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Is he gay? Or just being wierd?

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I recently came out to my close knit group of friends about 2 months ago. They were all extremely supportive about it except one of my guy friends was a little awkward about it, but that was two months ago.
So the other night, me and my guy friend, along with two other girls and another guy, were sitting on the couch just watching tv, when my guy friend asks me "So do you top or bottom?" When i heard this, i was a little in shock because he always seemed so awkward about me being gay that i didnt think he would ask me this question. But he kept asking me. So finally i decided to answer him and tell him i would probably bottom. He then continued to go through more then 50 guys and ask me if I would fuck them or not. We played this game until he was through. I dont really know what to think of this. A lot of people have thought that my guy friend is gay, but at the same time, all the girls like him and he did once have a girlfriend. Its very confusing. Is he trying to find himself? Or is he just being horny and wierd. He is naturally a horny person but i didnt think he wanted to know about gay sex...? Opinions?
 
Maybe he was just trying to be supportive and a friend. Try not to read too much into it. If he is gay he will make a clear enough sign, otherwise don't presume..
 
Maybe he is just trying (awkwardly) to be supportive. If so, give him credit for that. Some people don't adapt well to change of any kind and need some time to digest new information. But more likely he is confused about his own sexuality. He may be feeling something for you and is coming to terms with it and trying to understand himself. You original comments caught him at an inconvenient time in this process and he is testing the waters for a potential relationship between the two of you. Try to talk to him sometime when there are no others present and ask him, without being confrontational. Or you could just give it some time and see what happens.
 
Willie Boy said:
But more likely he is confused about his own sexuality. He may be feeling something for you and is coming to terms with it and trying to understand himself. You original comments caught him at an inconvenient time in this process and he is testing the waters for a potential relationship between the two of you. Try to talk to him sometime when there are no others present and ask him, without being confrontational. Or you could just give it some time and see what happens.
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Totally agree with Willie Boy. ..|

Human beings are not robots. Words do not always accurately convey what we are thinking.

You have a brain. Read between the lines (as it sounds like you are). Trust your instinct. He's a flamer, just like us. :p
 
It's tough to say whether he's straight or gay. In my experience gay and straight men like to talk about sex, the objects of our attraction....and/or sports (mostly for straights that is :lol:)...anyway...it was rather bold and personal topic for him to throw at you. A closeted guy probably wouldn't want to throw up any red flags by so openly discussing gay sex in front of the others like that. He's certainly curious, to say the least, and supportive in an awkward and obnoxious way.
 
Lpool101 said:
Maybe he was just trying to be supportive and a friend. Try not to read too much into it. If he is gay he will make a clear enough sign, otherwise don't presume..
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Hey.
I've just noticed you're studying in Liverpool. Me too.
What Uni? :)
 
Ahhh right, what are you studying?

I love liverpool, though i don't really enjoy the gay scene, too queeny for me!
 
Lpool101 said:
Ahhh right, what are you studying?

I love liverpool, though i don't really enjoy the gay scene, too queeny for me!
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Computing... And I'll agree, the gay-scene in Liverpool can seem "too gay" sometimes. Give me Matthew Street and I'm happy.
I just tried to PM you for a chat but my account doesn't seem to want me to do anything without throwing an "Access Denied" page at me. Perhaps it's not activated properly or something.
 
I think you've not enabled your profile or something as i can't load any profile for you. I can't think what is even on Matthew street, i am normally in the straight bit of liverpool when i go out.
 
Lpool101 said:
I think you've not enabled your profile or something as i can't load any profile for you. I can't think what is even on Matthew street, i am normally in the straight bit of liverpool when i go out.
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Ahh, shame. It'd be cool to have a chat with you. I created the account months ago and must have lost the activation e-mail. Tonight is the first time I've properly logged in... I'm doing well for a Computing student. :D
...Matthew Street is what some would refer to as the 'older' part of the night scene in terms of personality. It has Flares, Boogie-Nights etc (the 80s bars).
 
Oh right! Yeah i love flares lol, was at the one in blackpool on thursday night :) Should really get to bed just cba.
 
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Oh right! Yeah i love flares lol, was at the one in blackpool on thursday night :) Should really get to bed just cba.
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Flares is great. :-)
I should be in bed myself soon but I'm too busy listening to some of my new CDs. I have the pleasure of work again in the morning.
Perhaps we'll chat another time when my account starts to behave.
 
Willie Boy said:
Maybe he is just trying (awkwardly) to be supportive. If so, give him credit for that. Some people don't adapt well to change of any kind and need some time to digest new information. But more likely he is confused about his own sexuality. He may be feeling something for you and is coming to terms with it and trying to understand himself. You original comments caught him at an inconvenient time in this process and he is testing the waters for a potential relationship between the two of you. Try to talk to him sometime when there are no others present and ask him, without being confrontational. Or you could just give it some time and see what happens.
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Very well said, just go along with and try to keep it w/o people and just talk calmly and privatly. Tell him your glad he was asking questions, but that you would rather tell it to someone in private that may understand it easier.

He may just be looking for that time to tell someone and it may be whats holding him back....
 
This is the way it should be. If you were two straight guys, you wouldn't think twice if the subject were which girlfs you found attractive.

Guys talk about sex. A lot. He just happened to be cool enough to talk about what you would be interested in.

Now, if he put himself on the list of "Would you have sex with....?" that would be something altogether different.
 
my friends do that except they're just weird.... was he laughing or being serious? maybe you should try going into detail next time and say what exactly about the guy you find attractive if he seems interested or maybe even somewhat aroused you might have a "friend" amongst you
 
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