is it racism? - lets discuss

[nickscotti]

I have a friend exactly like that. He's white and he's only attracted to other white guys. And a straight friend who was only attracted to other white women, it's not racist necessarily maybe that's just what they're used to.

 

[sentirpromesas]

it isnt racist per-se, however, the underlying mechanism to his/her attraction is racism, in part. We cant separate ourselves from society and cultural norms...in most cases, white blue/green eyed is the ideal form of beauty, therefore (even without our knowledge) we find people with those attributes to be beautiful...same goes with minorities who date exclusively within those groups...since that group has different notion of beauty, they will find people who best fit that notion...its not racist exactly...however, there IS a sense of implicit racism operating here which is the hardest to combat because NO ONE wants to think who they are sexually attracted to is somehow affected by racism

 

[pizzaprof]

How does finding some races more sexually desirable than others escape the definition of "racism"?

 

[Apollo]

. I've known asian's, indian's, negro's etc who aren't sexually attract to people outside their own race.

 

[pizzaprof]

Its a preference pizzaprof. Just like whether you like blue pants or brown..


Oh god that is gonna hit me in the head. I know what I mean though.

Is that supposed to be an answer in the negative? I know it's a preference. A racial preference. Racial preferences are by definition racist.

 

[G-Lexington]

I'm with Ger here.

If a guy really has no qualms with other races, can interact with them without any problem, and is simply turned on by one particular race, I wouldn't perceive that person as "racist".

If he were shown a photo of a guy of a different race and told, "Would you date this man?"...

...if his thought was something like "No, because he's not my race", then yes, that'd be racist.

...if his thought was something like "Enh, he really doesn't do anything for me", then no, it wouldn't be racist.

Of course, as pizzaprof argues, the dictionary definiton of "racist" involves ANYTHING to do with race. If you prefer one race over another, you are, by definition, racist. Exactly the same as if you find one guy hot and another one not so hot, you're taking part in "discriminatory activities". But I'm trying to leave the area of the dictionary, and head towards the negative connotations that both "racist" and "discriminatory" have taken on.

Lex

 

[Apollo]

I'm an aussie I went to say Aboriginies.. but I figured no one would know what I meant.

no its ok. it's just that, no one has called a black person negro in YEARS. it was caught me off guard when i saw the word. I laughed my ass off lol. but its cool

 

[Orlandude]

I too believe it is personal preference and not a race issue. I grew up in an environment where race was unimportant so I don't see "color", I see people. I am physically attracted to some of them and some I am not. I am white and there are plenty of white guys who do nothing for me physically and, I'm sure, vice versa. That doesn't make me prejudiced against white guys.

I too know people who will not date people of color because they are not physically attracted to them. I also know people who are blatantly racist, no matter the color. They will only see people of their own race. I'm never sure if they are really racist or simply very close-minded.

 

[pizzaprof]

Exactly the same as if you find one guy hot and another one not so hot, you're taking part in "discriminatory activities".

Don't put words in my mouth to make me sound silly. I never said anything like that.

 

[Shepherd 2]

No it is not racism. Racism is an intentional action meant to demean or express bigotry,hatred, or act of discrimination toward people of a different race. In fact there is no scientific definition, since it is an expressed social action.
Shep+

 

[LaloGS]

I have a Colombian (Hispanic) friend who is only attracted to black men. He has had both Hispanic and Caucasian partners in the past, but now is in a relationship with a black partner, and says he prefers it over all his previous experiences. Racist? probably not. Perhaps it's just hard wiring in the pleasure centers of the brain.

 

[Apollo]

i didnt' know what to call em though. What am I suppose to call em these days.

just call them black people. other people like to call us African Americans, but not all of us are american (i am) and its too proper.

 

[pizzaprof]

just call them black people. other people like to call us African Americans, but not all of us are american (i am) and its too proper.

He wasn't talking about black people, he was talking about aborigines. He thought we'd be too ignorant on this board to know who they are, so he called them something else entirely.
He's not very bright, you see.

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>Don't put words in my mouth to make me sound silly. I never said anything like that.

You're right. I did put words in your mouth. But I'll stand by my statement that finding one guy attractive and one guy not attractive IS engaging in "discriminatory activities". Dictionary definition of "discriminatory":

1. Marked by or showing prejudice; biased.
2. Making distinctions.

"I find him attractive, but don't find the other guy attractive." That's making distinctions, thus, engaging in discriminatory activities.

Lex

 

[jo272wv]

Choosing a mate or sexual partner has always been and will always be based on discrimination not racism. Think about it. When seeing a possible mate, do you not eliminate the ones that are not in your desired age group? your desired weight group? are not cute? have a smaller penis then you want? the list of who we do not date based on physical and personality traits go on and on. Racism is based on emotion only, you do not want to associate at all with that person because of the color of his skin, ancestry, and so on. It dose not make you racist because you do not want to sleep with someone of another race, nor should you be expected to be non discriminatory in who you consider a mate. This is expected behavior.... dont worry, be happy.

 

[Apollo]

He wasn't talking about black people, he was talking about aborigines. He thought we'd be too ignorant on this board to know who they are, so he called them something else entirely.
He's not very bright, you see.

i know what he was talking about lol, but just saying, all around the world people of african decent are simply black people. lol

 

[Apollo]

See that was my problem. I wasn't sure what the term was. Right got it. African American it is.

NOOOO you totally didnt get it. i said BLACK PEOPLE!!!!!

 

[rareboy]

No. Period. As someone noted, it is how one relates to others non-sexually.

Everyone has a physical type they are most attracted to....for a lot of different reasons.

Please don't let this degenerate into an hysterical and unpleasant discussion based on perceived, versus actual racism.