Is being BI still a trend?

[jstanthrguy88]

I would just like to point out that being Bi means you are able to have and hold a relationship with either a male or female or both if your that talented as I am not. Not that you can kiss a guy and then your a half mo and not that some drunk high school slut can make out with another. If your a gay man and you can say that a girl is hot it dosnt mean your Bi it means you still have junk between your legs. If your a girl just cuz you let a guy pipe you down dosnt mean your straight or bi, you dont have to keep it up. Nor if you find your girlfriend cute means your a big dykie doo. I would just like to say I was bi before it was a trend held by preschoolers in mini skirts and skinny jeans.

 

[yourally]

Claps for you? I think this should go in the bi forum and we can discuss it there, I'm bi.

 

[Lefty]

Fuck no it is not a trend.

It in an infliction.

You can't please ANYONE let alone YOURSELF.

Try it, you just might hate it...or OMG understand.

But, I won't hold my breath.

 

[LiveForLove]

I will never understand why some people come out as bisexual when they're actually gay. It's unfair on the true bisexuals out there who do not say they are bi because it is 'cool' or more acceptable. If you're gonna come out, then don't lie.

 

[Lefty]

Or as in your case....don't come out at all...don't even admit to living somewhere

on the planet.

Now where in the dictionary do you find words like hetero sexual, homo sexual

bi sexual .....oh, oh yeah and the there is the word hypocrite. A stand alone word eh?

 

[Lefty]

Socali,

There are more of us here than some of the breeders and anti breeders (god I

hate those fucking terms) care to admit.

I wonder if any of them ever thought how many of THEM wouldn't be here

if it were not for the scum like us.

 

[MusicMan87]

thank you lefty! because i thought the gay world would be the most understanding since they want the hetero's to understand and respect them and yet they can't be understanding to something similar.....its sad

I've found out, unfortunately, that many gay men are very rude and disrespectful to bisexual men. Like you, I thought gay people would be the most understanding, but many of them talk down to bisexual people, such as myself, and it is quite sad.

 

[Darkflower]

So, I've said elsewhere that part of what helps me understand GLBT issues is to lay the template of Black Civil Rights and changing social culture over it. I think I've decided that bisexuals are like/perceived like/treated like biracial people are/used to be.

1) It's really interesting.

2) If the patterns continue to synch up, the better things get for everyone, the less people will care and the less people will demand that bisexuals define themselves a certain way/pick sides.

 

[bankside]

I will never understand why some people come out as bisexual when they're actually gay. It's unfair on the true bisexuals out there who do not say they are bi because it is 'cool' or more acceptable. If you're gonna come out, then don't lie.

The one that I don't understand is when they come out as straight. "Oh, yeah I'll have sex with guys, but that doesn't mean I'm not straight."

Yes. Yes it does. If you dig guys you don't have to be any less attracted to women, but the only thing a straight guy does in bed with another guy is...watch TV? Sleep off the hangover?

 

[Lefty]

Bankie, sometimes they flip a chick too.

I think I remember doing that in my wild

rapacious hormone encrusted youth.

 

[G-Lexington]

Hey, I'd MUCH rather it be a "trend" than be ostracized. I'm stoked that people want to be thought of as gay when they're not - that would've been unthinkable several years ago.

Lex

 

[DeStzjl]

wow this kinda got down to the nitty gritty so in retrospect now i wanna see your opinion I say im Bi-sexual, my sexual attraction lies mostly with men, however every now and then a women comes along who sparks my interest. Saying that Ive held more relationships with women I actually cared for and still do for the most part. and only one actual one with a man. So in that case does that make me a bi-sexual or a gay man with a soft spot for women?

 

[Reality101]

So, I've said elsewhere that part of what helps me understand GLBT issues is to lay the template of Black Civil Rights and changing social culture over it. I think I've decided that bisexuals are like/perceived like/treated like biracial people are/used to be.

1) It's really interesting.

2) If the patterns continue to synch up, the better things get for everyone, the less people will care and the less people will demand that bisexuals define themselves a certain way/pick sides.

Great post!

I agree with socialiboi19 too. Cool thread. Interesting opinions.

 

[Lube]

So, I've said elsewhere that part of what helps me understand GLBT issues is to lay the template of Black Civil Rights and changing social culture over it. I think I've decided that bisexuals are like/perceived like/treated like biracial people are/used to be.

1) It's really interesting.

2) If the patterns continue to synch up, the better things get for everyone, the less people will care and the less people will demand that bisexuals define themselves a certain way/pick sides.

One big difference is that you can't fake being biracial. People can look at you and look at your parents and come to an obvious conclusion.

You can fake being bisexual. Most gay men do it in the early phases of coming out. Does it mean that all bisexuals are gay men that haven't accepted themselves? Of course not. But we've experienced enough of them to form a stereotypical image.

Also, ask yourself this:

How many bisexual groups participate in your local Pride parade?

How many bisexual men participate in AIDS prevention or assistance organizations?

It's disheartening when the gay community tries to be so accepting and defending all of GLBT, and then some trannies will say, "Hey, I'm straight, I'm just caught in the wrong body" and bisexual men... well, bisexual men don't say much of anything. Personally, I've yet to see one at any protest or Pride event or the like.

