you're gay. Then tell himt hat you like him and you needed to tell him before he left forever.

If the world is playing your tune, he'll tell you that he's gay too and that he likes you too.

If the world is saving your song for another day, then he'll tell you he isn't and that he's disgusted with you and that'll be that.

And if on the chance that the world is playing a song that you'd like anyway, he might tell you that he's not gay, but that he accepts you, and is sorry that he can't like you back that way and you'll continue to be friends.

But the ppint is, get a move on! If he leaves and you lose your chance to express yourself to a friend who means this much to you, you'll kick yourself for the rest of your life.

The worst that can happen is that he rejects you and you never see him againa nd never have to think about him again. The best case is that he loves you backa nd you guys find a way to work things out despite the move. And the chances in between don't sound so bad, either.

Tell him, silly boy!

(That wasn't as good or terse as Soil, but...)

 

[trawler69]

My BF came out to an old friend yesterday on my advice, The friends reaction was "I am honored that you told me and I admire your bravery for doing so." I am sure if you phrase it right and don't make him feel crushed upon, you will not get a negative reaction. Good luck and do it before it is too late and before you get into the circle of over analysing. Take the advice of those looking from the outside, they can often see the whole situation more clearly.

 

[skaterboi]

If you've not got the courage to do something about it heres my advice.

Have him over and have a few beers/double vodkas a coke or what ever you drink. Follow this by a few shots of something like sourz, aftershock or what ever then when you're both quite drunk make a move, it goes wrong the next day you blame the booze and thats the end of it. It goes well then.... you get the idea.

 

[RicanDAB]

(That wasn't as good or terse as Soil, but...)

You're the next best thing ... so thanks!

 

[Riverrick]

I think you'd better tell him because I have a feeling you will regret not doing so for many years to come. You will always wonder "what if...?".

He means a lot to you and there is a reasonable chance he is gay, so why not go for it.

Do it. And then come back and tell us how it went. Good luck Galchovar!

 

[Riverrick]

Riverrick: I'd have to wait until Monday for that now. And I was about to tell him yesterday, but I forced myself not to even bring it up. I'm too afraid of how he'd react.

Quanchi: Those are very good ideas, but he'd probably think it were someone else because my voice changes. A lot... and if he freaked out he could show it to other people.




The reason I can't see him until Monday is because he went to this "Country Thunder" thing. I guess it's like a major event because my friend Wendy (not her real name either... sorry) went to it and was gone for about three days.


*Edit: But that just gives me more time to think about what I could do to tell him, since I go back to "square one" each time I see him. I guess not seeing him for a few days will help me build confidence?

Take your time. Think about it.

Try again another day.