Interracial Dating

[freespirit2005]

Any sympathizers out there? As a gay black male, I've noticed that I'm mostly (but certainly not limited to) attracted to preppier white guys. I don't really identify too much with one culture that much, but I find that i do in fact identify a little more easily with hip-hop culture yet i'm attracted to preppier white guy. My main question is are there any guys out there where the roles are switched i.e. preppier white guys like black men? Cuz I've found other black men like me but are there any of another race.

 

[3nipples]

I don't think "sympathizer" is the right word, but I'm attracted to guys from all races. It's not a question of identifying with their culture so much as their person.

Cultural differences, whether interratial or not, could be a reason to not get into a relationship, but the attraction would still be there.

 

[sissyboy]

It's all about whatever makes you happy in the pants.

 

[NongreasySweatproof]

The whole concept of using race as a criterion for mate-finding is lame, though, everybody does it on some level, even if it's subconscious. But for same-sex couples, there's no possibility of a kid coming out of the relationship. I think a lot of attitudes toward interracial dating are shaped by what people think the kids will look like. Certain combinations are considered more "acceptable" than others (or in some cases, even more acceptable than monoracial babies), which of course is ridiculous. If a couple thinks too much about what their kids will look like, they're in a relationship for the wrong reasons and are bound to be disappointed.

 

[3nipples]

From what I've seen, the resulting kids would be a good reason to promote inter-racial relationships.

 

[tx_doc]

As a mixed race individual, pretty much any person I date would be considered interracial.

 

[NongreasySweatproof]

I find a lot of folks who have recent ancestry in both east Asia and Europe, as well as people from the entire region between east Asia and western Europe, to be quite eyepleasing. Not that I don't notice hotties who don't fit that description. A lot of people seem to share my opinion, but I have mixed feelings about having such an opinion, especially because you hear people saying stuff like "he's XYZ and ZYX? He MUST be hot" - which isn't necessarily true. It also creates unfair standards for people who are XYZ and ZYX and are NOT hot.

Interracial relationships, and the offspring that result from them, are only "interracial" because we considered the two parent races to be two distinct categories to begin with, so there's an element of artificiality to the term.

 

[Riverrick]

I've seen a lot of mixed race couples in the gay world. I don't bat an eye at it anymore. I consider it normal, expected.

Do whatever rocks your socks. The last thing you want to worry about when you're gay is conforming.

 

[Oden_grey]

What I don't get is why people automatically think Black/(Any other Race) when they think of "interracial dating"?

I've seen interracial dating of whites/others especially Asians and I don't see burning crosses, family estrangement or abortions across the board (heaven forbid you give birth to a child with an ounce of black blood in him).

I suppose the reason for it all is that blacks are the last race to be assimilated into the greater culture and therefore irregardless of our contributions to society we will be seen as outsiders until such a time as we are deemed worthy by the so-called "master-races".

Racial issues and insomnia don't mix well with me.

 

[dkonfrost]

interracial dating isn't an issue for me personally. i've gone out with different ethnicities. diversity is fun

 

[wastingmymind]

Never went out with my own race.

 

[NongreasySweatproof]

What I don't get is why people automatically think Black/(Any other Race) when they think of "interracial dating"?

I've seen interracial dating of whites/others especially Asians and I don't see burning crosses, family estrangement or abortions across the board (heaven forbid you give birth to a child with an ounce of black blood in him).

I suppose the reason for it all is that blacks are the last race to be assimilated into the greater culture and therefore irregardless of our contributions to society we will be seen as outsiders until such a time as we are deemed worthy by the so-called "master-races".

Racial issues and insomnia don't mix well with me.

It depends on where you are. The most common "interracial" combination I see is some kind of Europeanish person with some kind of Asianish person, and where I am, people are more likely to think of that when they think "interracial." You are right -- fear of "miscegenation" is perhaps strongest when it comes to blacks and (some other race), though I'm not in a position to say anything intelligent about why that is, even if I disagree with that view. But I think that another part of the issue that you didn't mention is that if you're in the United States, when a lot of people think of "race," they think of black v. white. Even in areas with few blacks, like California or the Pacific NW, ask any schoolchild to talk about race, and they'll offer some kind of formulaic thing they were taught about "blacks and whites getting along." Same with coverage in the news about racial issues: it's always blacks, whites, and (depending on the story) sometimes Latinos. Asians, native Americans, and people who are none of the above are often just left out. It's a very simplistic formulation, but then again, so is any attempt to put people into neat racial categories.

 

[douseiai]

^ I agree it's about the person, at least from my perspective. I'm 'attracted' to many ethnicities and couldn't care less regarding said ethnicity if the clickage were there.

That's not to say I wouldn't be interested in the 'culture' of a given ethnicity, especially if important to the person, but one's ethnicity is of little importance to me when it comes to, as mentioned, 'clickage'.

i agree with this... i don't base guys by there race or culture i base them by them... i have known guys with stupid families but i still like the guy... if i like you then i like you theres not much that changes that and your body isn't one of them...

It's all about whatever makes you happy in the pants.

i also agree with this... if you make me happy in my pants who gives a fuck