Is it easy to be outed or found on Grindr? 18 year old closet bi virgin here. :)

[Diligence]

I just don't wanna come out before I need to.

 

[Rolyo85]

Yeah, there's no such thing as no risk of being caught, when there's more than one person - you - involved. But also "being caught" implies you're doing something wrong. Do YOU think you're doing something wrong? Because you're kinda in the wrong place asking for advice if you do.

 

[Seasoned]

The minute you hook up you are out to someone. Do you know exactly what you're afraid of? Some people think there is no greater self-destruction than living a lie. Do take good physical and mental care of yourself.

 

[njcollegekid]

dude, the more obscure the site, the fewer people there are. thats what makes it obscure. but fewer people means fewer options, and this is not a scenario where you want to be settling, dont hook up with anyone unless you feel safe with them and you are attracted to them.
99.99999% of people will not out you, even if you seriously piss them off for some reason. since its understood how destructive it can be for someone to be forced out of the closet. and anyone who is also DL, cannot out you, since they would be outing themselves in the same act. "hey guys i saw john doe on this gay dating site, he is so gay" "...um why were you on a gay dating site, man?"

 

[xbuzzerx]

I just don't wanna come out before I need to.

Rolyo pointed this out several times, but there's no 100% way to be screwing around with or meeting men and be absolutely sure no one finds out. The chances are astronomically unlikely that someone will recognize you or whatever, but if you at this afraid of it maybe you aren't ready for this.

 

[Rolyo85]

The minute you hook up you are out to someone. Do you know exactly what you're afraid of? Some people think there is no greater self-destruction than living a lie. Do take good physical and mental care of yourself.

This. Also, I'm one of those people.

 

[Diligence]

But, the question is, is there really any point coming out as bi sexual? :/

 

[capitanblack2007]

Hopefully no one of your str8 friends is gonna find out, since he should be gay to use the Grindr, lol.
Cheers!

Where to start! Ah, the beginning.
I'm 18, and have only now come to terms with being bisexual and due to teenage hormones and general horniness, I have a lot of pent up sexual frustration. The only means of frying this frustration, is, Grindr. I am aware of the potential dangers of AIDS and slit throats. I really am not scared of that as I like to trust people when they say they won't kill me.

What really scares me is someone finding out, someone I know or someone who knows me, that I am on Grindr, thus outing me. I feel there is no need for me to out myself ever due to the fact I would never have a romantic-emotional relationship with a man (which is a whole other story for next time.)

What should I do? Should I put a photo of myself up there? Is there a way to block myself from everyone on it until I am online and can see who else could be looking at my photos?
Should I keep my profile pic blank and then hand it over when someone asks that always wrung sentence, "Face pic plz?". Or is it just very unlikely anyone I know would be on Grindr since I only know one gay person, and he's 16.

If it matters at all in the slightest, I would describe myself as a 7/10, 8/10 when I'm feeling good. Thin body shape (not anorexic), short brown hair, generally hairless except for Pits, Pubes and obviously, hair. I'm also pale (I'm Irish lol).

Thanks you for any answers at all. Hopefully it isn't that obvious that it's my first post.

 

[secondmonkey]

I've actually found 3 guys that I went to school with on grindr, and I didn't have the slightest idea they were gay. I didn't go run and tell everybody, 'cause I'm a fag too. I'm wondering how many guys have seen me and thought the same thing.

I think what you'll find out before too long is that nobody gives a fuck that you're gay. Really. It's 2013. But I can understand how you feel at 18...