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"Intimate" sex?

Adam2299

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I'm 21 and I've had sex with a decent amount of guys (not a ton, but a good amount). I've had a few boyfriends in the past, nothing longer than a year though.

Anyway, last night I had sex with a guy I've been "dating" VERY off and on for the past 8 months or so. And for some reason... it was totally different than anything I've ever experienced in my life. Maybe it's the fact that I hadn't seen him all summer. Or the fact that we're sort of in love with each other and are still in denial. I don't know. It was hoenstly the most intimate thing I've ever experienced. It wasn't like we were just trying to get off, but we were there for each other. And it sort of hit me that this is what sex should be about. I'm all of a sudden disgusted with how I've slept with all these guys in the past just for fun, when there were no feelings involved whatsoever... I had no idea what I was missing.

I've heard people talk about how sex is different when you really care about someone, and I say "yeah yeah whatever." But honestly... it really is. I guess you can't really know that until you expereince it for yourself... it's almost too emotional to even think about (but I admit, it's been a stressful couple of weeks for me, so maybe that has something to do with it). But yea, I guess my mom was right when she told me sex is only good when you're "in love" with someone... sigh...

Anyway... anyone have any thoughts or experiences with this? I'd love to hear them.
 
Intimate sex kicks MAJOR ass.

I've said before that sex with a partner is like a steak, and masturbation is like a burger. (Yes, the steak is great, but nothing wrong with a burger.) Intimate sex is like perfectly aged, perfectly cooked filet mignon. A whole 'nother level of steak. :)

Don't feel disgusted with your previous experiences. They were still steak, after all. And the practice you got then probably made the "steak dinner" you had last night possible. ..|

Lex
 
Nothing like an aged, seasoned steak ;)
 
Intimate sex is the best. Not that hooking up sux, but when you are truly connected to another guy, nothing else matters. i'm in a relationship, and the sex we have is beyond sex. To me the best part about intimate sex is that we seem to read each others minds. I would much rather have incredible sex and then fall asleep in each others arms all night, then have a guy get up and leave after we cum.
 
I happen to have had that kind of experience yesterday, with the caveat that neither of us achieved orgasm. However, what we did was absolutely wonderful and my instinct told me he was enjoying himself very much indeed. It did worry me that he didn't come or seem too interested in cumming (he brought me to the edge a couple of times though, but I also was content with the kissing and cuddling). Could there be anything wrong with such a scenario?
 
Intimate sex between two people in love can be the best in a deeply satisfying way.

But I disagree with your mother that sex is only good when you're in love.

I've sometimes had mind blowing great sex with guys I didn't know. And I've had sex I didn't much enjoy, and felt crummy about afterwards, with someone I was in love with. I wonder if it's about honesty and being present and engaged, caring, rather than being in love.
 
>>>Could there be anything wrong with such a scenario?

There COULD be, but I don't think there is.

I've had sex with my boyfriend where one (or both) of us don't reach orgasm. It happens. But the sex itself is still amazing. You say you enjoyed yourself immensely, and he seemed to. That's pretty much all that matters. I'd suggest, next time, that you ask. "You want to finish? You mind if I do?"

Lex
 
My friend fucked me a couple of days ago and he came deliciously. It felt great for both of us. I didn't reach orgasm but it didn't matter to me at all. Just the intimacy we experienced during and the body contact for an hour afterwards was the real deal.
 
Oh yeah, "Intimate" sex is way, way, way better than "just" sex!

It's been a long, long, long time since I've had intimacy though. :(
 
It is the best.

But non intimate...works too.
 
Intimate sex is the best. Not that hooking up sux, but when you are truly connected to another guy, nothing else matters. i'm in a relationship, and the sex we have is beyond sex. To me the best part about intimate sex is that we seem to read each others minds. I would much rather have incredible sex and then fall asleep in each others arms all night, then have a guy get up and leave after we cum.

The mind reading part is def . amazing, I'd have to agree. And ye a, falling asleep in each other's arms... too good for words.
 
There is something about two people melting into one being (mind, body and spirit) while making *love* that cannot be put into words... It must be experienced!
 
Intimate sex between two people in love can be the best in a deeply satisfying way.

But I disagree with your mother that sex is only good when you're in love.

I've sometimes had mind blowing great sex with guys I didn't know. And I've had sex I didn't much enjoy, and felt crummy about afterwards, with someone I was in love with. I wonder if it's about honesty and being present and engaged, caring, rather than being in love.

I believe youu but i've never had mind-blowing sex period, wiht anyone. I THOUGHT i had until a couple night sago but i had no idea what i was missing. It was only mindblowign with him, except.....


...tonight I had sex with the same guy again.... and it was horrible. (probably b/c I'm pretty drunk rihgt now, but still... sort of sucks) . Maybe id otn' love him as much as i think..... ugh. no waking up in his arms tomorrow. oh well.
 
What rendered it horrible? :confused:

Was it not as intimate as the other session? Did you or he not get off? Didn't get into the groove, etc. etc.

I think he was secretly mad that i'd been drinking (he's really controlling ), so it sort of ruined the mood.
 
I don't know of anyone who ALWAYS gets intimate sex. Sometimes, you just don't get there.

Sorry you had to settle for a T-bone tonight. But skip the drinking next time, and do your best to bring it up to filet mignon next time. :)

Lex
 
i want to have intimate sex ! have had some good sex but always hookups and no real amazing feeling.. now the upside to hookups if you dont get attached like w/intimacy.
 
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