Is he really gay

[darkcrawler]

I met this guy while I was fishing with several friends on a houseboat. He's my friend's friend. 19 yr-old(couple years younger than me). He acts very mature for his age at the beginning(he was cooking and driving the boat), but once we got familiar with each other. He started to joke around with all the guys and act like he's gay. He flirts with all the guys on the boat, altho it seems like he's just joking around. And from what I heard, he does that quite often, and he said he even hold hands with his brother when they go to mall and his brother's girlfriend hated him for that.

During the 3 days vocation, I went canaling with him for like 3~4 times, and every time he would say something like "This is so romantic,with just me and a sexy guy like you". Every time i need sunscreen or lotion, he will be the guy rubbing it on me and every time he will ask me for sunscreen or lotion. And he sneaked a peek when i pissed and made comments about my size while we were canaling.

But the sad part is, I slept with him every single night and nothing happened between us. He was either exhausted or high or drunk every night and so was I. (and I am not the kinda guy who would take advantage of a unconscious guy)

Towards the end of the trip, I found out that he has an 1 year old kid(with his ex-girlfriend).

I am so confused. I can't say I am hitting on him, but i am interested for sure. do you think he's gay or he's just playing.

 

[Bruski-101]

Nothing ventured nothing gained.Talk to him and ask!

 

[KaraBulut]

The guy sounds like he's a mess on two legs.

Run, boy. Run far far away.

 

[jetsonboy]

The guy sounds like he's a mess on two legs.

Run, boy. Run far far away.

I would not go that far. Clearly he has issues, but you said he is 19? If so, then we have a classic late bloomer (believe me many are older!), and what I'd recommend for that is opening up to him (pun intended!) very, very carefully, and in a caring way. Perhaps starting a conversation at the right moment that would lead to something like "what do you think about the gay issue?". Does he know you are gay? If not, maybe it would be a good idea if you came out to him.

 

[Lube]

Yeah, he definitely sounds like a lot of work. Make sure you really, really want him before investing the time. Because it will take a lot of time.

 

[ejbonk]

I met this guy while I was fishing with several friends on a houseboat. He's my friend's friend. 19 yr-old(couple years younger than me). He acts very mature for his age at the beginning(he was cooking and driving the boat), but once we got familiar with each other. He started to joke around with all the guys and act like he's gay. He flirts with all the guys on the boat, altho it seems like he's just joking around. And from what I heard, he does that quite often, and he said he even hold hands with his brother when they go to mall and his brother's girlfriend hated him for that.

During the 3 days vocation, I went canaling with him for like 3~4 times, and every time he would say something like "This is so romantic,with just me and a sexy guy like you". Every time i need sunscreen or lotion, he will be the guy rubbing it on me and every time he will ask me for sunscreen or lotion. And he sneaked a peek when i pissed and made comments about my size while we were canaling.

But the sad part is, I slept with him every single night and nothing happened between us. He was either exhausted or high or drunk every night and so was I. (and I am not the kinda guy who would take advantage of a unconscious guy)

Towards the end of the trip, I found out that he has an 1 year old kid(with his ex-girlfriend).

I am so confused. I can't say I am hitting on him, but i am interested for sure. do you think he's gay or he's just playing.

Did You even think,That he could be BISEXUAL. or curious.

 

[954dude]

You need to find out from him. Take a chance and be bold, talk it out, ask him, spend time with him. Don't waste time beating yourself up over his orientation, expectations can get heavy dude!

 

[p700granat]

The guy sounds like he's a mess on two legs.

Run, boy. Run far far away.

Why? Darkcrawler never mentioned whether the boy had ever said he's gay, bi, straight. Everything in the original post sounds like a gay guy expressing his sexuality, e.g. flirting, holding hands, saying it's romantic to be with a sexy guy, rubbing lotion, peaking and commenting on the size, etc. The only exception is he has a kid with his ex-girlfriend. It could very well be "an accident" when he was still confused/in denial about his sexuality ~2 years ago. And he's being responsible, for 19 year old, not denying having the kid. The fact that nothing happened when slept together doesn't prove anything either, because as Darkcrawler mentioned, he probably be too exhausted/high/drunk to try anything, or decided not to as Darkcrawler didn't appear gay/bi to him. And Darkcrawler was being a good man not taking advantage of an unconscious guy (I allowed my hand to probe around the crouch area of a sleeping tent-mate during a camping trip when I was 14 and I still feel bad about it).

So Darkcrawler, I think you have a good chance and should try to explore it. Stealing the advice many people gave me in my thread, flirt back when he flirts, rub lotion on his back after he does that to you, and talk about things that may reveal his sexuality. If he seem very comfortable about these topics, you may even just ask him directly if he's gay. Even If he was just being friendly, a good vacation with the company with a cute guy is itself a great enjoyment. Good luck and let us know how it turned out.

 

[Raincoat Massacre]

I love boys....

 

[darkcrawler]

thanks for the advices

 

[G-Lexington]

So this guy called you "sexy", rubbed suntan lotion on you, etc etc.

And nothing happened. Probably because you just sat there waiting for something to happen. Did you give him ANY indication that you enjoyed it? Did you flirt back at all? Did you thank him for his compliments, and return them? Did you put lotion on HIS back?

Yes, he almost certainly was sending out signals. But it's up to you to return them, or he's just gonna assume you're not interested.

Lex

 

[KaraBulut]

The guy sounds like he's a mess on two legs.

Run, boy. Run far far away.

Why? Darkcrawler never mentioned whether the boy had ever said he's gay, bi, straight. Everything in the original post sounds like a gay guy expressing his sexuality, e.g. flirting, holding hands, saying it's romantic to be with a sexy guy, rubbing lotion, peaking and commenting on the size, etc. The only exception is he has a kid with his ex-girlfriend. .

Quite simply, everything about this guy says, "Trouble".

Whether this guy likes dick is irrelevant- he's someone who likes to flirt, push people's buttons and indulge in attention-getting behaviors.

The world is full of nice, functional, gay guys who are interested in relationships. Don't waste time and energy on anyone who dysfunctional, dramatic, manipulative, confused and/or slutty.

 

[Lube]

The world is full of nice, functional, gay guys who are interested in relationships. Don't waste time and energy on anyone who dysfunctional, dramatic, manipulative, confused and/or slutty.

Well, there goes 95% of JUBbers.

 

[KaraBulut]

Well, there goes 95% of JUBbers.

Me-Yow.