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Is he too hot to talk to?

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Do you ever see a guy (like another JUB member), but feel he's too attractive to talk to? You want to talk to him for whatever reason (not always sexual), but feel that he might assume you're coming on to him, and you're clearly way out of his league, so he wouldn't answer? Or, maybe, he's just so hot, you just feel too intimidated by his good lucks?
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Talk to them. Don't use any cheap pickup lines, show that you are genuinely interested. Be polite.

Some guys are assholes no matter how they look. And for the rest .. you will be surprised how many "hot guys" you actually can get.
Just be self-confident.
 
I agree.

Just talk to them.
 
Well, Rob, to answer shortly.. yes, quite often I feel this way (not speaking about JUB, but generally, about guys on other sites etc). Just like - they are sooo hot, how the hell could I ever talk to them??

Sometimes I overcome this. Usually I just truly compliment them - about working hard in gym or whatever I noticed. The responses... hmm, just like Corny said, some guys are assholes no matter what. If that's the case - I just got to knew something more about their personality, and actually it's really good - now you can appreciate their true nature more clearly.

In other cases the guy turns out to be not only hot but also with good character and quite friendly. And then I'm glad that I wasn't silent and probably made a nice guy smile - with no further intentions.
Well, this was about approaching hot guys, "talking to him for whatever reason (not always sexual)". If you want to "get him", make acquaintance or even friendship, obviously you might want to try something more than that.
 
Yeah sometimes. But then I remember that looks fade and being really hot doesn't mean you're too good to talk to us 'not so hot' people.
 
When I decided to lose weight, hire a trainer, and hit the gym every day, I occasionally saw this really hot guy who made me dizzy because he was so gorgeous. I thought he was straight and utterly unapproachable, so I only watched from afar and admired.

One day, however, when I went into the locker room after working out, I discovered he was undressing and putting his things into a locker very close to mine. I stood frozen in my proverbial tracks, uncertain what to do. All of a sudden, he turned to find me staring at him and had what I thought was an angry look on his face. He took a few steps toward me and I thought he was going to get in my face for "looking" at him "that way."

I quickly covered my horror by lying and saying I felt a little light-headed. He suddenly got a very concerned look and gently suggested I lie down on the bench. Here I thought he was angry at me but in fact he was being terribly kind. He said he noticed I had been really working out a lot and the results were showing but that I shouldn't push myself too hard. I thought this guy would never speak to me, and he turned out to be the sweetest guy in the world who spoke first. (He actually was quite shy, as I learned, and self-conscious about his heavy accent and mediocre English.)

Long story short, he came up to me and talked every time he saw me at the gym after that. At some point I learned he had been a personal trainer full-time until recently but still had a few clients on the side. I told him I was going to fire my personal trainer and asked if he would moonlight as mine. Because he wanted to improve his English, he agreed and started working out with me twice a week in exchange for me helping him with his language skills. During that time, I was dumbstruck to learn he was gay and had recently had a very bad breakup with his boyfriend.

With time, our friendship grew into something extraordinary. I now share my life, my love, and my bed with this fantastic man. He made the first move, an inadvertent one, but had we never spoke, I would never have met the love of my life.

Shawn1 is dead-on right. Be bold.
 
^ Aww

See?

Outer beauty is no real obstacle.
 
A while back I had started a similar thread. I was starting to see someone that had been a model for A/F and Paris Hilton. He was the typical tall, dark and handsome guy. 22 6' 4" 170. I'm 43, short and balding. NEVER in a million years did I think something would happen, but it did. We saw each other for over 6 months. Things slowly drifted apart but if anyone would have told me I could get a model I would have laughed in his face. It took me a while to realize there is no such thing as your "league". Nice guys come in all shapes, sizes and colors. So do jerks.

Don't be creepy, don't use pick up lines or any of that other stuff. Be yourself. Strike up a conversation and let it happen. If the romance doesn't happen you may still have a very good friend. One thing is sure. You will never know until you try.

Steven.
 
