Intolerant Gays?

[ronnie_h]

We gays are as tolerant or intolerant as any other group of the human being.

Personally I prefer to stick with gay guys now. I stopped accepting bisexuals as sex partners when sometime ago one guy, while I was fucking him, had the brilliant idea to switch on some straigth porn on tv.

Also having employed a few bisexual guys for work, I now take care to hire gay guys only. It's simply easier to discuss gay matters with gays.

So yes, if my personal matters are concerned I'm intolerant when it comes to straights and bisexuals.

 

[lightning718]

Sorry,bisexual guys are "2 str8 4 me".And if you wanna go down that road of who's intolerant of whom, there is no group less tolerant of gay/bi men than str8 guys and religious freaks,thank you very much.Ive had horrid experiences with str8 and bi guys,I dont care to spend an hour talking about "pussy" with some guy.And I found that most bisexual guys are confused and dont know what they really want.I dont have patience for it therefore,I avoid bisexual men.So when it comes to personal issues,I too,will admit that I am intolerant of bisexual and str8 men.Sorry if it disappoints you,but I dont need the aggravation.I get enough of that from other gay men.

 

[Apollosfire]

To the OP Yes, yes and yes.. I got the wierd vjbe from gays when for a period , i ended up making out with the rare hot girl at the gay club lol.
Just embrace yourself and dont worry about tolerence ..gays can be the most liberated, high brow or the most pip squeaking narsacistic sadistic brat you ever met. Basic physics , everything rises must converge...keep your head high and you 'll find good canidates to talk to and fuck.

As for anyone turning on str8 porn during sex..maybe that wasn't because he was bi str8 or gay but rather just needed stimulation.
Remeady don't sleep with depressed/confused boys ..they are bad lays..even if they are hot as fire...someone who can perform is just a bad time looking good.

 

[Normy7]

It's quite hypocritical, isn't it?

 

[hylas]

im 99.99% gay, although if i had i choice, id love to be bisexual. i think some gays just have a knee-jerk reaction to bisexuals because they still are a little insecure about their own sexuality. fuck them (metaphorically speaking). gays who are intolerant that way are hypocrits, and they need to discriminate against another minority to make up for the discrimination they experience. thats not healthy behaviour. i think queer people need to watch out for one-another, instead of having petty in-fights.

that being said, i understand if gays avoid bi's when it comes to sexual or romantic partners. i dont have an issue, because im very secure about my sexuality and very curious and experimental, and im not very jealous. but if i were the jealous and/or monogamous type, i wouldnt want to date bisexuals.

also, i have a bit of an issue with bisexuals who arent out (just as i have an issue with gays who arent out). those guys who claim to be straight, with girlfriends and all, but secretly suck cock. there is something shameful in that, which i dont appreciate. be out and be open about it.

 

[blackbeltninja]

Also having employed a few bisexual guys for work, I now take care to hire gay guys only. It's simply easier to discuss gay matters with gays.

Um... unless you specifically NEED to hire gay guys for work, I'm not sure I'd say this out loud too often.

That is discrimination right there, and you're just looking to be sued.

-d-

 

[Kennylingus]

I don't give bi's a hard time, but I won't have a realationship with one.

 

[jamietxx2]

I do think that some Gay guys (not all) are really hypocritical when it comes to bisexual men and I have had gay guys call me "closeted" "greedy" and "messed up" when I am none of those things!

I can 100% say I like both pussy and dick and I don't care that I do thats just how and who I am!

 

[mike_n_herrin]

...Also having employed a few bisexual guys for work, I now take care to hire gay guys only. It's simply easier to discuss gay matters with gays...

You realize that what you just said is discrimination right? You are discriminating against bisexuals based on their sexual orientation. And that's exactly what we are trying to get str8 people to stop doing against gays!

 

[theFallenGod]

I would like to point out that more often than not ... (as in not ALWAYS the case but most of the time) Bisexuals can not truly identify with gay men... And that issue is what really brings the major difference. Just like men don't really like to hear about women's problems gay men and bisexuals don't like to hear about the others issues. When a bisexual man starts discussing that last girl he banged most gay men just aren't interested. And when a gay man starts discussing gay issues most bisexuals don't want to hear about it because they aren't gay.

I have also found that a lot of bisexual men seem to have somewhat of a haughty attitude.
"I don't care about gay marriage because I can marry a woman anytime I want."
"I don't want a relationship with a man I just want sex...relationships are reserved for women."


Those sort of attitudes do a lot to turn gay men away from bisexuals. Honestly would you want to befriend someone who thinks they are better because if push came to shove they could blend in to society better with their hetero-normative behaviours? Or Be friends with someone who views you as just a way to nut and nothing more?

 

[jdbadboy]

We gays are as tolerant or intolerant as any other group of the human being.

Personally I prefer to stick with gay guys now. I stopped accepting bisexuals as sex partners when sometime ago one guy, while I was fucking him, had the brilliant idea to switch on some straigth porn on tv.

