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Is age difference a big deal?

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Bottom Line...we are all different and that's a good thing. If it feels right for you...then it probably IS right for you.

Try not to let other people's opinions bother you too much...and if they do bother you just remember that opinions are like assholes...everyone has one.

I stick with a 10 year +/- rule..shared life experiences is the reason for me.
 
Are you happy dating him? Do you two give each other trust and respect? If yes, then tell everyone else to fuck off.

When someone says, "why don't you date your-same-age dudes?" Tell them, "I don't want to date immature people like you."
 
Always do what seems right for you and don't let anyone allow you to feel badly for it. One response to negativity might be, "I hope you find this much happiness one day."
 
loosingyourmind said:
Is age difference a big deal?
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Age difference isn't a big deal. Maturity level is a big deal.

There's a lot of complications that come with big age difference in a relationship. If either of the persons in the relationship is not mature enough to handle them, it's probably not going to work out.
 
KaraBulut said:
Age difference isn't a big deal. Maturity level is a big deal.

There's a lot of complications that come with big age difference in a relationship. If either of the persons in the relationship is not mature enough to handle them, it's probably not going to work out.
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This. Age difference IS a complicating factor, more so the wider it is. People in different ages are in different places in their life as well, and should you end up being together when you get older, there is the almost certain fact that your partner will die years - maybe decades - before you, potentially leaving you alone for the rest of your life.
 
If you are happy and enjoy each others company then it's not anyone's business. If someone makes a rude comment, call them on it. there isn't anything wrong with finding someone that makes you happy. It's your life. Live it the way you want. Life is too short to worry about what others are thinking.

Steven.
 
My Boyfriend is 11 years older then me... It doesn't bother me in the slightest, the only thing i get concerned about is what those around us would think. i really did'nt want people to assume that he was taking advantage of me, or that i was being careless or something like that.
In the end its just a stupid number, and you will think about it less and less if you know that this guy is right for you... and those who care about you will understand and if not then they really are not seeing the happiness this person can have on your life. hope it gets easier!!!
 
My partner is 61, 17 years older than me. I don't have an iissue with it at all. However on the weekend I went to a work social thing and took my partner. My colleagues know I am gay and are totally fine with me. However I did notice a couple of shocked faces when they saw how old my partner is. Not that it bothered me. I'm too old to care what people think.
 
If it doesn't bother you, why do you care if it bothers anyone else. My boyfriend is 4 years younger than me and I get jokes that I'm a cradle robber cause he's only 1 year out of high school, but I don't care. We love each other. My favorite quote to use is "it's not about who doesn't approve, but who DOES approve."

If you're both happy, why should it matter. Enjoy your relationship :)
 
My partner and I were together for 15 years before splitting up a few years back. There's 22 years between us in age. As long as you're happy with him and him with you, enjoy the relationship. As Karablut mentioned, it's the maturity level that matters.
 
Such partnership will not last long, just imagine you being a fit 50 year old man and your boyfriend being a cripple 80 year old... Although there's no guarantee it will go like that.
 
My mom is happily married to my stepfather who is 16 years older.

Both being on the same wavelength maturity wise matters the most rather than the actual number.

Most probably shouldn't be with someone a decade or more older or younger, but there are always exceptions.

A young man dating someone 30 years older is not likely to be successful. Unless it's just an arrangement of one wanting young flesh and the other financial security. But that's really an arrangement rather than true love.
 
dude89x said:
Such partnership will not last long, just imagine you being a fit 50 year old man and your boyfriend being a cripple 80 year old... Although there's no guarantee it will go like that.
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Oh really? People get old in different ways, some can still get it up at 80 or more. Believe me, I know.

Let me put it this way, I know my man is 24 years older than me. He already shows a lot of signs of getting old, different surgeries, health problems and others that come with age. I said it, people age differently one from another. Should I pack and go home just because of that? I love him and even if I can´t give him as much as he gives me, I hope that someday things will go better and I can thank him in more than words. Love is a wonderful thing and I can´t imagine leaving my man, even if I spend the next 40 years taking care of him.

I know I can die tomorrow or in 70 years, I want to do it with a smile on my face, knowing I lived with someone who loves me and who I love. I don´t wanna run away from it because of something as silly as the age difference, and then spend my life wondering what would have happened if I stayed. I know some succeeded at a relationships like this, and others failed. Whatever it is, the present is much more important than the future, imo.
 
loosingyourmind said:
And that's where you're wrong. And I've heard about this BS tons of time. There are MILLIONS of reason why a 18yo guy would wanna date a middle aged one. Why couldn't it be actual attraction in your opinion? :mad:
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Ok fair enough... there can be actual attraction.

But unless there is something seriously wrong with the older man... you will never have the same maturity. I think it's extremely important in a romantic relationship.
 
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