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BOY 1 goes to a party. BOY 2 introduces himself to BOY 1.

In this introduction, BOY 2 is seemingly physically attracted to BOY 1.

The next day, BOY 2 adds BOY 1 to Facebook and sends him a message - it is very casual.

BOY 2 adds BOY 1 to MSN, and they have a long conversation. Very entertaining, lots in common. The only thing is the BOY 1 does not want a boyfriend, and just in case BOY 2 wanted to speak to BOY 1 for this reason, BOY 1 thought he should let BOY 2 know:

"No, no, no more boyfriends for me. I'm so done with boys, I'm too young!"

BOY 2 makes a joke of it...they talk for the next four or five days on MSN and Facebook. They continue having great conversations.

BOY 1 and BOY 2 meet for a coffee date and have a great time. BOY 1 once again tells BOY 2 that he doesn't want a boyfriend and doesn't want BOY 2 to get the wrong impression. BOY 2 is extremely understanding, although he does tell BOY 1 that he thinks he is very cute. BOY 1 is shy, says 'thank you', and on with the day...

BOY 2 invites BOY 1 to a party with him and his friends the following Saturday.

BOY 2 and BOY 1 go to this party together, with other friends involved. BOY 2 introduces BOY 1 to one of his best friends, BOY 3. BOY 1 and BOY 3 exchange a few words, nothing fancy.

BOY 3 adds BOY 1 to Facebook the following day, hoping BOY 1 had a good weekend and hoping to see BOY 1 soon. BOY 1 responds with a casual response...

BOY 2 invites BOY 1 to another party the next week. BOY 1, BOY 2, and BOY 3 attend this party. BOY 3 is clearly crushing on BOY 1. BOY 1 thinks BOY 3 is really cute.

BOY 1 and BOY 3 spend the night together, talking and kissing. BOY 2 shows obvious signs of jealousy and is made at BOY 1 and BOY 3.

BOY 2 thinks that BOY 3 is a horrible best friend because BOY 3 knows that BOY 2 has a crush on BOY 1.

BOY 1 is confused because he told BOY 2 that he didn't want a boyfriend...

BOY 2 won't speak to either of them.


Who is in the wrong here? Should BOY 1 be to blame because he is kissing BOY 2s friend? Should BOY 3 be to blame because he knew BOY 2, his friend, had a crush on BOY 1? Should BOY 2 relax because he knew from the beginning that he and BOY 1 would only ever be friends?
 
It sounds to me that Boy 1 was trying to let Boy 2 off easy because he wasn't interested. Boy 1 seems pretty interested in Boy 3 but is now tangled up with what he told Boy 2 and doesn't seem to know what to do. I think it's going to be hard for Boy 2 but I think he should go ahead and let Boy 1 and Boy 3 do their thing. Boy 3 was definitely kind of in the wrong for even trying if we was fully aware of what was going on between Boy 1 and Boy 2, but Boy 2 and Boy 3 need to not let another boy get in between their friendship. If nothing else maybe Boy 1 and Boy 2 can build a friendship of their own.
 
OOoooo! Been there, done that!

I was BOY 1, "My" Kev was BOY 3, and BOY 2 was a mutual friend of ours. BOY 2 eventually got all "Hissy", said we would Never "last", refused to talk to either of us any longer, sought a job relocation, moved to the east coast, and ended up marrying a Female! Haven't heard from, or about, him in Ages!

That was 27yr. ago. BOY 1 and BOY 3 are still together. BOY 2 "evaporated".

Who was "at fault"? Who knows, and who really cares, anymore? Sometimes, LIFE just Happens! Did we feel "bad" about it? Yes! But ...

There was also BOY 4, 5, 6, etc., etc., but those are completely different stories ... The main thing is, BOY 1 and BOY 3 have been a "constant".

You never know what LIFE might bring You! The only thing that YOU can do, is cope as best You can, go after what/who You want, and keep in mind that Everyone else is NOT Your responsibility! After all, THEY have to "cope" just like You, and the rest of us, do!

Wish them well? Yes! But, if Their hopes don't align with Yours ... well ... Sorry! ... but it just doesn't work out super "kewl" for Everyone! It's just the way it goes! #-o and ..|

Know what I mean?

Good Luck!! (group)

And, of course, no matter what ... and this is Very Important ...

Keep smilin'!! :kiss:(*8*)
Chaz ;)
 
My take? Boy 1 ought not to have lied to boy 2. He tried to let him down easy by saying no boyfriends, when clearly he wasn't attracted to him. Boy 3, if he wanted to remain friends with boy 2, should have told him he was crushing on boy 1. Boy 2 needs to toughen up and realize that chemistry trumps ethics.
 
I think boy 3 should have just picked up something heavy and thrown it at boy 1 or boy 2, because when boy 4 and 5 turn up and find out what boy 3 and boy 4 and boy 2 and boy 3 have been doin', the shit is just going to come spraying through the fan. And boy oh boy that will not be funny.

I think that all the boys might also try to grow up to behave like men.
 
Boy 2 needs to grow up, boy 1 wasn't interested, wasn't answerable in any way to Boy 2, who Boy 1 does or doesn't do is not his affair.

