Is It Because I'm Tall or Is He Interested?

[erobert]

I have problems at times trying to determine what look a guy is giving me. Gaydar helps in most cases but sometimes it can be off. I know most time when I get "the look."

But sometimes I can't tell if guys are looking at me because of my height (I'm 6,6) or if they're interested or both. I can get a better idea if the guy repeatedly looks at me, but the passing one time glances are harder to tell. Being tall I naturally draw attention from a lot of people.

Just wondering what it's like for others who are tall.

 

[Mitsukuni]

Jesus Erobert I would so appreciate if you would lend me the 6 inches of your height!

 

[evil_danger]

If you notice someone give you a double take just laugh and say "yeah, I'm 6,6" and see what they say back.

Keep your height! I love tall guys, I'm quite submissive, which for my size is quite strange, its hard to find guys taller than me who can make me feel safe.

I dont find people giving me strange looks, I'm quite tall and large, and probably look strange with having much smaller friends than me.

I've never had someone look at me thats caused me to think "they're looking at me cos I'm big" But then I've never though someone was looking at me cos they thought I was hot.

 

[G-Lexington]

You're just like the rest of us, sir. Except in our case, we have other defaults. He's looking at me because I'm fat. Or because my hair is doing that sproinky thing. Or because he doesn't understand my T-shirt. Or he saw me laughing and thought it sounded goofy. It's certainly never because he might be INTERESTED, right?

The best way to find out is to GO find out. Go say hello to them. Ideally, if you can sit down next to them (so the height thing isn't so prevalent), that'll remove that from the equation.

Lex

 

[erobert]

Thanks for the replies.

evil_danger actually the funny thing is I'm quite submissive myself. You'd expect a tall guys to be dominant but I guess it goes along with my personality of being kind of shy and quiet.

Thanks Lex. Actually on Friday a guy on the subway platform was giving me "the look." I knew he was interested after an exchange of glances. He even followed my onto subway car I got on, which was quite a distance from where he was. It was empty and he sat a couple seats away facing me facing me. Nothing much happened but exchanging more glances and he got off two stops later. Being shy kind of blew that opportunity.

Though, there's always more opportunities to come.

 

[interesting]

Jesus Erobert I would so appreciate if you would lend me the 6 inches of your height!

I agree I certainly need it

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>Being shy kind of blew that opportunity. Though, there's always more opportunities to come.

Not if you keep being shy. Try saying "hi" sometime. See what happens. You may be surprised.

Lex

 

[HazieDays]

I know a lot of tall people, so the novelty of seeing a tall person would not affect my judgement on what I'm seeing in a person, nor would it ever really. Hell, if we were compatible (and in the same country! haha) I would have no qualms in hitting it off with ya.

 

[boy0boy]

Ha reminds me of this one time I went to Olive Garden. One of the waiters I glanced and he was HUGE!

My glance although his back was turned, was one of, wow he's tall, and second, man I'd love to climb him!

So possibly the looks are both. And that is so great the idea of a tall guy being submissive, kinda hot. I've always wanted a relationship with a really tall person, only because I'm pretty short and I think it would be too much fun!

 

[tallguy297]

Hey Erobert,

Well mate, there have been times where I wondered the same thing... at nearly 6'7" I guess I know where you are coming from!

Standing head and shoulders above most of the crowd is a sure way to get looks... I remember being at a shopping centre where a performer was singing in the open area and I remember looking around at the hundreds of people gathered thinking I can see clear over the heads of all of them!

The reality is mate it will be a mixture of both. Yep, you will always get the "geez hes tall" looks... but there will always be the "man hes hot" looks as well.

You're on the right track though. The second glance is a give away.. any more after that and its time to decide if you want to let your shyness get the better of you!

Dont worry about whether or not you are submissive or any other thing... just remember you are worthy and deserving of happiness. You deserve that feeling of saftey that evil-danger talks about - no matter how you find it or who you find it with. Be proud of who you are, your traits, your characteristics. Feel proud that people look at you the way they do.

