You missed the point entirely.
You're straight. You've seen maybe, what, yourself and a couple of your friends, tops. You also seemed offended at seeing clits (really? The straight porn includes at least one - grow up, your future self with thank you.
Therefore you're unlikely to know the damned wide variation of what people look like. Thats why I mentioned porn viewing habits, if any.
You can go on and on about what you know, but the information you seem to be drawing from is kinda....washyat best, particularly including others non-reactions to you. And baby pictures. You know that female genitalia has a wide changing pattern throughout life, right? It's not supposed to look the same as your infant self or your 2yr old self ot your tween just-keep-aging-up. A bit of sarcasm at what the doctor considered a stupid question is what you've presented us with.
I said lodge a formal, written complaint if it bothers you that much. It's not as if you're the only one docs've been behaviorally lacking with, in my experience the profession encourages a kind of needed arrogance. Which is neither here nor there.
That was why I asked how large you were. Mind, a slightly larger size doesn't make ambiguous genitalia either. I can honestly say I've never, ever had someone go 'looks normal to me", sarcasticly during a questioning of the doctor or otherwise. Healthy, yes. But they're usually generally very careful to use normal in a particular way when dealing ambiguity, used as a description of averages.
So I'll repeat myself, now that you're aware you ain't supposed to look like a child and that the genitalia has a wide range anyway (I'd ask how many diapers you've changed but I suspect the point would still be lost.
Why do you think you're ambiguous? You say ambiguity but that describes nothing. I can tell you exactly how I'm ambiguous, so long as internal medicine stays out of the arena. (I was never that great at internal medicine. Always preferred studying skeletal and musculature for art). Anyway, Generally clit size is around a quarter of an inch to roughly two, although sometimes you'll find larger with no other ambiguities. Since a clit and a penis is roughly the same damned organ I'm doubtful you can recognize ambiguity. That means, aside from hood variation, that they look pretty damned similar.
Again. That's not counting the hood. A lot of women have large, even very large, hoods, which can make it look several inches long. Which makes it look like your clits sticking out (to be even clearer, some clits do stick out, that's also normal. Both labia have a range from 'non existent' to 'Damn!''. The hood (which is not the clitoris, just attached) more often than not makes your clit look much larger and causes such panic among you lot. Someone needs to start informing women they won't look the same ten, twenty years ago then they do now, school health classes suck.
In that vein, I'd encourage you to pull back the hood, Ms Seriously Offended at Seeing Clits (again, grow up) and measure with a cloth sewing tape from the base to the tip of the glans, (not the hood) and then slap it into google and watch how many people come up with your dimensions.
Or you can measure with a q-tip. You'll probably need a q-tip and a marker anyway if the issue is a large hood. Most of the larger hoods have smaller clits, shearly through statistics, I think, and I read somewhere that the q-tip should probably be damp otherwise you'll probably jab yourself. Past that I can't advise on measuring, as I have no hood and can't see for shit so someone else did.
I can damn near promise Google is your friend on this one, though. Go look at lots of women besides yourself and see how normal you are. There really is a wide, wide variation.
Unless you're at least two inches (current medicallese check mark - minus hood length. One goes up to three, which I thought a bit off (I'd say 2 1/2 tops) but depends on where their study was and the population in question, really). Also, if you do look up various papers on ambiguity and abnormality, I'd Ignore the 1.5 inch cutoff line in one of them, it's asinine in its shortness)
But, call me untrusting if you'd like, but some kinda actual acknowledgement by someone not online that you've nasty internal issues or had hormones or surgery or Jesus christ, anything but 'I dunno what humanity looks like 'down there', I'm straight! and I refuse to go looking so I think I'm odd' doesn't sit well with me. Get your reproductive health paperwork to bring your mother. You said you're infertile. Use that.
Someone on the internet going 'okay-then' is not actual acknowledgement of an issue. I'm pretty sure you already know this so I'm unclear why you have nothing but 'my doctor was sarcastic and my mother is obtuse' while expecting someone to pull a solution out of their ass for your believability to give to parents and medical professionals. So file a complaint form against the doctor. And I'm assuming your mother took the pictures so it isn't like she was unaware of your childhood form.
All that said, a large size doesn't mean intersex or even automatic ambiguity. I highly suggest signing up for therapy to work through self esteem and body issues though. And that rape history you mentioned isn't doing your brain any favors, make sure they're aware of that at intake as well, it matters.