Boy 3 could have been more considerate, but really, boy 2 had no chance, boy 2 should stop letting petty jealousy over a guy he never had and was never gonna have fuck up his friendships.
 
Boy 1 should have been more honest to Boy 2. Honesty is always the best policy.

Boy 3 was a dick to Boy 2, but it's not Boy 2's fault, because he wasn't told he had no chance with Boy 1.
 
LOL, thanks.

I now feel better...

How about if BOY 1 and BOY 3 make out at a club, BOY 2 sees them and makes a big stink about it...
 
I think there's too much "Hills-esque" drama going on, and the Boys should just do whatever the hell they want to do, and stop acting like characters in soap operas.

And I think I'm very happy I never had to deal with any of this sort of thing.

Lex
 
Oh, I dunno. I think I need a scorecard to keep all the boys straight, er, uh ... to figure out who is doing what to whom.
 
just throw a friends with benefits party and see who comes out on top. if thats too hard to swallow then everyone should go home until they finish puberty attainment or get jobs scripting a stupid reality show for the gala channel.
 
Seen than...soon Boy 2 will start making all boy 3 and boy 2's mutual friends pick a side. Lots of awkward situations whenever boy 2's group meet boy 3's group especially if boy 1 happens to be around.
Yeah, the whole soap opera but that's just based on what I once saw.
You need to sit down and talk before it gets out of hand, and hope everyone can behave as a grown up, especially Boy 2

Hope everything comes alright, keep us informed.
 
DayDreamingBeast said:
Seen than...soon Boy 2 will start making all boy 3 and boy 2's mutual friends pick a side. Lots of awkward situations whenever boy 2's group meet boy 3's group especially if boy 1 happens to be around.
Yeah, the whole soap opera but that's just based on what I once saw.
You need to sit down and talk before it gets out of hand, and hope everyone can behave as a grown up, especially Boy 2

Hope everything comes alright, keep us informed.
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the latest is that BOY 2 and BOY 1 are having serious friendship issues. BOY 2, even though he and BOY 1 have only known each other for a month (and even though BOY 1 made it clear from the beginning that he never wanted to have a boyfriend), has developed feelings for BOY 1. BOY 2 now says that he needs time to rethink and reevaluate himself. BOY 1 likes BOY 2 as a friend - they have lots in common - but, BOY 2 says they can't speak until he gets himself figured out. BOY 1 obviously thinks it's extremely unfair. BOY 1 loses a good friend because BOY 2 can't get over his feelings for him, which are pretty much unwarranted...
 
Yeah, and I seem to be saying this a lot lately. Boy 2 needs to grow the fuck up and stop dropping his shit on everyone else. He definitely needs to realize that throwing a jealous hissy fit because the guy who doesn't want him, wants someone else is pretty much acting like a 14 year old girl.

Boy 1 needs to grow a pair and shut down boy 2 once and for all. If Boy 2 can't be his friend, then so be it, walk away.

I don't know what happened to Boy 3, but as a friend to Boy 2 he can either cater to Boy 2's jealousy (friends shouldn't poach guys their friends are dating, or even ex's without permission, but Boy 2 never had a chance and it's not betrayal if some guy you can't have wants a friend instead. Boy 2 doesn't own Boy 1, has no claim, no chance, and no right), or Boy 1 can tell Boy 2 to be a real friend and be happy that the guy Boy 2 didn't have a shot with seems to like him.

Everyone in this little drama needs to wake up and stop the high school before it gets even more puerile.
 
Well this boy just nodded off reading the latest escapades.

I can't even keep track anymore....
 
My best friend knows that if I really like someone, I will say, please try not to hook up with them while I'm trying to. If they really hit it off he will ask me and we will have a discussion and I will say something like, let me take him out again and see how it goes. If we strike out, then I'll probably be okay with it.

If I feel really strongly about it and put my foot down, he'll back off. It's called the guy code. Some people aren't really good friends though. Makes you wonder.
 
spencer said:
If I feel really strongly about it and put my foot down, he'll back off. It's called the guy code. Some people aren't really good friends though. Makes you wonder.
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I wouldn't ask my friends to stay away from a guy who has repeatedly told me he's not interested in me, I'm not a jealous, fragile, 14 year old girl. I'd be happy that one of us had a chance with him. It's called being a friend.

It's curious that Boy 3 needs to be a friend to Boy 2, But Boy 2's unrequited feelings get to dictate to everyone else. Where is the call for Boy 2 to be a friend to Boy 3?
 
TX-Beau said:
I wouldn't ask my friends to stay away from a guy who has repeatedly told me he's not interested in me, I'm not a jealous, fragile, 14 year old girl. I'd be happy that one of us had a chance with him. It's called being a friend.
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you gotta read the first part of my post first the second part is in context

spencer said:
My best friend knows that if I really like someone, I will say, please try not to hook up with them while I'm trying to. If they really hit it off he will ask me and we will have a discussion and I will say something like, let me take him out again and see how it goes. If we strike out, then I'll probably be okay with it.
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you're saying being a friend is giving open season to any guy by not standing in someone's way. I'm saying being a friend is giving at least some consideration, at least let someone try before you try. You'll have your turn soon enough, is it so hard to wait?
 
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