Is it just me? Or are people a tad too touchy in here??!!

[FlyingCheeseSteak]

Sometimes people think they are simply being funny, but instead they come off as offensive...I know I do.

 

[Horschallen]

I know... I had my share of them in the past here. Just block them by putting them on your ignore list.

 

[blackbeltninja]

Sometimes people think they are simply being funny, but instead they come off as offensive...

Very true, sometimes. But there are also some people around who do seem to take offense at the slightest hint of something which (to me) doesn't seem all that provocative at all, and then simple things turn into a big bun-fight and thread/post war until everyone gets bored and leaves.

All rather silly, really. I always try to aim for tolerance and give everyone benefit of the doubt at first, and I find a quick PM to anyone who has misunderstood anything I meant, explaining what I actually did mean, usually helps to keep things off the boil.

-d-

 

[ahotjock71]

You also have to understand that alot of gay men are threatened by bisexual men, much the way straight men are threatened by gay men.

My former (and still to a small degree) predjudice against bi men is the fact that gay men seem to have fought for your right to have sex with another man, but (SOME, not ALL) bi men seem to think they are better, more masculine and more easily intergrated in "straight" society because you can "hide."

Then there is the fear that most bi men will leave a gay man for a woman, or bi men only wanting sex with a man, and love/relationship/companionship with a woman.

Proud, out gay men take offence to this.

Now I understand each individual is different, and not all bi men are this way, so I am trying not to generalize.

 

[Chalchalero]

I feel that too many people are getting personal attacks or just plain rude responses to legitimate questions and it makes the site sucky!

Is this supposed to be a site about feeling open and safe or is it about feeling oppressed and miserable? I am having a difficult time figuring out which it is.

I think it is time for people to get off their high horses and give peace a chance.

I just think it is wrong to be rude just for the sake of being rude.

I agree with you. It has been an observation of mine as well. I think a few factors come into play in this regard. Firstly, since writing is a pretty static form of communication, it is sometimes difficult to portray nuances and sarcasm, for example.

Secondly, I believe that some questions we might consider legitimate can be interpreted by others to be offensive or judgemental. There does seem to be a heightened level of hyper-sensitivity among some people here, and they respond accordingly. I guess that's the fun of free speech and all.

And third, I think one should sometimes watch how one poses a question or posits a point he wishes to make, as it is easy to be misinterpreted or offensive without even meaning to be. God knows that has happened to me already numerous times, more than I care to count...

And of course there are those here who are rude just for the sake of being rude. I regret that there are some here who believe that because they had a sucky day or their lives aren't going the way they wish, that they have some free rein to take their frustrations out on others. But that's life, I suppose, and one has to just ignore those types of people and move on. There are just far too many of them to permit them power and/or influence over your life by allowing their bitterness to affect you too deeply.

 

[schatzeboppes]

yea, what a hotjock is very true and people NEWBIES mostly that come in here askintg about personal experiences get yelled at and chased off the site for just asking about something...people are just miserable to be hiding behind a computer and thinking they are badass enough to tell you off and they know all about you. its just funny to me cause i can read them easily with their arrogance. like someone suggested above, just ignore or block them. If not stand up to them and they will leave you alone.

totally agree... couldnt have said it better

 

[fireside]

Can't we all just hit a bong...I mean, get along?

 

[beekman001]

I generally chalk it up to a combination of how little you can actually communicate through a simple text message and John Gabriel's Greater Internet Fuckwad Theory

 

[TheTrish]

I am speaking of the posts, and not necessarily negative or rude things directed toward me personally. I am obviously not the only person who sees this happening.

Hi, bi-boy! Good post. Take a girl on a picnic, get some piece on earth!

T

 

[mydrew1]

Not everyone's a gentleman.

 

[latinoguy19]

i do not like to come onto a board and be verablly attacked---it hurts. especially when it is a moderator, etc. at pcdworld.co.uk's board, the moderation is hell--run by like 17 year olds who get pissy when anyone gets off topic.i put in two posts in spanish and the moderator lost her mind. if ur 17 and have all that time to go crazy on a forum, something is wrong.

i think all boards/forums are getting out of control with their users and moderators

 

[latinoguy19]

i love the pussycat dolls but pcdworld.co.uk is out of control. its honestly disgusting. i hate being on forums that are rude and ill-moderated. here at jub i feel safe. i even am gonna update one of my "issues" becuase i feel safe.

 

[hermanding]

many times these people are exhibiting how lonely and pathetic they are - but that is not something you can cure for them, mikey. and they must long for a response - any response - and they do not deserve i t
ding

 

[TaigaStar]

While there are some exceptionally rude people who seem to take immense pleasure in involving their nasty comments into any discussion, I find this board downright tame. I've said it in the past: go to any forum with some sort of cult following and make a single comment and watch how many people will lock on and attack for anything from the slightest typo and beyond.

 

[latinoguy19]

i feel alot safer here than anywhere else. i am still coming to grips with wanting guys.

 

[weasley]

lol, people are simply showing their true color. the majority of the people in world are bad, that's the way it is. i say the hell with them and move on

 

[UncutAtlanta]

Being honest has it downfalls. I've been reported for being honest about past experiences and my feelings about them.

Be very vague when asked for an honest answer to a contraversial question.

There are many thin skinned people that get offended at the slightest slight.

Enough said.

G