Is it disgraceful?

[GhostMost]

To you guys if someone has a huge crush on some homophobic conservative guy who gives this person the "curious" vibe?

 

[KaraBulut]

To you guys if someone has a huge crush on some homophobic conservative guy who gives this person the "curious" vibe?

Only if you vote for him the next time he's up for re-election to Congress.

 

[Willie Boy]

The heart wants what the heart wants. Love should not be denied, nor should it be forced.

 

[Scottyboi]

Emotions wouldn't be emotions if they made sense

(Cuz then it would be logic)

 

[Willie Boy]

Emotions wouldn't be emotions if they made cents

No, they'd be counterfeiters at that point.

 

[GhostMost]

I've been there... had a crush for years on a friend, did not know about his homophobia for years because he never said anything homophobic to me. Found out through a mutual friend he is an extreme homophobe and never said anything to me because he thought or assumed I am gay and did not want to offend me. He still posts many homophobic remarks on various sites. I think he overdoes it... he must have some issue within himself he hasn't dealt with properly. I considered dropping him as a friend completely, but we do have a couple of common interests. Now I just limit our conversation to those topics. If he drifts into politics or anything else, even news, I won't talk because I know he will end up in hate mode. So it makes the friendship very limited. I believe I finally got rid of my crush on him, but he helped a lot by becoming old and fat. I now think you should never reward any homophobe or conservative or Republican with sex, for any reason. Sure, fantasize about the guy on your own, and get off on the fantasy, but whatever you do, DON'T reward him with sex. Ever.

It's possible to feel sexual attraction to a person you would otherwise despise based on their personality or beliefs. Just keep it at the fantasy level and NEVER get involved with that person in reality.

That's strange, someone wasting so much time and energy spreading their hate, but when it comes to the people they know they don't want to offend them.

But yeah you're right, good thing I'd rather have a boyfriend then a fuck buddy.

 

[Seasoned]

A crush can lead to sex and my take on this is no one should get a free pass if he is hurting his own kind. That has to be confronted or it is disgraceful. As to having a homophobic friend? I wouldn't be able to.

 

[hylas]

i dont know about 'disgraceful'... and i think we all know we cant control our crushes.

how we act on them, thats another issue. i wouldnt pursue anything with a homophobic guy - no relationship, no nsa arrangement, no friendship. not only are you asking for drama and pain, youre also giving your time and energy to someone who clearly doesnt deserve it. youre valuable, your time is precious, spending time with you is a privilege. dont waste it on a homophobe.

 

[hylas]

no one should get a free pass if he is hurting his own kind. That has to be confronted or it is disgraceful.

id sign this

 

[rareboy]

Well, you should only have people in your life who respect you.

Quoted for truth.

The problem with teaching a pig to sing is that it just wastes your time and annoys the pig.