Is it normal"Straight" friend to say "i got you whipped"

[QuidditchStud]

I've got a couple of straight mates who are like this. They are straight, but very touchy, feely types who just like to get really, eh, physical with their pals. One guy likes to stretch out on the couch and sometimes rests his head on my leg or lap while watching the tv, while another I know always seems to start shower fights after soccer practice by slapping other guys bare arses or giving them a noogie on the head while kissing the top of their brow. And a third I know likes to hug you full body like and kiss you on the cheek, though he is from an Italian family and most men in that background do greet each other in that manner when I am over there.
Personally I think it is great if a straight dude is secure enough in himself to be able to express hi fondness and playful side with his mates without the need of alcohol or fear of being labelled gay. But I understand it can also send very mixed signals to a guy when he has a crush forming and sometimes misinterprets close body contact as a means of a so called straight guy to tell him he is interested in his bi buddy 'that kind of way'.
All I can tell you is that to just play it cool and play it by ear and by all means, do not draw attention to his constant touching and playfulness as it will make him feel weirded out or ashamed and may stop it all together.

 

[none_2362]

What do you hope to accomplish from "acting more straight or showing no interest in him"? Sorry man, don't mean to seem harsh, just trying to help you out; but if he'll fuck 3 girls to get back at you for running off your leash then it sounds like he knows exactly how you feel but is content in stringing you along offering little or nothing in return.

On another note; straight guys who get really chummy, I don't know whether to love them or hate them. This guy I just met and hardly know likes to pat my abs whenever we meet, and my other friend thinks its funny to constantly pinch my nipples and butt. I think they're both kinda cute, which is why they haven't been told to fuck off yet. The trick is just to enjoy these bonding moments for what they are and reciprocate them once in a while with equal indifference. Your buddy loves touching you because it allows him to express his friendship with you without getting sentimental or worrying about social boundaries like he has to do with chicks. You NOT getting complicated deeper feelings for him is why he's comfortable and fond of hanging with you right now.

 

[chastay]

Is it normal to say "when he fucks bitches"? How charming.

According to your profile you are a straight, married man...yet you are on a gay/bi site....asking if something is normal? Go figure. LOL

 

[Candyapple]

According to your profile you are a straight, married man...yet you are on a gay/bi site....asking if something is normal? Go figure. LOL

Do keep up, sweetheart. Yes, I'm straight. Yes, I'm married. I'm also a WOMAN.

 

[chastay]

How Charming. Now THAT is perfectly normal! lol
Glad you are here; real girls always spice things up a bit.

 

[billybob109]

What do you hope to accomplish from "acting more straight or showing no interest in him"? Sorry man, don't mean to seem harsh, just trying to help you out; but if he'll fuck 3 girls to get back at you for running off your leash then it sounds like he knows exactly how you feel but is content in stringing you along offering little or nothing in return...

So remember how i told you that my crush went on vaction with his old best friend (we all live nearby each other). Well his friend bob came back before the kid i like and told me a few stories how they were getting drunk and such.

How one night bob and my crush were partying in the vacation room and a girl that lives nearby bob was actually at the same vacation spot. So the girl went to their room and immediatly jumped on my crush and started to make out with him and fucked him. Now he has had sex with this girl many times before she is like what he said an "acquitance" or aka fuck buddy. I was crushed when i heard this and he comes back tomorrow and i cant wait to hear what he says about his 10 day vacation.. Im going to be so jealous how i could not see him that whole time and how he did not call me once. Im so fucking pissed!

Now i have him all to myself on sat we are going to the city to see a concert and we are getting trashed off a bottle of southern comfort 100 proof 1 litre. How can i win him back during this time. This is my chance if i can not do it this saturday i do not want to speak with him again becusae his whipped leash is hurting me too much.

 

[Candyapple]

How Charming. Now THAT is perfectly normal! lol
Glad you are here; real girls always spice things up a bit.

Thanks, Chastay!
*Checks down front of pink blouse* - yup, I'm definitely a REAL girl.

 

[StlKj]

Now i have him all to myself on sat we are going to the city to see a concert and we are getting trashed off a bottle of southern comfort 100 proof 1 litre. How can i win him back during this time. This is my chance if i can not do it this saturday i do not want to speak with him again becusae his whipped leash is hurting me too much.

"Win him back?" Darlin', you have never had him, not in the way the girl did who screwed him. He's your friend. You've fallen for a friend you desperately want to be bisexual, but you have no proof other than his generally flirtatious nature.

You can get drunk with him, and you might even get some sex out of him in a drunken state, but what will you do after the sex and he doesn't treat you like the love of his life? Is it enough to just have him, but not have him? And here's another thought--we often don't really respect those we can use as doormat. He might enjoy you as a friend, but if he really thinks you're whipped, then he probably looks down on you at least a little--just like the girls he sleeps with and leaves.

I would seriously suggest that you start trying to find someone attainable to put your emotional and sexual energy into. If you stop being whipped and start showing you can actually look out for yourself, he'll either think it's cool and you'll be stronger friends, or he'll wish you were still whipped and adoring him, and he'll move on to someone else who will. Either way, you're not someone else's whipping boy anymore.

 

[Candyapple]

But i have this gut feeling i know i am 98.99% sure that is he gay/bi or curious. It is just this feeling that i have that i can not explain.

Nope, you just WANT him to be gay or bi, so you have a chance with him. I agree completely with Killjoke. You're not going to get anywhere with this guy, at least not in the way you want, and you're putting far too much energy into obsessing over him.
There are plenty of guys out there who'll genuinely be into you. Why don't you go and find one of them instead?

And you should re-consider your attitude to women. I get that you're jealous of the women who fuck your crush, but calling them 'bitches' makes you sound like a total jerk.

