Insulted? Embarrassed? livid? how should I feel?

[Croynan]

well give him credit for one thing - he has just told you all you need to know about him.forget about the texing, the phone, e-mails, skype, and the computer. drop him and don't waste another minute on him.

next date, set the rules in advance - cell phone off and no text messaging. you are there to meet and enjoy the company of a potential friend and if they can't be bothered to extend the courtesy to devote their attention to you - you don't need him/them.

it comes down to a couple of things: "fucking rudness," "lousy manners" and complete lack of sensitivity and consideration for other people.

eM.

 

[sabot3ur]

ew, he can snuggle with his damn self.

and I wouldn't say it's a sign of the times necessarily, everyone I know texts but aren't losers like that

 

[Yooper]

I'm in 100% agreement with you.

And the texting thing is just bloody annoying. One or two, fine. Any more, DIAL THE DAMN NUMBER AND SPEAK.

You don't have to have a marathon telephone call, two or three minutes should suffice. (I grew up on a 8 party line, and the limit for ALL calls was 3 minutes. God, I'm old. )

 

[StlKj]

If he knew he was helping the friend through the breakup before he texted you, then he was an ass for asking you to come over.

If he didn't, then he found out while you were together, which means he checked his messages while you were on a first date. Big no-no. He should not have even known about the breakup.

Too many people treat the ones they're with as less important that the ones they're not.

He blew it, you were right to be mad, and you'll hopefully put yourself first if it ever happens again.

 

[StlKj]

If you'd biked 13 miles to cuddle with me, you would have left with a big happy smile too, but not from a liquor.

Well, from a licker.

 

[MMMonsterBoy]

Unless it is important, I prefer texts to phone calls. I hate it when people call me to tell me about stuff I simply could care less about :/

Anyhow, I don't blame you for being mad. Friendships are important. As someone who has been on the other end (putting myself in the shoes of the friend going through the break up), it is also annoying when your best friend is putting you aside for someone else. Especially if you've been there for them. Nonetheless it sounds like he handled it all wrong. If one can't maintain friendships and a relationship (or something close to it), then something has got to give. I'm sure there was a way he could have helped his friend out without making you feel ignored. Some people can't appreciate a good thing when it is right in front them *sigh*

 

[jizzeater]

I didn't read the whole thread, but here is my opinion:

If I had woken someone up and made them ride their bike to my house in the middle of the night, they would get my full attention at the very least. This guy sounds like a self-centered jerk with ADD. I would tell him off and forget him.

 

[Scrub]

Why should you feel any of those things.

You're the one who decided to go. What did you really expect to get?

 

[KaraBulut]

Going to a stranger's house at 1AM in response to a text message.

This sounds like the beginning of a True Crime story.

Consider yourself lucky that your remains aren't in the landfill.

And don't do this again.

 

[Adrock-JD]

So apparently his friend got broken up with and I was fortunate enough to be allowed the privelage to be present while he consoled his friend over TXT's

I find this part to be highly suspect. Are you absolutely sure that was the actual situation? There could've been more to it than he was telling you.

Because if this is what blackberries have done to social behavior...

I will not be ignored - Glenn Close 'Fatal Attraction'

 

[boiseboy]

To be honest, that kind of sounds like me.
If I was put in a situation where I'm watching a movie i've already seen, and with a guy who i've never personally met, i wouldn't know what to say. If I don't know what to say, I whip out my phone and text.

But then again, he did invite you to cuddle and watch a movie, so i don't get why he would do that.
If i want to hang out with a guy a 1:00, it would be to hook up haha.

 

[GL]

you were wronged and had it happened to me i would be pretty damned upset.

sorry.

 

[hotdog1846]

Wow, the only time I've seen 5 AM in the past 20 years is when I wake up early.

Sounds like you maybe had a little crush on him, and are feeling jilted. Understandable. It's funny how different people are in real life compared to an online presence. People can compensate for all kinds of lack of social skills when they interface online, with the time to think about exactly what to say and do, and no heat of the moment.

Better luck next time.

 

[Yooper]

Going to a stranger's house at 1AM in response to a text message.

This sounds like the beginning of a True Crime story.

Consider yourself lucky that your remains aren't in the landfill.

And don't do this again.

You must remember this is Omaha.

They don't just roll up the sidewalks, they put them into storage overnight.

(Sounds like good service at the Chinese joint!)

 

[KaraBulut]

You must remember this is Omaha.

Perhaps, but have you ever noticed that it's always some small town where they end up digging up bodies out of someone's back yard?

And the neighbors always say, "He seemed so nice. We had no idea that he was a mass murderer."