Yeah I know what you mean, but you should go for it :) if you don't mind sharing, tell us how it went
 
It seems like far too often people have this skewed perception that someones looks should for some reason equate to their level of approachability. Of course we've all know of a few people who just believe they are God's gift to the world and are generally unapproachable by "normal" people, but typically people who are very attractive in many cases tend to be more genuine than others since they're used to people only approaching them for how they look but in reality, they'd rather have people appreciate them for who they are instead.
 
It's worth a shot. I know plenty of happy couples where one guy is really hot and the other is not.
 
Like I'm one to talk here...

Go for it. After all, (to paraphrase from something I read on the internet):

Let the guy figure out why he won't screw you, don't do it for him.
 
LiveForLove said:
Yeah sometimes. But then I remember that looks fade and being really hot doesn't mean you're too good to talk to us 'not so hot' people.
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So wise and true. I'm sure you are gorgeous inside out, unlike so many "pretty boys" who are so inhuman in their inner ugliness, it makes me angry. I am good looking and like people. Kindness and manners is always a good thing, regardless, and many people forget that.
 
UKWill said:
When I decided to lose weight, hire a trainer, and hit the gym every day, I occasionally saw this really hot guy who made me dizzy because he was so gorgeous. I thought he was straight and utterly unapproachable, so I only watched from afar and admired.

One day, however, when I went into the locker room after working out, I discovered he was undressing and putting his things into a locker very close to mine. I stood frozen in my proverbial tracks, uncertain what to do. All of a sudden, he turned to find me staring at him and had what I thought was an angry look on his face. He took a few steps toward me and I thought he was going to get in my face for "looking" at him "that way."

I quickly covered my horror by lying and saying I felt a little light-headed. He suddenly got a very concerned look and gently suggested I lie down on the bench. Here I thought he was angry at me but in fact he was being terribly kind. He said he noticed I had been really working out a lot and the results were showing but that I shouldn't push myself too hard. I thought this guy would never speak to me, and he turned out to be the sweetest guy in the world who spoke first. (He actually was quite shy, as I learned, and self-conscious about his heavy accent and mediocre English.)

Long story short, he came up to me and talked every time he saw me at the gym after that. At some point I learned he had been a personal trainer full-time until recently but still had a few clients on the side. I told him I was going to fire my personal trainer and asked if he would moonlight as mine. Because he wanted to improve his English, he agreed and started working out with me twice a week in exchange for me helping him with his language skills. During that time, I was dumbstruck to learn he was gay and had recently had a very bad breakup with his boyfriend.

With time, our friendship grew into something extraordinary. I now share my life, my love, and my bed with this fantastic man. He made the first move, an inadvertent one, but had we never spoke, I would never have met the love of my life.

Shawn1 is dead-on right. Be bold.
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WOW! Congrats, and good days ahead for you both.
 
aijalon18 said:
It's worth a shot. I know plenty of happy couples where one guy is really hot and the other is not.
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I personally hate phrases like that. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and that is something I take deep in my heart.

I think one of the biggest fears people have is rejection. I still have a decent fear of that also but I have come to realize that fretting over what people think of me is not worth the anxiety. If people don't like me for who I am, then they are not worth my time. Not everyone can have a stern attitude like that but it helps to deal with rejection.

"You miss 100% of the shots you don't take."

Especially with anonmity of the internet, it shouldn't be hard to just send a tell to someone you are interested in getting to know better. Some people will just forthright reject you because they don't want to get to know anyone over the internet regardless of you as a person. Personally, I am always willing to give people a chance and tend to respond to people (as long as they don't just want a hookup).
 
Hatter said:
I get a reply back that he didn't answer the first night cuz he wasn't interested, and he's still not interested.
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Great. He's an asshole and he can't even speak english properly. What he meant to say was "I didn't answer the first night because I'm not interesting."


As for the original question...Umm. Yes. You should talk to us.
 
oh, yeah... it happens everytime. Sometimes I think "oh, he's so not going to answer..." haha
 
I wish guys would talk to me more on here. I'm tired of playing nurse to the misfits really. I think they're just being silly you know. Gay guys should probably just show more spine, quite frankly, and we all need to stop talking about our neurotic little issues like every day is an Oprah episode or something.

It's just rather silly, you know. I don't know how we've been socially conditioned to do this, but I'd knock it the fuck out.

(It's half way my fault for responding to the whines I know)
 
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