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Internet Dating Sucks!!!

KindredKian

KindredKian

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So it's been a while since I've been on a internet dating/hookup site, but last night after hanging out with a couple of friends I decided to see if my old accounts were still active on a few sites. I even posted a couple of new pics of myself as well. now i've been out of the loop for a minute, but this session was complete bullshit.....oh how things have changed. These are some of the things I ran into:

1.) Do guys my age (29) even acknowledge men of color. I don't know how many times I would send a message to a certain guy and get either no reply or be blocked. Shit a reply "I'm not interested" would be a whole lot easier to swallow than that shit.

2.) Do older men (35-50) have better taste in men or are they making their chances better by including more and excluding less. Either way, most of them were blowin me up on the IM. i just wish i was attracted to some of them.

3.) Men 55 and older are getting bolder, slicker, and scarier. Not that it's all bad or anything. They're more agressive than I remember.

4.) Most black men are snow queens. I don't know what's worse being denied by your own peeps or that hot blonde guy who blocked me for saying hi. :mad:

5.) Is the internet supposed to be a confidence booster cause I wish I had some of the confidence that some of these mingers have:grrr:


so I ask peoples should I just throw in towel and continue using the old fashion method of meeting people at bars and clubs or should I give the internet another chance?
 
Well I can't tell you about the "men-of-color" aspect of it, but let me tell you - the same thing happens to everybody :)
You only catch the interest of the wrong guys - and much of that. However, often there were quite a few hotties among them, and let's say I have made dates that I won't forget, and formed friendships* that I do not want to miss ;)

* it's not about hookups only :p
 
KindredKian said:
So it's been a while since I've been on a internet dating/hookup site, but last night after hanging out with a couple of friends I decided to see if my old accounts were still active on a few sites. I even posted a couple of new pics of myself as well. now i've been out of the loop for a minute, but this session was complete bullshit.....oh how things have changed. These are some of the things I ran into:

1.) Do guys my age (29) even acknowledge men of color. I don't know how many times I would send a message to a certain guy and get either no reply or be blocked. Shit a reply "I'm not interested" would be a whole lot easier to swallow than that shit.

2.) Do older men (35-50) have better taste in men or are they making their chances better by including more and excluding less. Either way, most of them were blowin me up on the IM. i just wish i was attracted to some of them.

3.) Men 55 and older are getting bolder, slicker, and scarier. Not that it's all bad or anything. They're more agressive than I remember.

4.) Most black men are snow queens. I don't know what's worse being denied by your own peeps or that hot blonde guy who blocked me for saying hi. :mad:

5.) Is the internet supposed to be a confidence booster cause I wish I had some of the confidence that some of these mingers have:grrr:


so I ask peoples should I just throw in towel and continue using the old fashion method of meeting people at bars and clubs or should I give the internet another chance?
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it sucks equally for everyone.
well you reject number 3) so what do you expect . :p
 
Telstra said:
it sucks equally for everyone.
well you reject number 3) so what do you expect . :p
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No I don't reject #3 if I'm attracted to them. I've just noticed that they have gotten bit more craftier and a little more internet savvy. Just not used to it thats all.:D
 
KindredKian said:
4.) Most black men are snow queens. I don't know what's worse being denied by your own peeps or that hot blonde guy who blocked me for saying hi. :mad:


so I ask peoples should I just throw in towel and continue using the old fashion method of meeting people at bars and clubs or should I give the internet another chance?
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On item number 4, I say used to be snow queens. More and more black men are going back to their roots and dating other men of color.

It is better to meet people the old fashioned way: in person, versus online. But I can't say bars will be the best environment for that.
 
KindredKian said:
No I don't reject #3 if I'm attracted to them. I've just noticed that they have gotten bit more craftier and a little more internet savvy. Just not used to it thats all.:D
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I agree with that.

And the other shit about guys ignoring other guys. Its like we're all online for almost the same reason so you might as well interact and stop being so cold. Its retarded but hey its the internet and it gives people false confidence and a bigger ego.
 
Use everything at your disposal to meet new guys. Assume it's going to be work and have fun with it. Thank the jerks who won't respond. They are saving you time and hope. Good luck.
 
I'll try to get someone. I'm just not ready for someone right now. I'll find him somewhere. Who knows, maybe I'll hook up with CudDull. Hahahahahahaha! lmao
 
KindredKian said:
So it's been a while since I've been on a internet dating/hookup site, but last night after hanging out with a couple of friends I decided to see if my old accounts were still active on a few sites. I even posted a couple of new pics of myself as well. now i've been out of the loop for a minute, but this session was complete bullshit.....oh how things have changed. These are some of the things I ran into:

1.) Do guys my age (29) even acknowledge men of color. I don't know how many times I would send a message to a certain guy and get either no reply or be blocked. Shit a reply "I'm not interested" would be a whole lot easier to swallow than that shit.

2.) Do older men (35-50) have better taste in men or are they making their chances better by including more and excluding less. Either way, most of them were blowin me up on the IM. i just wish i was attracted to some of them.

3.) Men 55 and older are getting bolder, slicker, and scarier. Not that it's all bad or anything. They're more agressive than I remember.