 

[buzzj]

Is it normal to say "when he fucks bitches"? How charming.

That sort of expression has no place here or anywhere else. One would think that of all people, gay men would be more senstive to the effects of hateful language.

 

[Inwood]

So remember how i told you that my crush went on vaction with his old best friend (we all live nearby each other). Well his friend bob came back before the kid i like and told me a few stories how they were getting drunk and such.

How one night bob and my crush were partying in the vacation room and a girl that lives nearby bob was actually at the same vacation spot. So the girl went to their room and immediatly jumped on my crush and started to make out with him and fucked him. Now he has had sex with this girl many times before she is like what he said an "acquitance" or aka fuck buddy. I was crushed when i heard this and he comes back tomorrow and i cant wait to hear what he says about his 10 day vacation.. Im going to be so jealous how i could not see him that whole time and how he did not call me once. Im so fucking pissed!

Now i have him all to myself on sat we are going to the city to see a concert and we are getting trashed off a bottle of southern comfort 100 proof 1 litre. How can i win him back during this time. This is my chance if i can not do it this saturday i do not want to speak with him again becusae his whipped leash is hurting me too much.

You're starting to sound like a jealous girlfriend who has been jilted by her lover.

He was never your boyfriend. He's a friend. If he says he's straight and he likes fucking women, you have NO RIGHT to be jealous. The problem is not with him, its with yourself.

Watch the movie Basic Instinct. You're beginning to take your cues from Sharon Stone, darlin.

 

[mabby7]

hmm ... this thread has turned into something different ... lols ...

anyways ... billybob ... i think you've fallen in love with your friend ... and i do think that all those flirty things that he has done to you has totally messed with your emotions ... and your mind ... :-(

i say this because this has happened to me recently ... a friend also was flirtatious and friendly towards me ... and i did fall in love with him ... but he was "straight" ... ugh *sigh* ... sometimes i just hate straight guys ... and them being such a tease ... huhuhuhuhu

 

[spooky]

Hey billybob, why not try making him jealous. Play hard to get... be aloof about your sexuality. etc. Make him want you but don't put to much effort into it... just go about being what you do. In the end... you'll probably realize he really isn't all that worth it.

 

[Candyapple]

Hey billybob, why not try making him jealous. Play hard to get... be aloof about your sexuality. etc. Make him want you but don't put to much effort into it...

Yeah, sure, that's going to work...

 

[OptimalOptimus]

here's my 2cents,

rough housings is a normal guy thing, but he's into you, IF he's not freaking out that your hard when your touvhing then he's turned on by it too. NEXT time he said he needs it bad, invite him to bed, and tell him you want to cuddle, cuddle with him in your arms, IF you get him that far.. making out is the next STEP.IF you get past the making out point then sex is next. BUt don't rush to sex, Dont' rush to get naked, cuddlign and heavy petting might be the limit fo rthis first round. Get him hard. arouse him. see if you get what you want then. Peace.

 

[billybob109]

He is not the cuddling type i can tell. Anyway he got back from vacation and he said that he slept with his old girlfriend 3 nights out of the 10 days. That one night he was fucking her so hard that the people in the next hotel room had to come over and knock on the door to keep it down! I could only imagine how good of a fuck he would be. The thing is i noticed he has to be drunk to have sex with a girl.. Could this be some kind of clue? He even said his first time he was drunk. He has slept with way to many women for his age, they flock to him! yes he is that hot but i like him for his personallity.
I think playing hard to get will get me no where because i dont think he wants me to begin with. The only thing that could happen between us is that i could jerk him off or blow him when he is drunk and horny. I dont think he would ever reciprocate anything back to me.
(And no im not from the south already! Im from ny the name is just a joke.)

 

[slobone]

You need to forget about labels and start thinking about his dick that he sticks in your face when you "wrestle"!

First of all, since when do grown guys wrestle? Especially when one of them has already told the other one he's bisexual and the other guy says he doesn't care!

Next time he does that, put your hand up and give it a big old squeeze. Am I going to have to come up there and bitch-slap you?

 

[mabby7]

You need to forget about labels and start thinking about his dick that he sticks in your face when you "wrestle"!

First of all, since when do grown guys wrestle? Especially when one of them has already told the other one he's bisexual and the other guy says he doesn't care!

Next time he does that, put your hand up and give it a big old squeeze. Am I going to have to come up there and bitch-slap you?

... maybe just have fun with him ... don't take him too seriously ... lols ... i guess do those things that he does to you back ...

 

[spooky]

Yeah, sure, that's going to work...

I didn't say it would work... infact I never slapped any kind of guarantee of approval it would work. I was just getting into the spirit of things, but since you are the voice of reason around here let's see what else you have to say.

 

[Candyapple]

The thing is i noticed he has to be drunk to have sex with a girl.. Could this be some kind of clue? He even said his first time he was drunk. He has slept with way to many women for his age, they flock to him! yes he is that hot but i like him for his personallity.
I think playing hard to get will get me no where because i dont think he wants me to begin with. The only thing that could happen between us is that i could jerk him off or blow him when he is drunk and horny. I dont think he would ever reciprocate anything back to me

And what do you think is 'way too many women'??? Is there some kind of magic number that's acceptable? And surely the fact that he's had sex with lots of women means that, you know, he actually really LIKES women?

LOTS of people only or mostly have sex when they're drunk, that means nothing.

Your post is very confusing to me. First, you seem to be trying to convince yourself that the fact your friend has sex with lots of women actually means that he's not straight. Then you admit that he doesn't really want you anyway.

What exactly do you want from this man? Why do you keep posting about him? As I said upthread, why don't you go and find a man **who really wants you**? There's plenty of them out there!