That would be so hot. Would love to watch straight porn while having sex with a guy.

 

[CaptainJohn]

I think some of the bi-backlash is because a lot of bisexuals say that they refuse to have a relationship with a gay guy. That they want an emotional relationship with a woman, and that gay guys are only there to suck their dick and then get lost.

To be told that you have as much human value as a discardable sex toy can create some bad feelings.

 

[sktguy]

Sorry,bisexual guys are "2 str8 4 me".And if you wanna go down that road of who's intolerant of whom, there is no group less tolerant of gay/bi men than str8 guys and religious freaks,thank you very much.Ive had horrid experiences with str8 and bi guys,I dont care to spend an hour talking about "pussy" with some guy.And I found that most bisexual guys are confused and dont know what they really want.I dont have patience for it therefore,I avoid bisexual men.So when it comes to personal issues,I too,will admit that I am intolerant of bisexual and str8 men.Sorry if it disappoints you,but I dont need the aggravation.I get enough of that from other gay men.

And the above statement is exactly the sort of thing the OP is talking about. Talk about intolerent. Youre the queen of intolerence.

 

[sabot3ur]

the real question is why the hell would you look to the gays for exceptional tolerance of anything?

 

[DiamondSkin]

WOW. what a response.

Thanks, keep the discussion going!



Funny enough: I think being "bi" is not the same as being "unsure" or "haven't decided yet".. and then we know the new category of guys "men who sex with men and do not consider themselves to be gay or bisexual", whatever that is.

In the context of having sex: men appearing gay when having sex with other men - you cant change that "perception".

I personally often find it more exciting if not everything is "CLEAR" right from the beginning actually.

I once had met a guy that was with the US Army (in Germany that time) and I ran into him crusing in a park, a hot black guy and he asked me if he wants to come with him and eat something first... and... he took me... to HIS WIFE AND HIS 2 KIDS... and I thought... "Oh my gosh, what is going to happen here" (at that time I thought I was gay and not bi so I was extremely confused)...

Well we had a nice afternoon eating pizza, watching movies and his family was really nice, and then after a few hours he "brought me back home" where the real hot action finally took place (I wondered in the mean time if he was really crusing for me). But now I understand looking back that he had a social life schedule where he had to fit me in... and it worked out perfectly in the end.

Now I encountered often different situations that were so unique that I really enjoyed the different challenges coming with them. Nothing bad with "straight" gay sex where you know what to expect right away, but hey isnt life variety?

I was not complaining when I started the topic, I rather wanted to slap a few people to open themselves up. >>> NORMY7

Well, you're a douchebag for sleeping with a MARRIED man AFTER you met his WIFE and KIDS.

You had DINNER with his damn family and then you had sex with him?

Yeah, you're a nice representative of the bisexual community....

 

[blackbeltninja]

I have also found that a lot of bisexual men seem to have somewhat of a haughty attitude.

Those sort of attitudes do a lot to turn gay men away from bisexuals. Honestly would you want to befriend someone who thinks they are better

Um, at the risk of repeating myself, I don't recall too many of us who do legitimately not have emotional involvements with guys ever saying "we're better than you."

or be friends with someone who views you as just a way to nut and nothing more?

To be told that you have as much human value as a discardable sex toy can create some bad feelings.

I think you guys are reading waaaaaaay too much into this.

It helps if you look at it this way: YOU have (or have had) 1-time-only quickie hook-ups with guys you have absolutely no intention of getting romantically involved with, and so do we. In effect, you've done the same thing you've accused us of - used someone as a sex-toy or a way to nut.

Just because you'll one day partner with a guy does not make you any better than me who might instead end up with a girl; nor does it make your 1-nighters any different to mine.

-d-

 

[hylas]

"I don't care about gay marriage because I can marry a woman anytime I want."

Those sort of attitudes do a lot to turn gay men away from bisexuals. Honestly would you want to befriend someone who thinks they are better because if push came to shove they could blend in to society better with their hetero-normative behaviours?

i think this is a big fear amongst gays towards bisexuals. and i feel sometimes, its justified. like with that (presumably) closetted guy in the OP's little story. what do you think are the chances he will stand up for lgbt-issues, in a discussion, at the ballot box, anywhere? having gay sex, without having to deal with the political issues surrounding it? its lazy, and its extremely off putting for us gays, since we dont have that option. bisexuals need to be openly queer!

"I don't want a relationship with a man I just want sex...relationships are reserved for women."

this on the other hand. i find it a little ridiculous to be upset about this. we are all men, we all know how men work: sex is sometimes just sex, and there is nothing wrong about that. also, we cannot really change our sexual desires. so yeah, some guys are, i dont know, 75% straight and 25% gay. of course they would want their (honest and open) relationships to be straight, with a little gay on the side. nothing wrong with that. as long as they identify as queer and are open and honest towards their girlfriends and everybody else about it.

 

[Telstra]

there are all sorts of sexuality,
therefore bisexual is easy to understand.