4.) Most black men are snow queens. I don't know what's worse being denied by your own peeps or that hot blonde guy who blocked me for saying hi. :mad:

5.) Is the internet supposed to be a confidence booster cause I wish I had some of the confidence that some of these mingers have:grrr:


so I ask peoples should I just throw in towel and continue using the old fashion method of meeting people at bars and clubs or should I give the internet another chance?
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It does appear that way @ times you just have to keep looking and be patient. Black guys shouldnt be "Labeled" just because some of us prefer to date out of our race. We all have that equal right to date who ever we want. Once I met a Single Black Guy through a mutual friend and the guy told me he "preferred" dating white guys but he was interested in dating me. I guess I should have felt "privileged"..:rolleyes:...Nice enough guy but I figured it would be a waste of time dating him knowing I would be dumped down the road for a white guy?

And guess who he's with today? A white Dude....He needed me to be his "Mr.Right now" until what he wanted came along...I don't think so...[-X.........
 
Yohan1989 said:
I'll try to get someone. I'm just not ready for someone right now. I'll find him somewhere. Who knows, maybe I'll hook up with CudDull. Hahahahahahaha! lmao
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Do I recall, I have a feeling about you, are you trying to hit one me rofl <3 :p
 
ravenstar said:
I was chatting on gaydar.com.au last night and I struck up a conversation with some guy in pvt, he seemed nice and we were chatting for quite a while. Then he told me he wasn't interested in chatting anymore cause he was too hot to talk to an ugly person :badgrin: The net provides opportunities to be rude that you can't do in person.

Also, whats a snow queen?
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a snow queen is a snow white look a like in my book !!! :wave:
 
^ yes, you heard me.
I what to change the "illogical" terms !!!
 
MoePhoenix7 said:
A black guy who mostly prefers to date white guys.

:roll:

*resists the strong urge to get started on the SQ subject*

OP, I feel your displeasure about that as well. Just keep hanging in there and do try other avenues to find and meet guys. ..|
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Thanks for the advice!!! I've got two more major events before the year is up, Kylie Minogue concert at Hollywood Bowl and Scottsdale fashion week. Hopefully I'll meet some guys at those events.

To be honest ten years ago I would have labeled myself a snow queen, but two years and a guy from israel later I was cured of that.

Even though I'm dating 1 person right now it's not exclusive and I'm not sure I want it to be after 3 months in. I'm just trying to keep my options open. JUB is the one place I can come and have a good online conversation. Most guys on other sites want to get straight to the action and I don't roll like that. I would like to get to know a person a little before we get to that unless they are really bringing a hottness I can't deny, but those are so few in numbers
 
ravenstar said:
Kindred, you'll love Kylie live. I've been to about 3 or 4 of her concerts when she's in Sydney and I've loved every one of them.
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I can't wait. I wanted to go see the X tour in england, but it sold out in like 12 minutes. I've been waiting 20 years for this and it's finally happening. She just better sing heart beat rock that's all I know.(!)
 
I'll tell you the race thing is just fucked all around. I have a friend (white) who got dumped by his bf because he told him that he had dated a black guy before him, which the bf said was "wrong".

Older men are often creepy on line, but the majority of them are fine upstanding gentlemen, a few of them just want to think they've still got it by getting with a hot young thing like you (or me;)).

On line or off guys looking just to hook up won't be courteous, you only mean one thing to them, and if you aren't what they want they won't bother being nice, yet another reason I'm relationship oriented.

I will add that the only truly deep and fulfilling relationship I've had (the current one) is with someone I met in my day-to-day life, not while I was looking online or elsewhere, and these things will surprise you.
 
OP, we are in the same boat. I started noticing a lot of times guys won't give you the time of day, if you are black, even if you aren't looking to date, but just socialize. What's worse though is when you get a guy that says he is interested in you and then final agrees to meet in person, doesn't show up.

I just want to scream sometimes out of frustration, because I'm a good, honest, decent looking guy (at least that's what I think and some others have told me, lol) that is just looking for some kind of break when it comes to dating. I hate getting rejected and screwed around all the time. ](*,)
 
Travisevian said:
It's interesting that you didn't mention men younger than yourself. I guess you're not interested in them.
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I like men period. If they are 18 or older, got a job, a car, can hold a decent conversation, and take good care of themselves then they have a pretty good shot with me. Throw in a british accent or a southern twang and your chances have doubled.:p


e2ksj3 said:
OP, we are in the same boat. I started noticing a lot of times guys won't give you the time of day, if you are black, even if you aren't looking to date, but just socialize. What's worse though is when you get a guy that says he is interested in you and then final agrees to meet in person, doesn't show up.

I just want to scream sometimes out of frustration, because I'm a good, honest, decent looking guy (at least that's what I think and some others have told me, lol) that is just looking for some kind of break when it comes to dating. I hate getting rejected and screwed around all the time. ](*,)
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It's funny cause if I just put a picture of myself up normal and clothed looking hot then I get few if any responses. Throw them a little flesh and no face and they freeze up your computer up.:confused:
 
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