is he straight? hmm

[mwuahahaha]

well i have this supposed "straight" friend. i went to school with him and now hes in college. we still talk like ALOT but i have my suspisions... when i first came out to him he was totally cool with it and started asking me all these questions like 'do you swallow?' and 'whats so great about gay sex?' and once i asked to suck his dick and he said 'no thanks. maybe some day though..' so im like wtf! omg stop teasing me! lol. hes NEVER had a girlfriend and he looks like he could be an abercrombie model/roman god! hes only been laid by a girl 3 times and blown like 5. he invites girls to come over to watch tv. thats it..nothing else! omg! ahaha. so im wondering if he isnt so straight. we always have convorsations about how gay sex feels and stuff. he said he might do oral if he was wasted. but he doesnt 'want a dick in his ass' lol. honestly i think that he is at least bi and i could understand why he wouldnt want to come out bc i talk to alot of his old friends and i think hes kinda scared i would tell someone or something. he invited me to go shopping with him in january with just the two of us so im going to do the ultimate of risky moves and just out with it and tell him how hot i think he still is and ask him if i can suck his dick. what do u guys think? i think its kinda odd if a straight guy asks why i like sucking cock lol. plus one day he just out of no where told me that he 'is hung like a horse and has a 9 inch dick' haha.

 

[HartfordGuy]

Take his own advice and stop for a few beers after shopping.

This way he'll have an excuse for after you blow him.

 

[mwuahahaha]

hmm that sounds pretty good but i dont think i even need to do that. HE invited ME to go shopping! woo! plus he listens to madonna and some cher lol. and techno. never met a straight man who listens to techno! haha. but still i cant get that thought out of my head when he told me that i could possibly blow him someday.. ahh.

 

[SilverRRCloud]

Dude,

How 'bout refocusing here a bit?

Is he str8? Who on earth cares? It is his life, so he decides? Why would you want to know that?

Say, he says, he is as gay/bi as they get? Cool. That still does not mean that he is willing to let you go down on him? You asked once and he said NO. Not now, maybe someday?

Say, he says, he is as str8 as they get, but after a few beers, he admits to not having any sex in a while. So, you ask nonetheless, and he says, yeah, give it a try. So, are you really going to turn down your Roman God, because you only suck Roman Gods, who have come out and are now certified gay men? Nope, I don't think so.

You really want to refocus and leave the whole gay issue out of your common equation. Your question is: is he willing to have sex with you? His sexual orientation is a totally different issue and frankly, only for him to cope with.

Keep in mind that more likely than not, a big part of his reservations against letting you go down on him, is the fact that you have come out and are known as gay boy. Right or wrong, to many men, having sex with another str8 dude is 'something that kinda just happened'. Nothing really serious. Like, we were stupidly fooling around, so it was one off.

Having sex with someone, who is gay, may signal that you were really pre-contemplating to have sex with another male and that sounds pretty gay, doesn't it?

Take your time and focus on him and his needs. Not on any gay issue, whatsoever. Make sure that he understands that you would certainly not consider him gay, just because he let you go down south on him once or twice.

SC

 

[billybob109]

^^^^^
dont listen to him

What i would suggest is that i would not talk about being gay, i would just talk about how good it feels and that it is just another mouth/ass etc. They way you are describing him he sound hot! I would suggest getting wasted drink vodka and then make your move when it is right. And let us know how that cock was.

 

[jaxon29]

Your friend may fuck women but he sure asks a lot of questions about gay sex. Was this all one conversation or does he bring it up every time you talk? If you're having sex with men and women - you show youself as bi - he may be interested in trying out both sides too. If you're emphasizing the 'gay' thing rather than just another way of getting off when the opportunity arises, that may be scaring him a bit especially when you mention common friends back home.

I'd just talk about everything the way friends do and not bring up sex at all. Let him be the one to do it and if it's always gay inquiries, then tell him he always seems to get off on that subject, laugh and change the conversation. Put it on him and he'll either shut up or make a move. If he's interested, whet his appetite a little. The shopping trip and drinks may be his plan to make a move while under the influence and less inhibited. You'll have to have a lot of self restraint, even under the influence, and let him make the first move so you don't ruin the frienship or freak him out if he's not ready or is really just teasing you. Sounds like he's either teasing you as cool friends do, or he's processing some feelings and deciding if he's comfortable enough to try something with you.

 

[geoffmontgomery]

a lot of straight men listen to techno...like that song world hold on, everytime we go to a club all the guys get up and dance to it...the gay stereotypes just aren't the same as they used to be...bottom line, everyone gay or straight wants to look good. Also, some men like the attraction and the flattery reguardless of whom its from, male or female. He may be straight and likes the attention from you, and likes that fact that if he wanted you he could have you, but chooses not to.

 

[mwuahahaha]

well thanks so far guys. but no I NEVER bring it up. he just randomly brings it into a convorsation. and yea he could be aware that he could have me but chooses not to never really thought of that lol. but anyways he asks me why I like gay sex and all that and its kinda wierd. he asks me why I like him and u can just get that feeling. like there's just something about him. frankly I don't give a shit if I blow him or not that's his choice like everyone else says but I still wanna find out the truth haha.

 

[calvar]

Gay stereotypes like straight men don't listen to techno etc. are so much bulls**t. Labels like 'gay' or 'bi' or 'bi-curious' are a pretty superficial way of defining something as complex as someone's sexuality; and if you persist in labeling him in your own mind, remember he won't feel bound to adhere to your label and he may surprise you!

As for dealing with him, I'd follow his lead. Be light-hearted and humourous about the subject and when he teases you, go ahead and tease him back! From what you've told us, you may well get your 'fling' with him, but if you let him dictate the pace, the less likely he's going to feel remorse about it afterwards, which may well cost you your friendship. I know whereof I speak on this, I've lost a couple of good friends by pushing too hard and while the resulting sex was great, I don't think it was worth the price...

Just some free advice!

 

[Telstra]

LOL .. this thread sounds like a fantasy story.
OK .... just do it like in porn and let us know

 

[jaxon29]

I certainly agree stereotypes aren't what they used to be. Being a bit older, looking at the young straight guys these days and the way they act, dress, etc, would have been a gay label 20 years ago. Times have indeed changed.

 

[Chrysoprase]

Almost all students look gay to me these days... I would never have been seen dead with a 'manbag' when I was younger!

 

[kellyd669]

He may actually be gay. A guy has to come out in his own time- I had gay friends that always hit on me ( mostly just kidding around) but, even tho I was gay, I wasn't ready for anyone to know. I think you need to back off and let him come to terms himself. He may be straight and curious, and never want you to go down on him. His call.

 

[billybob109]

All of you are stupid im sorry i have to say it. You can not label someone gay or straight just by the music they listen too! How could you even say such a thing? then you would be calling every single person who made a techno song gay, And prince would be gay and madonna would be a lesbo.. Hello think of what you people are saying

 

[calvar]

All of you are stupid im sorry i have to say it. You can not label someone gay or straight just by the music they listen too!

I believe I already said that (post #9) so not all of us are stupid... Some of us can even read.

 

[wellmabk]

Maybe you should stop being pushy towards him regarding his sexuality and giving him a blowjob - because that could be the quickest way to ruin your friendship.

 

[mwuahahaha]

holy crap guys i just said idc if i even will or not! i know how it was when i first came out so i dont wanna ruin something like that. all i wanted u guys to help me with is discovering if hes a member of the homosexual community!lol. damn!