Is it normal/common for a straight guy to lead a gay guy on for months and months?

[Manimal]

Showing him interest, acting as though there is extreme potential there between the two of you? The gay guy thinking he is gay the whole time, and then when he asks him out after well over six months of this same thing, the guy reacts with such hate and anger towards the gay guy.

Is this nomal? Why would a straight guy act like this? And, then throw you away like you're nothing. Have you ever gone through this before?

 

[Toosmarttobehappy]

Hmm...we would need more details, like, did you and the straight dude engage in some type of homosexual activity before you asked him out.Sounds like a crazy question, but odder things have happened.

And, specifically,if it wasn't sex,what was he doing or saying that you felt was leading you on?

 

[Seasoned]

It is possible to confuse friendship for interest. Some of us don't believe a straight guy could ever like us. The thing I'm wondering is why his homophobia was concealed for a full six months. If you're in the closet do some "testing of the waters" next time. Rough trade attraction could be dangerous. Stay safe.

 

[evanrick]

cant say i have, but what does it matter if he straight or gay?
hes reaching out to you in some way, so i wouldn't take his outburst personally, hes just having personal identity conflicts it sounds like.
he may realize later on how rude he was and hopefully apologize so you can be friends again.

 

[62624rd]

Point blank the guy was straight and you thougth that he was gay or bi and made a pass at him, all he wanted was a friend to hang out with. He probaly was checking out your friends to get some insight into your background.

 

[Manimal]

What was he doing? Well...aside from being very sweet, he was always staring at me, following me around, dressing in nice/sexy clothes for me at the gym/clubs, always having to be near me, he would wear the shirts I like best on him, always smiling at me, fixated on me, even with girls around...so, I decided to just take the next step and tell him how I felt. That he was this amazing guy and that I would be so lucky if he were in my life.

 

[Manimal]

cant say i have, but what does it matter if he straight or gay?
hes reaching out to you in some way, so i wouldn't take his outburst personally, hes just having personal identity conflicts it sounds like.
he may realize later on how rude he was and hopefully apologize so you can be friends again.

That would be nice. He's not straight...I know that much. I know he's been with guys.

 

[Manimal]

It is possible to confuse friendship for interest. Some of us don't believe a straight guy could ever like us. The thing I'm wondering is why his homophobia was concealed for a full six months. If you're in the closet do some "testing of the waters" next time. Rough trade attraction could be dangerous. Stay safe.

I'm not in the closet. He knew I was gay too. I thought he was at least bi...at the very least.

 

[Manimal]

Point blank the guy was straight and you thougth that he was gay or bi and made a pass at him, all he wanted was a friend to hang out with. He probaly was checking out your friends to get some insight into your background.

Nope...just me. And, he hit on me...the ball was then my court, but I move like molasses.

 

[joshk]

Well...aside from being very sweet, he was always staring at me, following me around, dressing in nice/sexy clothes for me at the gym/clubs, always having to be near me, he would wear the shirts I like best on him, always smiling at me, fixated on me, even with girls around...so, I decided to just take the next step and tell him how I felt. That he was this amazing guy and that I would be so lucky if he were in my life.

I don't doubt what you've said, but do you see how there might be a different perspective from your side too? Was he dressing for you, or did you see it like that? did he know you liked that shirt best, or was it just the one he wore that day? was he really fixated on you, or did you see it that way?