And remember mate - chances are the other guy is as shy as you. And just by saying hi it doesnt mean you want to marry the guy. It can lead to nothing or something wonderful. Take a chance every now and then. See where it leads.

Because mate, you deserve nothing but good things.

 

[erobert]

Thanks for the warm welcomes and the great feedback. That's what I love about this forum, there's wisdom behind your words. It's great to finally talk about this kind of stuff with other like minded guys

I shouldn't be concerned with my height that much. Most guys no matter, what their orientation, would love to be 6,6'. Tallness is a signal of all types of positive attributes such as confidence, success, increased sex appeal, protection etc... People just seem to be naturally attracted to tall people because of this.

For example I recently transferred my program to Urban Planning and I have 3 classes with the same group of people. It seemed like most of the class was interested in they and me were very friendly introducing themselves to me. One guy said I reminded him of his best friend who is 6,9. I think he's also interested in me. Another welcomed me to the program. And I got the sense another guy was flirting with me. I also get the sense I'm attractive to all types of gay/bi guys just by being tall. Many guys would love to have all this attention.

When people start turning heads it's time to stop being embarrassed and shy and start being proud and grateful.

 

[iosif2]

Hi Erobert and welcome!

Hey, the tall guys always get my attention. Don't know what it is that draws me but yeah the wanting to climb them idea that boyOboy mentioned sure goes through my mind too.

Anyway, all is not lost because you are shy. You might feel more comfortable just nodding in recognition of the other guys glances, without ever having to approach him. This will cue him that you are onto him and interested. Then the other guy might feel more comfortable to make the advance that you are too shy to make. It's a start at least. I'll best you will gain more confidence with time and will find the courage to say hi down the road. In any case don't just do nothing. You have nothing to lose buddy, and oh so much to gain! Peace

 

[expressmen]

i am sure height is always a plus. dont worry about it. guys will like you for the total package. and personality always count.

much love
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patric
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[Shepherd 2]

I am one of those men who like tall men.
I am also one of those guys who knows what I like.
Relax, and it will happen. When he sits beside you
and asks you to go home with him, you will have
another decision to make.
Good luck.
Shep+

 

[miatajeff]

You're just like the rest of us, sir. Except in our case, we have other defaults. He's looking at me because I'm fat. Or because my hair is doing that sproinky thing. Or because he doesn't understand my T-shirt. Or he saw me laughing and thought it sounded goofy. It's certainly never because he might be INTERESTED, right?

The best way to find out is to GO find out. Go say hello to them. Ideally, if you can sit down next to them (so the height thing isn't so prevalent), that'll remove that from the equation.

Lex

I LOVE this post Lex!! I agree with the other fella who said say something like yeah I'm 6'6"

I wish I had JUB when I was younger-I was oblivious to guys flirting with me....such a waste, yah my youth was wasted on me when I was younger.

Anyhoo good luck to ya

 

[erobert]

All is not lost because you are shy. You might feel more comfortable just nodding in recognition of the other guys glances, without ever having to approach him. This will cue him that you are onto him and interested. Then the other guy might feel more comfortable to make the advance that you are too shy to make. It's a start at least.

Actually, I have a little bit of a sidebar story about this.

Last year when I was waiting for my subway train to arrive a track worker who cleaned out the cars was looking at me from the inbound platform (there‘s two separated platforms at this station, I was on the outbound platform). He was about my height, around my age and pretty good looking. I felt him watching me from a distance while he was waiting for the train to come and glanced his way. He gave me a nod, I could tell it was more than a friendly nod… some sort of intuitive feeling I had to me it was more. After looking at eachother for what seemed like an hour I gave him a nod back and then quickly looked away. (I need to practice holding eye contact) My ears even started turning red. After that he started to stand directly across from where I normally got off the train almost as if he were waiting for me. We would see each other nearly everyday and give each other nods and exchanging glances. I’m sure had I been waiting on the platform he was on he would have struck up a conversation with me eventually.

Like Shepherd 2 wrote it will happen. Sometimes you don’t find love it finds you, often in unexpected and surprising ways. The key is being ready for it.