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Is he gay?

jayman1818

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Hey guys. I've known I was gay since 6th grade (24yo now). I am still in the closet.

About a week ago, I met this guy who is a friend of a friend. We were all bowling. While we were hanging out this guy kept getting real close to me to talk to me. Even when I was sitting down, he would get close to me to the point where our legs were touching. (He is really cute, so I didn't move my leg). The other day, a group of us went to the movies and he sat next to me. During the whole movie he was leaning close to me and, again, our legs were touching. Last night, I had a small get together. This time he didn't get close to me but I would be doing something and I would look at him and he would just be looking at me. His facebook doesn't have anything hinting that he might be gay, but I think he might be.

What do you think? Am I thinking too much into this because I am really attracted to him? Or could he be gay and giving me hints? I have no relationship experience at all, so if you think he is gay...how should I proceed?
 
is he gay?
the answer to that question is usually 'no' but in this case, its 'yes'

what should i do?
ask him out on a date. fuck his brains out, or 'take it slow', whatever suits your style.

hylas, is your advice always this useless?
yes.

(seriously, im actually not kidding. ask him out.)
 
Best to chat with him privately to find out.

It is too hard to guess is he gay or not gay.
 
Why don't you call him up to go out for a cup or coffee or lunch. Talk to him one on one. If he knows your gay, you can tell him you find him attractive. If he's straight, he'll just accept the compliment. If he's gay, he will probably reciprocate in some manner.
 
Ask him to go do something just you two and maybe he'll just flat out tell you? You never know. He may just not want to say anything out loud around a group of people. You may have to ask him, but you never know. The best thing is to take him somewhere not public to ask though.
 
The only way you'll find out is to make arrangements to hang out just the two of you.

Oh and take the risk of letting him know you're gay and interested.
 
If you're not out, it's 3,829x harder to make this go anywhere.

If you feel strongly enough that someone's gay, and you're confident in who you are, tell him. You don't need to make it a big deal, but get him out to grab a bite to eat, meet up at starbucks, what have you, and let the topic of dating/seeing anyone come up. Say you're not, that you haven't found any cool guys, whatever. If he plays it off cool, awesome. If he freaks out, you'll know that either a) he's not or, b) but why you're saying, he's not comfortable with it yet to the point where he can discuss it.

But I can't direct you to the beverage aisle in your grocery store for the magic "is he gay" instant mix powder that will tell you for certain. Especially if you're not out yourself :-)
 
Don't sit around wasting time wondering it will only lead to really awful heartbreak in the end. Ask him if he is. If he says yes then cool, if he says no, then move on better that you found out sooner than later.
 
THe worst thing a guy can be is gay and in the closet. Come ot of the closet and be open about it. Guys will flock to you straight and gay because there will be no guessing game on what you like in your bed.
 
Yeah, a couple of things. If he's gay where do you think this is going? You're in the closet.

If he's out, odds are he won't date you. If he's not out, you'll never know, because he doesn't know you're interested and you won't tell him.

No one in here knows if he's gay - there's only one person who can tell you that.

No one in here has anything but your perspective, and you want him to be gay, so we can't really tell what's you hoping, and what's real.

How do you proceed? Grab your scrotum and tell him YOU are gay. I guarantee you that if you do, a straight guy will find a way to tell you he's straight pretty damn fast.
 
TX-Beau said:
Yeah, a couple of things. If he's gay where do you think this is going? You're in the closet.

If he's out, odds are he won't date you. If he's not out, you'll never know, because he doesn't know you're interested and you won't tell him.

No one in here knows if he's gay - there's only one person who can tell you that.

No one in here has anything but your perspective, and you want him to be gay, so we can't really tell what's you hoping, and what's real.

How do you proceed? Grab your scrotum and tell him YOU are gay. I guarantee you that if you do, a straight guy will find a way to tell you he's straight pretty damn fast.
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Perfect! :D
 
i say before u do anything drastic you make one on one plans and see how that goes and if things feel good just ask for a back massage and go from there ^_^
 
Ask yourself what your fear is about with coming out. It's now about a twelve year old secret and you are an adult entitled to a full, robust life. I don't know where you are from, but at an older age than you I was police harassed more than once and even arrested only to be intimidated and dragged before a judge in the morning only to have charges dismissed. I and millions more paid dues to make things easier for you. Tell at least this guy your long held secret.
 
TX-Beau said:
Yeah, a couple of things. If he's gay where do you think this is going? You're in the closet.

If he's out, odds are he won't date you. If he's not out, you'll never know, because he doesn't know you're interested and you won't tell him.

No one in here knows if he's gay - there's only one person who can tell you that.

No one in here has anything but your perspective, and you want him to be gay, so we can't really tell what's you hoping, and what's real.

How do you proceed? Grab your scrotum and tell him YOU are gay. I guarantee you that if you do, a straight guy will find a way to tell you he's straight pretty damn fast.
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That would be funny.
You: i'm gay
Him: i'm straight
You: i'm gay
Him: i'm straight
You: i'm gay
Him: i'm straight
 
hmm well, I kind of did this too a gay guy when I was... err still in the closet. This was well over year ago, and was drunk at small party. I knew this guy who was gay at the party, so kept getting close too him. Giving him hints, like looking at him, or touching his legs. We ended blowing each other in laundry room. but then again, everyone at party knew I was oddly getting close too him, so maybe wasnt as subtle hints as i thought in my drunk state. Atleast everyone just played it off as me being drunk, I think they did atleast... who knows really.

Anyways, this is kind of tricky, I mean hang out chill with him, eventrually you see how he is. Or get drunk together, might be a faster route, if your dont have high morals.
 
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