If sexuality truly is a bell curve, why is being bisexual have such a negative stereotype by gays and straights? Why isn't bisexualism the default in society? Are the 5% of people who are "truly straight" really running the whole show??

It just makes me wonder.

 

[Darkflower]

One big difference is that you can't fake being biracial. People can look at you and look at your parents and come to an obvious conclusion.

This is true. I mean, years ago some people would pass for white if they were light enough, and there have been long-running conversations about biracial people who are accused of doing everything they can to disassociate themselves socially and politically from the black community, but you're right in that the efficacy of that is limited because for most biracial people, society at large can still tell they're black, whether or not they might try to pretend they aren't.

Also, ask yourself this:

How many bisexual groups participate in your local Pride parade?

How many bisexual men participate in AIDS prevention or assistance organizations?

That's true. I guess I should have put more emphasis on the "when things get better for everyone" part, as bisexual people do have a part to play in that. Just as the litmus test for a lot of biracial celebrities (just an example) in terms of their support from the black community was whether or not they owned their blackness (people really appreciated it when Halle Berry, for example, said she identifies as a black woman), it will be really powerful when more bisexuals make it a point to say, hey, we are part of the community of GLBT, and their issues are our issues, and their concerns are our concerns.

 

[jstanthrguy88]

wow this kinda got down to the nitty gritty so in retrospect now i wanna see your opinion I say im Bi-sexual, my sexual attraction lies mostly with men, however every now and then a women comes along who sparks my interest. Saying that Ive held more relationships with women I actually cared for and still do for the most part. and only one actual one with a man. So in that case does that make me a bi-sexual or a gay man with a soft spot for women?

That makes you Bi. Personaly I dont think that doing one girl means your bi or that one guy means your gay or whatever. A guy can basicly screw anything if he wants to lets be honest but to be able to have a relationship with either sex is what really makes you bisexual.

 

[Nomenclature]

Uhm, i'm not sure if being a bisexual male has ever been a "trend" in most modern cultures. That'd be kinda hot if it became a trend, though.

 

[TX-Beau]

...If sexuality truly is a bell curve, why is being bisexual have such a negative stereotype by gays and straights? Why isn't bisexualism the default in society? Are the 5% of people who are "truly straight" really running the whole show??

It just makes me wonder.

In gay circles the whole spectrum paradigm gets a lot of play. But if you actually sit and examine it, and the world we live in, it does seem that there are far more people who are actually straight, than there are the rest of us.

We like to play with the idea that there are few people at the extremes, and most people are some kind of bi - because this makes us all feel better. But really, even if you accept the spectrum idea, there's nothing that requires that there be some kind of even distribution across it.

Then there's the difference in the functional definition of bisexual - as in someone who actually dates both genders, and the theoretical definition of bisexual - as in some guy who may have had a few passing curiosities, but would never act on them.

A lot of gay/bi guys like to operate under the second definition, and say to themselves that if society allowed guy number two, he'd go for it. Maybe yes, maybe not. It's moot, in the society we live in, the second guy isn't bisexual at all, for all intents and purposes he's on the 100 percent straight end of the spectrum.

I myself think that most people are way down there on the straight end of the spectrum, call it nature/nurture, what you will, but it remains that whatever we in the gay community like to speculate about, fact shows us this is true. There are way more of them (completely straight people) than there are the rest of us.

I think the "most people are bi," kind of wishful thinking exists because we would like it to be so, because that would make us less of a minority, and less different, and all around make it less difficult to deal with the world we live in.

If you turn the question around, and ask straight people if most people are some kind of Bi, you get very different answers.

 

[helzeena]

I would just like to point out that being Bi means you are able to have and hold a relationship with either a male or female or both if your that talented as I am not. Not that you can kiss a guy and then your a half mo and not that some drunk high school slut can make out with another. If your a gay man and you can say that a girl is hot it dosnt mean your Bi it means you still have junk between your legs. If your a girl just cuz you let a guy pipe you down dosnt mean your straight or bi, you dont have to keep it up. Nor if you find your girlfriend cute means your a big dykie doo. I would just like to say I was bi before it was a trend held by preschoolers in mini skirts and skinny jeans.

You don't define bisexual

 

[DeStzjl]

That makes you Bi. Personaly I dont think that doing one girl means your bi or that one guy means your gay or whatever. A guy can basicly screw anything if he wants to lets be honest but to be able to have a relationship with either sex is what really makes you bisexual.

Hmm thats a good way to put it, it does seem nowadays that the term bisexual is more defined in sexual activity. N the reason i asked that( my initial question) i had an amazing friend who was a girl, and we got to talking one day about taking it a step forward and being together. I was still coming to terms about my sexuality, so although i do believe she knew i was bi, i was too concerned about me not being to satisfy all of her sexual needs. So i made up some lame lie to get out of it. Should one be in a relationship if all the sexual feelings aren't there or you'd rather be sexin a diff sex the majority of the time? Maybe i was reading into it to muchh but i always wanted a second opinion on this situation because i feel like i let a good one slip away