Is he gay?

[Spiff]

He put an 'x' after a text message and once said babe to you, that's all you have on him? I'm not convinced that's enough to qualify a straight person as gay, especially one that has a girlfriend. I'd be cautious pursuing this, or someone is going to get hurt.

 

[saaga07]

Here's a possibility.. since he has a girlfriend, he could be bi.

 

[NineOfClubs]

From the details you give, I think there's a chance he's gay.

However, it might take him 20 years to admit it to himself.

Better for you to concentrate on guys who've already come out.

 

[FloridaBoi]

I have the same problem.

Straight guy, He knows im gay, We talk on the phone for hours, He calls me baby, Tells me he loves me but he says hes str8 so I dunno....


Neways GoodLuck!

 

[Matterhorny13]

First step is to come out

 

[Lube]

The question here isn't, "Is he gay?" but rather, "Does he self-identify as gay?" As FloridaBoy and NineOfClubs say, if he thinks of himself as straight, he might as well be straight (as far as your affection for him is concerned).

A better question is "Do you have the balls to come out to him?"

 

[youngnihilist]

^Good one. gay and self-identify are two differnet things, even if they are the same. plenty of guys self-identify as "str8" (and by the way, the spelling str8 is not the same as saying heterosexual) when a dictionary would definitely define them as gay. it's easier for them just to say they're "str8"

also, just because a guy has a girlfriend doesn't mean he's 100% straight. some are gay and just have gfs to cover up, though i think it's fairly rare. the more common is they really do like their gfs, but they are bi! plenty i've met and admitted it.

so he may be bicurious or bi, but he has a gf- is that worth messing around with?