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Is Friendship Becoming Obsolete?

All of my friends who are mostly dead but a few still alive - the friendships happened organically. The vibe - the chemistry - the connection - all in person. I wouldn't know how to make friends any other way.

I still consider my friends who are dead partly alive because I love them and that didn't die so as long as the love is there - so is a part of them inside of me.

To the OP - try socializing more when it is possible and connecting to someone in person. Also - maybe try not "looking for" - just relax and let things be what they will be.
 
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I had two best friends up until I was 7 years old. One of my first life memories was playing with one of my best friends all over my house before we could even speak. Our moms' were best friends too and they were always chatting while we played. Then I had to move to another country for my father's work. I remember both our moms crying non-stop at the airport and me and my best friend laughing at them, not knowing how great all those years of friendship were.

For the next ten years, we moved many times and I went to 8 different schools. I think I was always naturally introverted but those years moving made it more extreme. I spent many of those years alone with no friends. I had a little more stability in college and made friends through cultural and political interests.

I have several friends I've stayed in touch with through the years from the different places I've lived in. They mostly live in the U.S. so we keep in touch through chat. When I was a kid I used to write letters with friends or exchange mini tape recordings, so internet has made things very convenient.

When I first came out, I wasn't allowed to live with my family anymore. I had a feeling that would happen so I made plans months ahead to live with a friend I used to talk about everything with and felt very close to. She ended up renting with someone else and said it all just happened and she had to do it. Years later, when I was visiting her in LA and we were on E, she told me the real reason was she just didn't want to deal with my problems.

I learned after I came out that I was basically on my own from now on. I don't put too many expectations on friends. I appreciate the ones who give me companionship and share their lives with me, whether it's just temporary or if it will be lifelong.
 
Just some random thoughts here.

The only way to develop friendship is spending time with your friends and sharing experiences that you both enjoy (like a hobby, a trip...)

I've helped people many times to show them my friendship, but never asked anything in return. Maybe we need to ask something back to let them show us if they are real friends or not.
 
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