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is a relationship with bi guy different?

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Hey guys.

Those of you who were dating bi guys, is the relationship different than with gay guys?

If so, in what aspects?

How about their self-acceptance of liking guys as well? Were they "out" being bi?

Many thanks ..|
 
Not really. I don't see how it should be. Beyond the fact that he's attracted to both sex, the laws of dating still apply.
 
Are you kidding, I remember a plague of Bi gay guys. Of all the men over the years who've told me they're Bi, only 2 stayed that way.
 
I suspect, actually I would wager on it, that most actual Bi guys don't hang out with a lot of gay men.

...BUT BUT BUT....

keep your shoes on Louise, there are exceptions to every rule, and you don't need to dismiss the experiences of a ton of gay men just because some closet cases are besmirching your good name.
 
TX-Beau said:
Are you kidding, I remember a plague of Bi gay guys. Of all the men over the years who've told me they're Bi, only 2 stayed that way.
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Hi Tx-Beau. Thanks for your comment! How do you mean it? You mean that they turned "gay"? Cause now I'm skyping with one guy and he is bi by his words but he sends me pictures of hot guys and this stuff. We would even meet I guess and when we do, we will probably have some sex session in nature :-p I am even willing to try anal with him :-p But I wonder if we get to the friends with benefits phase, if it would go anywehere further :-) I asked him since when he got interested in guys and he told me that only recently and that he likes that guys take things more easily than girls... So I'm wondering about bi guys in general...
 
No they didn't turn gay, they were gay, but for reasons involving issues and internalized homophobia (everyone's favorite) they think it's better to tell people that yes they like to ride 10 throbbing fat inches, but that's OK because really they just love petting the kitty.

It's been my experience that actual bi guys you know, actually go out and pursue twat, as opposed to most guys calling themselves bi in the gayverse who just sit there and tell you how hot the boobies are with nary a one ever to be seen.
 
But don't let that impede your pursuit of hot guy, these kinds of bi guys usually give it up eventually. Which is the origin of the ever popular phrase

...Bi now Gay later...
 
Yep. I only believe a guy he's bi if he's living as gay and likes some pussy on the side. Most others just don't want to admit they're gay. Liking guys is ok if you ALSO like girls. That retarded rationalization kept me in the closet until I was 25...
 
You can't date a guy who's bi so if you are smart simply enjoy the sex and don't try to turn it into a relationship. Bi guys do not typically go to gay clubs but gay guys do.
 
I realize that my opinion on this matter won't be regarded as anything but defensive, but I'm going to state it anyway. As with dating anyone of any orientation, your experience will depend on the guy.

Bisexuality can be confusing. I never thought I was straight (my first crush was on a boy), but I've gone through phases where I thought I was gay. I actually broke up with a girl for that reason (it wasn't a serious relationship to begin with, but still). There have been times when I felt no attraction toward women, but then I fell in love with one. And then it happened again.

I've never used my attraction to women to avoid being seen as gay. I don't really go to clubs, but when I do they're usually gay clubs. I have gay friends, straight friends, bi friends, and pansexual (I hate that word) friends, but until a few years ago almost all of my friends were gay or bi.

Honestly, I don't have much experience with dating men. This is mostly because I grew up in a small town and I haven't dated much in general. If I were to date a man, now, I would have to come out to a few people (I'm out to most, but not my dad), but that wouldn't be a deterrent. I accept myself and so do many bi men.

I'm extremely loyal and relationship-oriented. Not all bi men are that way, but neither are all gay men.
 
Your opinion counts, of course. And you are describing what my one bi friend that I know is really bi describes as well - fluctuating sexuality that switches between gay and straight. That's what most "I'm bi" homos don't get. Truly bisexual people aren't consistently attracted to both genders at the same time. They switch back and forth. Being able to stick it to a girl doesn't make you "bi", it just means you are virile enough to be able to isolate sex from your own preferences.
 
^ That's a lot of generalizations about bisexual people. You of all people know that sexuality is a paradigm of this: <gay----bisexual------straight> where everyone follows in an almost unlimited category of differentiation between their level of attractions. Yes, there are some men who identify as gay who initially claim themselves as bisexual, but that does not marginalize the many other men who truly are bisexual and express it in varying different degrees.
 
That's because my personal definition of "gay" includes everything with "but I'm more attracted to my own gender" in it. Same as straight is everything that's "but I prefer the opposite". It's a matter of definition, but considering that bisexuality is something drastically different from the rest of the spectrum, I think it should be its own thing. To me only a Kinsey 3 is "bi".
 
Rolyo85 said:
Your opinion counts, of course. And you are describing what my one bi friend that I know is really bi describes as well - fluctuating sexuality that switches between gay and straight. That's what most "I'm bi" homos don't get. Truly bisexual people aren't consistently attracted to both genders at the same time. They switch back and forth. Being able to stick it to a girl doesn't make you "bi", it just means you are virile enough to be able to isolate sex from your own preferences.
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That's not really what I meant at all.
 
It's good to see bi erasure and biphoba are alive and well. I'm bisexual, but my sexuality is very fluid. Some days I'm more into men, some days more into women. It varies widely from day to day, and even within a given day. You can't say a person is only bi if: X, Y, and Z. The "official" definition of bisexuailty is, I believe, the ability to form sexual and/or romantic attraction to males and females. To me, this definition also encompasses pansexuality, but others disagree.
 
I don't know how/why anyone would/could be in a serious monogamous relationship with someone that's bi. I've known several over the years and they were all fucked in some way. Short summary of each one below...

#1 - He was basically a man whore and would sleep with anyone at all (age/race unimportant) willing to give him cigs or let him stay the night since his parents had kicked him out. Ended up living/sexing with a 450 pound obese grandpa just for a roof over his head while hooking up with girls at bars.

#2 - This one originally would only sleep with men for money when his wife was at work. Eventually he started to drink and when he got drunk, then he'd be into pretty much anyone available.

#3 - Got married because his family expected it and would kick him out of their will unless he had kids, sleeps with random men and women on the side still. Claimed he was gay, then straight, then gay, then bi. Could never make up his mind what he is.

#4 - Was in a "serious" relationship with a single mother he lived with but was also sleeping with young twinky military men on the side (and only young twinky military men, if you weren't in the military and under 25 you didn't get a second look)

#5 - Had several kids with different women, and likes to "bang" guys when he's high/drunk. Kinda worried about this guy, he texts me when he's drunk, saying how depressed he is, how his life sucks and whatnot.

#6 - Was married with a kid but only because he was raised 7th Day Adventist with a strict parental unit, would only do jo/oral with other guys after getting drunk.

#7 - Another one that was married with kids, got divorced to be gay, but still fucks the ex wife on occasion.

#8 - Was pretty overweight and living with his girlfriend, after he went and lost the weight and started gaining muscle (bodybuilder type) left the girlfriend and started going to gay bars for hookups. Not sure but last I'd heard he was getting married to some girl.

I don't think i've ever met a bi guy that was "normal", every one has had some issue.....
 
Here we go again...

The people here could learn a hell of a lot from the members (LBGTI/questioning/straight, male/female and all ages from 13 up) at Empty Closets about inclusion, acceptance and support.

*Sigh*
 
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