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is anyone else cynical as i am?

you can be cynical, but nobody really likes a cynical person.

so if you have to be cynical, hide it and act not cynical :)
 
youngnihilist said:
you can be cynical, but nobody really likes a cynical person.

so if you have to be cynical, hide it and act not cynical :)
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i'm not cynical in a way that i always have my head in the clouds.
i'm just cynical about guys.
every single guy i've met/dated has used me for either affection or some kind of sexual act.
usually i give them the benefit of the doubt, but i always end up screwed (no pun intended)
i was just trying to find out if it's something that i'm doing, or maybe i just pick the wrong men.
 
every single guy i've met/dated has used me for either affection or some kind of sexual act.
usually i give them the benefit of the doubt, but i always end up screwed (no pun intended)
i was just trying to find out if it's something that i'm doing, or maybe i just pick the wrong men.
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So what is it that you're expecting?

If affection is not reciprocated, at least it improves both giver and receiver.

One assumes that you are not being forced to perform sexual acts against your will.

Why not just enjoy sex for what it is; no strings attached?

If you are just interested in the young self-obsessed narcissists that seem to make up 80% of the population under the age of 25, you probably aren't going to find a lot of givers or emotional/intellectual generosity.

But there's hope for you.

Just keep looking for the guy that likes to smile a lot. One with a delicious sense of humour. One who has dogs or cats. One who likes to just walk along a beach. One who likes his mom and his dad and his grandparents and brothers and sisters. Someone without a lot of damage.
Someone with infinite curiosity who wants to learn everything about the world and everyone in it.

They're out there. But somewhat rare.

Think about how you match up to this profile and what you bring into a relationship that is appealing to others
 
rareboy said:
Why not just enjoy sex for what it is; no strings attached?
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i'm not someone who does the "no strings attached" thing.
ever since i started dating, i told myself i would not give myself away like that.
i like to be committed, or at least know the person before i do anything with them.

i guess that might be a factor as to why i'm alone right now, buh i can deal.
 
or at least know the person before i do anything with them.

i guess that might be a factor as to why i'm alone right now, buh i can deal.
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I wasn't asking you to give blowjobs in the park or go to the baths and let 10 guys fuck you.

As I suspected, the cynicism is just loneliness and you're just pissed off that every relationship isn't following your proscribed set of expectations.

It is why you're not finding a lot of guys worth knowing. It sounds like they have to pass some kind of test.

Go ahead and keep up the pretense that no guy can meet your standards and specifications.
 
rareboy said:
As I suspected, the cynicism is just loneliness and you're just pissed off that every relationship isn't following your proscribed set of expectations.
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You're absolutely correct.
I have expectations, unlike most people I've met.
I don't need to settle for someone I don't want.
And I don't need to lower my standards just to have a boyfriend, because if I did, THEN I'd be giving blowjobs in the park, or letting guys from the baths fuck me ten ways from sunday :|

[edit]Let me put it to you this way.
Last two guys I've talked to were a mess.
One, is a swinger who's been fucking everything that walks since he's 16. Not only that, but he's also a manager at strip club, and he's adopted a child. I gave him the benefit of the doubt, and it didn't work.

Second guy, told me he was "broken" and that's why he doesn't know what he wants from me.
I gets old hearing throughout the years "I DON'T KNOW WHAT I WANT FROM YOU".

So yes, I do have expectations for guys I potentially see myself with.
I see NOTHING wrong with that.[/edit]
 
Wow.

What a breadth of experience.

No wonder you're so jaded.

Re-read one of my earlier posts about how you might measure up to certain standards.

I suspect you aren't bringing much joy to any relationship or friendship.

You see, you're not cynical at all.

Just impossible to please.
 
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